My nephew is 3 years old, my daughter 4 months. He's a little rough but never mean or evil. He pulled my daughter's arm to get her a little closer and my wife freaked out on him. What's the right thing to do?
I disagree in yelling at other people's babies. In this case my brother's.
2007-11-26 09:40:13 · 12 answers · asked by Roger G 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
there is nothing wrong in scolding them but spanking them is a no no because they arent yours
2007-11-26 09:44:43 · answer #1 · answered by sammi 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Generally I don't believe in disciplining other people's kids, simply because if someone took it upon themselves to discipline mine I'd probably have an aneurysm but with a new baby around...I can see that she'd be on edge...
HOWEVER, a new baby is something you guys have to watch out for and be careful with, you can't expect a 3 year old to know better ...so while it was normal for her to be scared, it was inappropriate for her to yell at the 3 year old...he's practically a baby too...
He should have been told in the first place to keep his hands off and he should have been being supervised any time he was anywhere near the baby....
So no, I don't think babies should be yelled at at all, but most definitely not other people's babies and most definitely not for something that is the adult could have prevented.
2007-11-26 10:03:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Always deal with the adult,never the child.If someone elses child is acting up ask them to deal with it.It is possible that they didn't know about the problem or didn't know that it bothered you.Never treat another child in a way that you wouldn't be comfortable having yours treated.Most parents see it as an insult and most children get confused.If the parent of the other child is not there then you should remove the baby from the situation and speak to the parent later.In your wife's defense though she may have just been frightened and reacted on instinct to protect her own child.It might help if you discuss how you will handle it in the future and if your brother's son will be around the new baby often it may help her relax more if you ask him how he would want you to deal with his son in his absence.
2007-11-26 10:37:39 · answer #3 · answered by Ness 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When he is being rough with your child you have the right to get after them. He needs to realize that he could hurt the baby. A 3 year-old is old enough to understand that.
2007-11-26 09:53:45 · answer #4 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
He's not a baby, he's 3. That's plenty big enough for a ticking off. I think she was out of order yelling at him though, if it was the first time he'd done anything so silly with the baby.
she should just have explained to him that we don't do that to babies, and kept a closer eye on him with her for a while.
2007-11-26 09:54:19 · answer #5 · answered by who me? 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
To begin with I say it is never ok to yell at a 4 month old, they dont know what they are doing. A gentle scolding is ok. As far as disciplining other peoples kids, if you have permission, I think it is ok.
Me personally, I dont allow anyone else to discipline my children unless I have verbally given them permission at some point.
4 hours after original submission above.*****I'm sorry I didnt understand the question at first. I misunderstood, I thought your brother grabbed your babies arm. First I would talk to my brother and make sure it is ok to discipline my nephew. I would try gentle scolding first then time out. I was outraged at first, I thought you were saying that your brother was grabbing at the babies arm. Sorry.
2007-11-26 09:52:36 · answer #6 · answered by Jenni 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I think it depends on the offense and the kids. Are they random kids at the park you don't know and they're being rude in general? Don't say anything. Are they being rude to your child? Intervene. If they're related or friend's kids, I think you have a little more leeway. I look at it this way - I want MY children to be polite and kind at all times. If I don't see my kids doing something I don't want them to do, but you do, I'd appreciate it if you said something to them or me.
2007-11-26 09:47:25 · answer #7 · answered by fuffernut 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The only way i believe you can punish other peoples children is if they give you permission. No spanking or anything like that, tho, cuz if you spank the parents could freak out and sue you or something. Get the specifics on it.
2007-11-26 12:54:09 · answer #8 · answered by sarah 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No yelling, but explaining to him that the baby needs to be touched gently is your responsibility. If the incident did not involve your own child I would say no, but when your own kids are involved you must say something. Just be kind.
2007-11-26 09:53:14 · answer #9 · answered by 0 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well if the parent isn't there to say something to their kid, then I would think that it's okay to say something to the kid, but not yell just tell them that it's not okay to do that. If a kid really hurt my child, I'd probably yell at them, but if it's just something like that I would just tell them it's not okay. If the parent is there, I'd wait for them to say something and if they didn't I'd tell the child that it's not okay to do that. Oh well if the parent gets mad, their child is hurting my child and they aren't doing anything about it. It's just my opinion.
2007-11-26 09:47:13 · answer #10 · answered by speedy_me18 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
In my ex-husbands family the kids were just taught to listen to adults. However, if there is not that spoken rule then it can be a tricky situation. I say it's best to discipline your own, and leave it at that.
2007-11-26 09:50:11 · answer #11 · answered by replexgirl 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋