Is it ok for a boy to wrestle with his mother?

Question

My new boyfriend is upset that my son and I wrestle. My son and I can get pretty rough but he has two boys and I figured that was a guy thing!
He is pretty upset about the fact that my son wrestles me and sometimes hits me (just playing though).
He also thinks that he should be able to disipline any child under his roof...ie; spanking........
what are your thoughts?

Answer 1

What!!! My son and I wrestled until he was just too big. He's almost 11 now and is able to kick my butt so we don't play that no mo' but if your man doesn't like that, too bad. There is NOTHING wrong with it. Sounds like he's jealous.
As for the disciplining, I have to say hell to the no on that one, too. My boyfriend and our two respective sons have lived together for quite some time and while he is able to advise my son of certain things any serious problems he may have he brings to me and vice versa. We do NOT discipline each others children. Verbal reprimands are fine, excessive shouting or any such thing like that is not to be done to each other's child. We all live in harmony that way.
Your son will grow to resent your boyfriend as well as resent you for letting your boyfriend drive that wedge between the two of you. Remember, men come and go but our sons are OURS for life, love it!

Answer 2

Depending on the age of your son. I have a young son and as a single mom we rough house at times. However, there are rules, no hitting, biting, slapping and we must stop the minute someone says give.

I do not feel anyone other than a parent should discipline someone's child. I have a live in boyfriend and we are very clear with the rules. If my son acts up (which is rare) he is told by my boyfriend that the action is unacceptable and I am told later (usually by my son). By no means is corporal punishment tolerated, I have never spanked my child but, he knows clearly the acceptable behaviors from the unacceptable.

Answer 3

I think it may be time to get a new boyfriend. I think it's great that you like to play wrestling with your son, as long as he knows the difference between playing and real fighting. As for the discipline, whether or not someone is at his house, he has no right to lay a finger on your son unless given permission, and even then, your son will not take that lightly because your boyfriend is not his father or his step-father.

Answer 4

Depends on how old your boy is and how rough he is willing to get.
One thing I tell ANY guy is that if he is getting serious with a woman enough to marry her, she had better trust him to discipline her kids if he is going to fulfill the role of daddy in every other area,otherwise he will NOT respect him.
I also tell him, if she doesnt make her child mind and behave and treat her with respect, she isnt going to let you do it either.Then I tell them they'd be a fool to marry someone with a kid that doesnt behave.If a man can put food in that child's belly and clothes on his back he should have the right to discipline him to teach him values and responsibility.Otherwise the kid will know he can run all over the old man and momma will back him!Then when the kid turns on momma the daddy just sits back and laughs because he knows he isnt allowed to do anything.