what are all the negative effects of birth controll pills/shot/ect?

Question

my dad's gf is thinking about telling my dad to put me on BC.
the thing is im not having sex!!!!!!!!
brief of our convo:

her: i saw you and jorden blah blah.... think about birth control
me: no, i dont need it, not having sex
her: well its gonna happen & you're not gonna plan it. its just 'gonna happen' and if you arent protected ur just gonna be like oh sh**
me: BC increases my chances of getting and STD! i could die!
her: then use a condom too [[[here i decide not to mention that condoms dont protect against all STD's]]]

yeah anyway, i need as much info as i can get tht can convince her and my dad that BC is bad for me. plus im highly highly afraid of doctors and medicine.
im Christian, and am not planning on having sex anytime soon anyway, but she assumes i am gonna. grrrr pisses me off!!!!!!

AHEM i know for a FACT that the BC does increase your risk of getting an STD and it has long term effects as well. its makes it harder for women to pregnat even after they are off.

and how is increasing my cup size a benefit?
honestly, dont try to appeal to me by saying it will make me prettier or somthin. im fine with my cup size thank you very much.
and i dont think BC is immoral. im afraid of docs and pills. that has nothing to do with my spiritual beleifs.
i want the NEGATIVE effects. not how it could help me. i DONT want to go on the pill!

Answer 1

there are many benefits of BC like regular periods, decrease in cramps and menstrual pain, decreased days of bleeding, and no mittelschmerz (mid cycle ovarian pain).....
I started on BC because I used to get my period twice a month, and my mittelschmerz was soo painful I couldn't walk.
any ways here's what i know about BC:
~depo shot: causes weight gain and sometimes Osteoporosis.
~the patch: can cause blood clots (in fact any BC increases chances of blood clots)
~pills: high dosages of the hormone, meaning mood swings, possible weight gain, and sometimes forgetting a pill or two thus causing the BC not to work at all.
~The ring (this is what i use and strongly recommend): lowest dosage of the hormone (b/c it gives off spurts every few hours) no daily things to remember... however, you have to be comfortable with putting it in taking it out by yourself, which most young girls are not comfortable with.

*my other advice if you are dead set against going on BC..... let him buy you the pill and then just don't take it!

Answer 2

There are other benefits of the pill than just protection against pregnancy. It does not increase your chance of STDs, that is a rumor. You don't sound old enough to take in the benefits and actually consider it. And that's even if you take it right. It will regulate your period, keep it lighter and shorter, and will lessen cramps. Also it does make you gain a little weight, but it can increase your cup size as well. And no, birth control is not particularly bad for you. Sometimes you can get ovarian cysts, though. But don't think that being on the pill is immoral or anything. Some women actually need it. But she can't force that upon you.

Answer 3

Birth control does not increase your chances of getting an STD.
There are VERY few STDs from which you could die. HIV/AIDS is one of the very few, and it's actually VERY hard to get through normal vaginal intercourse.

That's not to say that STDs aren't bad, of course. Some will stay with you for the rest of your life. Some can cause sterility, etc.

Condoms are some of the best protection against STDs, but you're right, they don't protect against ALL STDs (like some strains of herpes and genital warts).
(You sound like someone who's gotten abstanence-only sex ed... interesting.)

Birth control is a hormonal treatment -- it has been linked to increases in certain types of cancer (yet decreases in other types of cancers) especially when the person taking it smokes or takes it for many many years. Like all medications, it can have side effects, but they can also be positive (bc can reduce your period and cramps, and regulate your period if necessary).


The problem here isn't convincing your dad's gf that birth control isn't safe, because, well, it pretty much is. The problem is that your dad's gf doesnt' TRUST you to take control of your own body. Instead of saying that BC is harmful to you, say this:

Dad's GF (and Dad):
I know that you see me with my boyfriend, and you may think sex is an inevitability. But please know that, for me right now, I am not ready for sex, and I will not have sex before marriage. Jorden knows this and respects my wishes. Please believe that I have control over my hormones, and do make responsible, knowledgeable choices about intimacy. I hope that you both trust me enough to know that I have this control over my body, and Jorden has not nor cannot convince me otherwise.

I know you're only trying to look out for my best interest to avoid an unwanted pregnancy, but I remain committed to being a virgin until I'm married (or at least until I leave high school). I promise that, if my feelings ever change, I will tell you right away and we can discuss birth control options then. As well, if it will make you feel better, I will carry condoms with me in my purse every time I go out with Jorden so if there's ever a time where "it's gonna happen," or where he tries to coerce or force me, we will have at least one method of birth control available.

Fair enough?


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If you want to be treated like an adult, you have to act like an adult.

Answer 4

There is no point in taking birth control pills unless you want to have sex or thinking about having it, unless you have infrequent periods or horrible cramps which birth control pills may give your period a more exact schedule and less frequent aches and pains, and some can even clear up acting as they act to balance hormones.
Your dad's gf wasn't wrong to suggest that, she's concerned for you and was looking to help you, and birth control pills aren't bad. I'm on them. I take them everyday, same time...and everything is fine. I'm 19, in a serious commited relationship of two years with a person I love and I just wanted to protect myself and my bf from a possible mistake happening. Yes, you should also wear a condom when you're taking the pill, expecially if you don't know the other person sexual history and simply want to protect yourself. And condoms do protect from almost all stds unless unproperly applied.
Birth control pill have effects, as with all pills and will effect your body, some are great for you, some are not...when you are thinking about that, talk to a doctor, you shouldn't be afraid of them. They are here to help and answer questions, not to torture you. Birth control has no serious effects unless you have serious health issues, heart conditions, obesity, etc and many women take them, some to protect for pregnancies, others just to regulate their periods, and many other reasons.
Read up on it if you are ever ready to and just tell your parents that you're not ready for that yet, but when you think of having sex then you will come to them.

Answer 5

I take birth control pills and there are many health risks. The reason I take it is to stabilize my periods. Not to prevent getting pregnant. If you are not having sex. You shouldn't take it. If it weren't for the excess bleeding I have during that time of the month. That the problem had gotten so bad I couldn't leave my home. I wouldn't take the pill. The risk are many. Sometimes when I don't feel well or have pain I think it's do to the pill. Speak to your father yourself. Tell him your point of view on the whole subject. Tell him you resent having to take something against your will. That you do not want to take the risks that go along with the pill. Especially because you are not having sex.

Answer 6

I dont know of any bad effects, except some ppl gain a bit of weight, but if you are positive that you will not have sex, be adament and tell her tht it is against your beleifs, and that you are insulted that she thinks that you will forget your morals so quickly. She can not force you to go on the pill

Answer 7

there are many side effects and having said that you MUST consult a doctor and maybe have a few tries to get the best mix of hormones to leave you protected and with minimal side effects ---- yes to begin with always use a condom anyway --- there may be benefits as well to using the pill --- again consult with your doctor

Answer 8

I would just completely take her out of the equation... Talk to your dad. Chances are that he will trust your judgement more than his gf, you are his daughter he has to.... BC sucks... the pill makes you gain weight dont do that one....