Her husband is in Hawaii and she wants to spend christmas with him. And also stay 6 months with him. They are 3 going on that trip. I was just suggesting that it would be cheaper for them if he be the one to come home and spend just one ticket. Then after Christmas they can all go. Incidentally they are building a house and we are helping them out. They are also leaving their house while it is ongoing construction. the problem is that I am sick and cannot be the caretaker of their big house.
2007-11-26 09:51:44 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My mom had breast cancer over ten years ago. But she caught it early and is doing great now. I wish you the best of luck. As far as your daughter and her husband goes. Although you are sensitive it sounds kind of selfish to leave this way when you are sick. But some people don't realize the fear that having cancer causes and the emotions you go through. But it doesn't seem very responsible to leave a house under construction either. I would try to sit down and talk with her about how your feeling. She sounds very young and I would have to think that being in love has clouded her judgement. I would also suggest going to a group counseling with other woman that have had or have breast cancer because even though my mom had it I don't think as an individual I could relate what she was going through emotionally or physically. But I did fear for her and love her with all my heart she is my mom. I'm also wondering if this is all to hard for your daughter to deal with too. Maybe she is in denial and maybe it is hard for her to see you going through all of this. But you will have to talk with her and find out. I wish you the best of luck.
2007-11-26 10:10:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
#1 Her leaving when you are sick is proof she has not accepted the fact you are really sick.
#2 Why are you worried about the way they spend their money (on the plane ticket)
#3 Why are you helping them build a house. They should do it on their own. Helping them out does not come with a guarantee they will feel indebted to you or even appreciate the help.
#4 Simply don't be caretaker to the house. No one can make you.
#5 Stop being a door mat and take care of yourself.
2007-11-26 18:02:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Gee, hon, i'm very sorry to hear that you are ill, and i am sending all the best thoughts and prayers your way for a good recovery.
I don't think you have to be the "caretaker" of your daughter and husband's big house.... if they want someone to take care of it in a certain way, maybe they can hire someone?
I'm sure you are going to miss your daughter on Christmas, but sometimes we have to let go.... I know i have two adult kids, and i have had to do the same thing.. It's hard, but remember they LOVE you and THEY CARE!
sending hugs and i hope you have a good holiday... take care of YOU ok?
2007-11-26 18:04:28 · answer #3 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So..what is your question. I think that it may be more of a way for her to get a second honeymoon of sorts as well. Are you sure it's the house..you sound overly sensitive about your daughter going to see her husband and leaving you alone..or with whoever this "we" person is. Why is he in Hawaii..can he get off from work..or from whatever he is doing to come home for Christmas.
2007-11-26 17:58:53 · answer #4 · answered by Becky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then you tell them to have a wonderful Christmas in Hawaii but that you will not be able to take care of their home while she's gone.
That's not a bad thing......it's just a sensible thing.
You do what you can.....but your health should be your number one consideration right now.
2007-11-26 18:05:25 · answer #5 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋