They don't want me to arrive home after midnight and when I do, they try to punish me (locking me out of the house, threatening to stop supporting me with school, etc.) I'm completely sober and they know this, but they just refuse to allow me to grow.
2007-11-26 10:53:17 · 17 answers · asked by Hello There 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
For parents, children grow up shockingly fast, and sometimes the way parents see their kids lags a long way behind reality. For your age, your parents are being unreasonable - most people on here of all ages will agree with that. How to change that situation? Go stay with a friend now and again, which at least will allow you to get in late without your parents being upset.
They must understand that being over-protective can quickly breed resent - and as time goes on you will REALLY begin to resent it because of your age.
Challenge them politely and ask them to articulate EXACTLY what it is that they are afraid of. What they should be more concerned about is knowing that you are somewhere safe with safe people. What time you get home, or even IF you get home before dawn, is much less important than whether you're safe or not.
2007-11-26 11:21:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe spend the nights elsewhere, and only visit them during the day. Now as far as them supporting you with school, that stops at the end of the semester. That's one of the things they are controlling you with. Next term you get to do the grants and loan thing, and they do have loans that don't need parental signatures. You can also work some and live on campus with a roommate. Or off campus with a roommate.
But when you are at someone's house, you have to follow their rules, be it your parents or anyone else's. Show them you are quite mature by following the rules. Or stay elsewhere, but do it with your own funds.
2007-11-26 11:16:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
even though i'm valuable its slightly diverse for females then adult males, i havn't had a curfew on account that i became into 18. i think of your mothers and dads love you alot and are only doing the common overprotective be certain ingredient, and it would not help your a woman. the ingredient is you're 20 and you will desire to no longer have a curfew. in the experience that your mothers and dads are having a challenge with you staying out previous due assure them that they have got put in sturdy sense in you and which you have a competent head on your shoulders. they're going to the two be responsive or only allow you to comprehend which you dont comprehend what your conversing approximately. so in the event that they allow you to comprehend you dont comprehend what your conversing approximately attempt to return to a midsection of the line with them. you're 20 and an person you will desire to no longer have a curfew and you will desire to be allowed to circulate bowling, yet whilst they're slightly nervous approximately all of it, call them alot whilst your out, enable them to comprehend the place your going, enable them to comprehend once you're on your way abode, do in spite of they want you to so which you are able to have your independence. Your going into your junior 12 months of school, your graduating quickly, and your turning 21 quickly, they should relax. only take toddler steps with them, mothers and dads could be so overbarring at circumstances
2016-11-12 21:07:44 · answer #3 · answered by monsalvatge 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you stay at their house w/o paying rent, you have to abide by their rules, however ridiculous they may seem.
If you don't like it -- get a job and establish a residence elsewhere.
By the way, a substantial number of parents will always see their children as "children." Even when their children are 50 y/o grown-ups. Their attitude doesn't change over time.
2007-11-26 11:01:42 · answer #4 · answered by LuckyLavs 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off,ask yourself this.Does it interrupt your parents schedule's when you do get to come home?I know I am a light sleeper,and if my kids were away at school and came home in the middle of the night,it would keep me awake the rest ofthe night.Is there any excuse for coming in late?Or are you just hanging with friends?That could be a big source of the problem.If you are coming home to visit with them,they want to be awake to visit.As we get older,it is harder for us to stay awake in the middle of the night,and we get cranky if we don't get our beauty sleep.Next time,try coming home on Saturday morning if that is an option.If your coming in late because of a late class,tell your parents.They understand that college is difficult,but realize as well that they have a life too.
2007-11-26 11:15:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move out and learn to take care of yourself.
Teach them a lesson about what a big mature girl you are.
Let's see.
Who pays for college?
Who buys your school supplies?
Who gives you spending money on a regular basis?
Where do you stay when you're on spring break?
Hmmmmmmm?
Did we forget all that?
Don't worry about all that.
Who needs em.
You don't need their stupid money.
Next time you're on spring break go out and rent your own apartment. That will teach them.
Start paying your own bills.
Start paying your own college tuition.
Teach your parents a lesson.
Go out and show them you're a big girl and don't need to put up with their stupid rules.
2007-11-26 11:05:36 · answer #6 · answered by hoovarted 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you are living is your parent(s) or a relatives' home, you have to know that no matter how old you are, you have to live by the home owners rules.
So i suggest you talk to your parents and come up with a reasonable curfew time, and stick to that.
Good Luck!
-Taylor
2007-11-26 10:58:15 · answer #7 · answered by taylor8423 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its called respect ... its their house and their rules , i understand you are 20 but yet you know their house rules , maybe you could sit them down and talk to them and explain that you just want to hang out with friends ..if that dont work i guess they have curfew over your head since they are footing the bill for your education ... good luck...
2007-11-26 11:22:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as they are giving you money for anything, they will feel the right to make the rules for you too. When you are completely self-supporting, you'll be grown up.
2007-11-26 10:57:53 · answer #9 · answered by 2bzy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, u have to sit down and have a sincere conversation with them, I personally think that some one of your age can do basically what they want without there parents punishing them, or you should get your own apartment, but i suggest u talk with your parents first
2007-11-26 10:57:53 · answer #10 · answered by Mike C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋