What do you do when you have a hard time forgiving someone?

Answer 1

It may sound cony but this helps me. I close my eyesand i picture myself handing that person to the lord. Iturn and leave. Just doing it in a visual way works for me.

Answer 2

Although it is difficult to do, you have to come at it from the other person's point of view. That is hard when you can't understand why someone would possibly even want to do certain offenses. If you pray to see things from the other person's point of view, more often than not there will come a situation into your life that will help you see what kind of thing is going on in the other person's mind. Sometimes it takes years to totally forgive someone, but you can ask God to take away whatever hurt feelings you have so you can go on with life and not let it ruin your sense of well-being.

Answer 3

Well, in the beginning of my unforgiveness (regardless of the situation) I tend to be stubborn and self-righteous. I stomp around and tend to not want to read my Bible because I know that I'll soon feel the conviction of the Holy Spirit.

When conviction hits me and even times when it hasn't, I ask God to help me forgive because I'm certainly not feeling like it. That's when I'm reminded with such clarity that forgiveness is NOT about a feeling, it's a choice, a decision to be made. Then I CHOOSE to forgive. It doesn't mean I've reached a point where I'm ready to reconcile but I am able to forgive. For how wicked am I if I refuse to forgive someone when my Father in Heaven has so freely forgiven me of much greater trespass?! Blessings.

Answer 4

Been there and done that. It's tough ,but I found a way to make it easier for me. I just remember that it isn't the person hurting me, BUT, the devil living in that person. Then I remember how many people I hurt before I became a true believer, and afterwards I couldn't believe I could have done some of the things I did. I wasn't a bad person, but ,I sure had a temper and I did take revenge if I was hurt. So I know it wasn't really me but the devil in me. So I can forgive people now for that reason. Jesus was tortured, beaten. mocked, and hung on a cross--------Yet what did He say? " Forgive them Father for they know not what they do" So if Jesus can forgive after all He went thru who am I to hold grudges? I ask God to take the feeling away if I have to pray it 100 times. If the feeling comes to me I pray iot away and before long it's gone. But do it in Jesus name. Hope this is helpful. I'm gone for now

Answer 5

When you have a hard time "forgiving" someone you

Bury the Hatchet.
(But not before using it.)

Unleash whatever is in you.
Be it Wrath, frustration, Sadness, Whatever.
Only then will you be able to move on.

And there are many ways of doing this without harming Anyone.

This would be my approach:
Be Honest with Yourself & this Individual you cannot "forgive".
Lay everything out on the table.
Be truthful. Honest.
Hold nothing back.
Write about it, talk about it, think about it.
Do this until it makes you sick.
Not of the person but the very problem.
once you know the source of the problem it's easy to dispel it.

Answer 6

You forgive the people for yourself... you will begin to feel better... it might not make a difference to that person ... but it will you... I know it can be hard to do..... but just do it for you and your life...God will forgive us if we forgive them.... I would rather have God on my side.... than to have hard feelings with someone who may not care anyway..we have a hard time because we a humans.... it take a very big person to say I forgive you.... Let God take care of that person and you just enjoy your rewards from God for doing the right thing... God Bless You!!!

Answer 7

It is not my job to forgive. We ask God for forgiveness. It is my job to not put myself in a situation or position that requires I forgive someone else.

Answer 8

A man left the Mosque after Mohammad finished his sermon. Mohammad SAW said to those present, the man who just left will get to enter in Heaven.

Next evening when same person left Mohammad SAW agains said that the person just left will get to enter in Heaven.

A companion of Mohammad SAW went to this man and asked what you do special that will make you enter in Heaven as Prophet said today about you that you will enter in Heaven. He couldn't think of any thing special. After thinking for some time finally he said, before I go to bed every night, I pray to God asking Him to clear my heart from the anger or resentment I hold aginst the one who treats me unfairly or says something that hurt my feelings. And next day I don't even remember what the other person did to me. Allah erases his thoughts from my mind.

Prophet Mohammad SAW said, those who can not forgive others can not expect God forgive him too.

Answer 9

Pray for them. Also, sometimes if I go out of my way to do/say something nice. It makes me feel better. Plus, it just may make them think about the wrong they have done to me. But whether or not I like it. I just pray for God's help to forgive,then do it. He said I have to.

Answer 10

I know I'll get slammed for this, but sometimes forgiveness is not an option on the table.

Answer 11

Realise that unforgiveness is like trying to kill someone by drinking poison.

Unforgiveness really does only hurt yourself its almost like allowing the hurt to take over your life and thoughts.

Unforgiveness DOES not mean that you agree with whatever they did, but that you let go of it.

Blessings!