There has been differerent answers to 2 different questions.
1) Some people are saying that there is nothing wrong with waiting until u have found the right one before u have sex.
2) Some people are saying that u should go ahead and give it up and see what it is like with that person before u find that special one.
How can u say that it is alright to be a virgin and wait for that special one for that to be special with and that is respectable.Yet say that u should go ahead and get it over with to see if ur good with this person?:
2007-11-26 10:11:28 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Listen to your instincts. Don't be pushed into anything. Make sure you're ready. Use protection.
The best thing to do is really just to do what feels right to you. It's a private issue, there is nothing wrong with doing it, there is nothing wrong with waiting. It's all about what's right for you & your partner at the time.
2007-11-26 10:19:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Firstly I always say, it is your body and your heart, so treat it well and be its only master or mistress.
OK now onto the pro's and cons as I see it.
Waiting can make it very special for you and your partner. After all all good things come to those that wait!
However as a sexual Counselor I have seen many a good relationship ruined by people not being honest in their sexual desires and feelings and discovering what they though they wanted isn't what they have.
Look at it like this, would you buy a car and take your test in it without any lessons?!
On the flip side, having sex before hand can turn a loving relationship into something based much more on lust. There are STD's and pregnancy to consider too.
But on a positive side, you learn how to expressed your love in a beautiful unique way and get better at it with practice. And the truth is, good loving sex is a hell of a lot of fun!
This will likely get me flack from some on here, but I say this.
Don't decide for God, or your friends. perhaps not even for your partner. Decide what is best for YOU. How does sex now make you feel? How does waiting until later make you feel? Only you truly know.
There is no rush. Examine the pros and cons and then do what feels best to you.
I hope that you have a wonderful time, whenever you decide on an active sex life. Good luck.
2007-11-26 18:31:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are patient enough to find the person that is truly "the one, then you will love your significant other enough to take the time and learn what is sexually satisfying for the both of you. To make the decision to have sex or to wait is a personal decision. You should not permit your peers or your potential significant other to pressure you. If you permit yourself to be pressured into sex, then the question want be "did your significant other or your peers lose respect for you" but if you made the wrong decision and lost some respect for yourself.
Really think long and hard. If you are a person that values loyalty and has the potential to be devastated by someone who disappoints you, then you should wait. Especially if you are a virgin. However, if you know that you are mature enough to handle all the pitfalls of a relationships, then you maybe ready to take the next step. Make sure you think it though completely before you become sexually active. Please, Please, Please protect your heart and yourself from venereal diseases when you do have sex!!!
I hope this helps, take care
2007-11-26 19:07:32 · answer #3 · answered by sweet_temptress_05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally...
I believe in waiting. Still haven't given' it up, but then the right lady hasn't come into my life yet...although that first girlfriend, had we met 10 years later, I might be married happily with a dozen kids! :D Mind you, there were about half a dozen girls who if they'd walked up and said "lets have sex...now!" I probably would have gone with them, but then they didn't, and I like to think it's because they have class. ;)
Casual sex leads more likely to an unmarried mother, STDs and a lot of walking wounded on both sides of the issue...more than the other option. :(
However, when you find that "perfect person," there's no need to wait for a minister to "sanctify" the union. ;)
2007-11-26 18:25:13 · answer #4 · answered by jcurrieii 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ask other people.
Do what you want to do, at the time.
If you meet someone that you really fancy, you will know what feels right for you.
Trust your own instinct and don't worry about what other people think!
If you don't feel comfortable, then don't do it!
Listen to Kate B.
2007-11-26 18:22:22 · answer #5 · answered by dawleymouse 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Before you have sex you should be able to answer these questions
Do YOU feel ready?
Do YOU have birth control?
Has your partner been tested?
Do you trust your partner?
If you can answer yes to all of the above you are ready.
2007-11-26 18:18:03 · answer #6 · answered by YEAH!!!! 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should always be true to God before anything else. Yes, we all mess up, but if you haven't yet then don't! Wait until you are married. God will bless you and your marriage!
2007-11-26 18:18:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋