say you have a 6 yr old son and he is completely out of control and has no respect for anything. would you still buy him gifts for christmas or buy nothing because he refuses to behave?
2007-11-26 10:52:00 · 18 answers · asked by deejay 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Well, of course you would. Beyond all of the behavioral issues, he's still a child. And right after Christmas, Mommy needs to talk to someone about how to help him with his behavioral issues so she doesn't keep losing her mind!
Good luck.
2007-11-26 10:58:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Well, no offense if you're in this situation but if I had a completely out of control six year old I wouldn't get myself any gifts for Christmas. Kids behave not out of bribery but out of respect. If he didn't respect me I'd look at myself and wonder why. Obviously, there is an issue with the parent not the child if the kid is undisciplined enough to be 'out of control.' So, yes, I'd buy the six year old gifts. I'd also do myself a favor and ask for a few parenting books for Christmas.
2007-11-26 11:55:26 · answer #2 · answered by .vato. 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should definitely buy Christmas presents; especially at this age. It's Christmas, could you imagine how devastated he would be if he didn't get anything for Christmas. I have a 6 year old son, and I would never do that! It's just too cruel of a punishment. Punish the bad behavior when it happens, and try to find ways to help him on his behavior, but don't take away his Christmas.
2007-11-26 10:58:18 · answer #3 · answered by me_ 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
How about give the imaginary friends imaginary toys. Real kids get real toys. It should be a simple enough concept for a child to grasp. If you don't want to buy gifts, just try this and stick to it. It's ok to tell kids no, he'll get over it.
2016-04-05 23:43:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, because he is only 6. Obviously the strategies the parents are using aren't working and they need to change.
Here's a tip, though, while he still believes in Santa - tell him that Santa brings coal for naughty children and he is watching (my son firmly believes he has CCTV cameras in all the lights!). When you are filling his stocking, make sure you put a small lump of coal in the bottom, maybe with a note tied to it. Might just work!
2007-11-26 10:59:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I'd buy him Christmas gifts, but I would question myself as a parent as to why he is out of control and won't listen.
2007-11-26 12:58:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is your son then yes you can't withhold Christmas...well you can but it seems cruel to me.
Besides if his behavior is that out of control, ONE day's worth of punishments won't do much.
There is a greater underlying root problem that needs to be tackled.
Have a good, happy family Christmas, then start getting to the root of the problem.
Good Luck
2007-11-26 10:56:26 · answer #7 · answered by moonshadow418 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I tell my son that Santa is watching RIGHT NOW. He needs some behavior modifications for sure from your previous questions about this child. Don't tell him he is Bad, tell him that it is bad behavior what he is doing to your things by breaking them and throwing them. As I said in your previous question take him to a child psychologist and see what is going on with him. This isn't your child. You need to say that it isn't ok for him to break things of yours nor hit you.
What you could do is get a calendar and check off anything that he had been told to do in a positive manner. Like pick up his things and toys or whatever. Without putting up a fuss nor being told. Write anything that he does in positive, like behaving in the store, picking up toys, not hitting, behaving well and respectful, the list goes on and on. Try different techniques. TRY and get his parents into this as well. Don't belittle him please. Try and get through this as much as you can. Praise him when he does well. Please don't say you don't like him. His esteem will be affected.
If my son was like that, then he probably won't get toys at all, but a stocking full of things, A present from ME. Keep SAYING SANTA IS WATCHING with ALL EYES.
2007-11-26 11:02:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
I think it depends on the child. My nieces and nephews are out of control and tear up everything. However this is not their fault as they have not been taught. If a child has been taught all its life to respect things and doesn't then withholding is fine but when they have no clue they are doing anything wrong b/c their "parent" hasn't taught them it isn't really the kids fault.
2007-11-26 10:56:30 · answer #9 · answered by billie b 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think that parenting classes and some sort of interventions may be necessary. However, I would never deny my child Christmas presents- that shows that love and acceptance is conditional. I truly think that would be quite cruel.
2007-11-26 16:54:20 · answer #10 · answered by StrawberryMama 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋