im in love with a 40 year older man?

Question

there's a men fell for his going to be 58 married and im 18
i used to like teachers when i was in elementary school and i liked about 4 or more guys in my age
basically i fell for way older men than me
i like charismatic appearance and great sense of humour and superior intelligence
well i don't look forward to appearance that much it seems that intelligent people come with the strong look anyways
i also like older professors because they're intelligent
the guy im obsessed with is a well experienced surgeon and he has attractive eyes and attractive overall, you know what i mean
am i weird for asking this question?
i need to know if there's something wrong with me
11 minutes ago - 3 days left to answer.
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10 minutes ago

i become obsessed with any guy that i find attractive and be obsessived for a while regardless of age
1 minute ago

i grew up in a warm, stable environment of loving family and have a great, humourous father
0 seconds ago

is it bcuz i got hit n scorned by mom wen i was around 4?
3 hours ago - 3 days left to answer.
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3 hours ago

i keep this things only to myself n u guys
im intelligent enough not to create any catastrophes
i just fantasize them, but in reality im awfully afraid to marry or date a man who has a 5 year or more any difference with me
this set age difference for my future man might change, however there is a definite and infinate line between reality and dream
3 hours ago

im not looking 4 protection or anything i just find this guy super attractive

he's married

getting hit and scorned by mom is an issue is created these crushes?

Answer 1

as a (nearly 55) year old man that fell for a younger lady all i can say is as long as there is genuine caring and he is not looking for a trophy partner then enjoy the relationship ---- my lady is fed up with younger guys and their immaturity and i can only hope that i dont disappoint her --- best wishes

Answer 2

There isn't anything wrong with wanting to or having a relationship with someone regardless of the age difference (unless you or he is a minor which is not the case here). Studies have shown that couples with age differences of at least 10 years or more between the partners, tend to lead longer lives together and are happier. Go for it if you want it. Forget about the masses because no matter where you go or what you do, someone will always have a problem with how you do things. The important thing is for you to make YOURSELF happy.

Answer 3

My feeling is that you urgently need to speak to a counselor about this issue - if you vent about it to someone who has absolute confidentiality, that will ease the burden of these thoughts considerably.

Get yourself a good counselor and you will be able to work through these feelings and other issues related to your upbringing/family - which is the likely origin of these slightly unusual crushes you have.

Good luck :)

Answer 4

i dont think theres anything wrong with u