impaired father from annoying me???? hes constantly doing things that defy the imagination,hes loosing household items,hes in my face 24/7 .im forbidden from getting an aide by my brother,his reason for this is because i m with him.when i feed him,i put the food in front of him and he turns around and dumps it in the garbage pail! ive had just about enough of daddys doins and i feel like jumping out of my skin! what do i do next????
2007-11-26 10:40:13 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
you want to know something,im so besides myself im thinking of blowing myself away,i need a vacation and if i mention this to anyone i get the same 10 word sentence"WHO IS GOING TO TAKE CARE OF YOUR FATHER"? then realikty hits me in the face!
2007-11-26 11:18:36 · update #1
It sounds as if your father is suffering from Dementia or Alzheimers. I used to work in a nursing home. This is how the Alzheimers residents were.
First of all, tell our brother that if he doesn't want you to get an aide, then he has to come and take care of him. I think I remember you said your brother is an attorney or a Dr.
You cannot keep this up. If he doesn't want to help, please contact Social Services. You need to tell you brother this.
For you and your fathers safety and for our sanity, this is a must.
If he has violent outbursts, I would call 911. If the police get involved, they will contact Social Services.
I pray there are not guns or knives in the house that your father could get hold of. He doesn't realize what he is doing.
Please get some help and I will be thinking of you.
Kelli
2007-11-26 11:11:10 · answer #1 · answered by kellistines 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm really sorry to hear that! By the way, what gives your brother the right to "forbid" you to do anything? Not only that, but does your brother spend as much time taking care of your dad as you do? For some reason, I suspect he doesn't. Tell your brother that if he doesn't want you to hire an aide, he'd better be prepared to take on an equal amount of responsibility for your dad. I'm sure you care for your dad, but you have the right to look out for your own well-being, as well!
2007-11-26 18:51:55 · answer #2 · answered by tangerine 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may need to call APS Adult Protective Services. This happens all the time and family is not able to intervene like a trained social worker. Sometimes they like the social worker comes visit them & checks on them, more than their own kids. It is an anonymous intake, FYI, and someone comes out to assess his needs. Especially good to report: not taking his meds, refusing care, at harm to others & self, wanders, won't eat, hallucinations, etc.
2007-11-26 18:47:19 · answer #3 · answered by lovelysmurf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard work being a Carer.
It sounds like you may need a holiday.
Take Care my Friend.
2007-11-28 08:19:51 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aww leave the poor guy alone. Ig you cant take care of him take him to a nursing home
2007-11-26 18:47:52 · answer #5 · answered by nevershoutbecky! 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
HOW CAN your brother forbid you ???YOU'RE the one w/him!! do what's best for all concerned. as already suggested,get help..what good is it if you get sick,from all of the stress ?? get the needed help.why is your brother controling you.??
2007-11-26 19:04:35 · answer #6 · answered by grnnnta 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋