UA from marine bootcamp?

Question

Recently i went UA from marine bootcamp because I knew that I had made a wrong decision. It all started when i went to the recruiter from then on he pretty much ran the show. I let him pretty much choose my mos and my ship date. At one point though i asked to change my ship date till after the holidays. He then told me that I wasnt allowed to do that and that I had to go to bootcamp no matter what since i signed a contract. So i thought to myself crap what do i do and decided i couldnt do anything and to go with it. So i did and i was at marine basic for about 4 weeks and decided this wasnt for me and left base. Ive been ua for just a day and I know i have to turn myself in. But I hate the marines now im depressed and have suicidal thoughts. They told me I had to come back and start my training over again. Also that there is no way out and I either have to graduate from there or die to get out.

no i was on mcrd San diego not parris island

Answer 1

Son,
I am a former Marine myself. After you get out of boot camp, the Marine Corps is one of the best jobs you could ever imagine. You wouldn't believe how many people will buy you a meal or give you free things when your donning that uniform. Even a guy who couldn't pick up a girlfriend will get into a relationship during boot leave (believe me, I was one of them). For the most part your actually safer in Iraq then most major cities in the US, especially if you have a non-combat MOS. But like Death pointed out, the military isn't for everybody. This is something that only you can answer yourself after lots of thought and reflection. I walked a similar path you walked, although I did not go UA from boot camp. I also suffered from depression as well as suicidal thoughts. God knows how close I was to hanging myself in the middle of the squad bay some nights, the only thing that stopped me was the other recruits. I had my suicide kit all ready to go, and alternative ways ready just in case I couldn't hang myself like planned. I recommend trying to tough it out first. You will have to go back, being AWOL is not worth it. They're still hunting down the guys from Vietnam who are starting to return to the United States after all these years. If you truly want out, going AWOL is NOT the way to do it. If your still truly convinced that it isn't for you, talk to the GI rights people Death mentioned, they are some nice enough folks, and they'll help you if you really want out. You WILL eventually be discharged for suicidal thought, although you'll probably be at boot camp another 3-4 months while they mess with your head and try to pass it off as nonsense. Or just wet your bed repeatedly, medical will decide you have problems with your bladder. You may even try just going into a corner and refusing to do anything and not say a word, you'll be declared unfit, although I don't recommend it. Contrary to what they say, boot camp is one of the easiest places to get discharged from, and since you arn't a Marine yet it won't follow you as much. For most people the depression goes away as soon as boot camp is over. If your still having problems after boot camp, after you get to job school you can go to the shrink and get a failure to adjust. But whatever you do, don't do any more stupid things like going AWOL or popping drug tests or anything like that, it may seem easier but it just isn't worth it. I hope you stick with it, but I wish you the best of luck in whatever route you go. If you want to talk about anything at all, feel free to contact me by email. I've been in your shoes, and not that long ago.

Answer 2

Just go back and turn yourself in. They were trying to scare you, to try to make you shape up. Ask for a psychiatric evaluation and you will be able to eventually get kicked out (this is better than the alternative). Yes, it's a little scary, but the reality is, no branch of the military wants somebody there who can't do the job mentally - you're just a risk to other marines and yourself.
Boot camp is a big mind game, but if you seriously have made the wrong decision and don't currently have the mental strength to go through with it, then try to turn yourself in at the medical clinic. But really, don't compound your problems (which will NOT make you feel better) by staying away - this will lead to serious legal and financial problems down the road. Just go back, turn yourself in. It will take a little time, but they will outprocess you.

Answer 3

You're not actually in the marines until you graduate bootcamp. So you can get out without having a record follow you forever.

If you are having suicidal thoughts, then you are a hazard to the rest of the troops and you shouldn't be there, and they wont let you stay there but first they have to make sure you are not lying about suicidal thoughts. If your suicidal thoughts are real then just simply stick to your story and never change it.

Drill instructors are trained to break you down and pull lies out of you, so don't break. Stick to your story and they will let you go, slowly. It will be a few more rough weeks or so but they wont keep you if you are truly suicidal.

They wont let you go quickly, it will be some time before you are truly out. Don't hurt any of the other recruits though. Be safe and turn yourself in.

Answer 4

Isn't it time you grew up and became a man??
The recruiter didn't;t force you to join. YOU decided.
You're depressed?? Anyone in basic undergoes a bout of being depressed. That's why you work TOGETHER.So you can help each other.
OK! No more preaching. Here's what it comes down to.
You can tough it out, serve your enlistment, AND If someone asks, were you in the Military, you can proudly say "Hey, I am a Marine!" or, you can take the easy way out and if someone asks if you were in the military, you can say, "NO" but in your heart, you'll know you ran away.
Your call.

Answer 5

Your recruiter didn't hold a gun to your head when you signed the contract.

But, you're not asking my opinion of you.

You need to turn yourself in. For some reason, I am thinking that you can get out of Marine bootcamp.

Unfortunately, you're going to be dealing with the Marines for a while, now that you're on the run.

Answer 6

Dear son,
I am a female prior military and I am not here to put you down. I trully understand where you are coming from. But...do you realize that leaving only made matters worse. The best thing to do is to turn yourself in. Tell them you are a conscientious objector..... it means that you do not believe in picking up a weapon to shoot, and that you believe in being non violent. NOTE OF WARNING: this will not go easy on you either...those marines have a tendency to be fast with their fists...but don't you give up. and Log everything and everyone involved. You went a long way to join....signing paperwork, physical exam etc...Never Never ever let someone run you like that again. When you claim "conscientious objector" they will all freak out. You might not get and honorable discharge but you might get one. or...they might put you at a desk. Good Luck

Answer 7

Men make it and others don't...... even Army says this.

Get out on a mental and have problems later. Get out and be 60 wishing that you had stuck w. it. Every movie you ever watch later will make you feel like a loser. Get a dishonorable or other and your future is done.

One or the other.... turn yourself in and things may be worked out. Or stay away and blow your life. Your choice and today is that day to decide.

Answer 8

Is this a pattern you've set in your life; running away? Pity the poor woman who marries you; things get tough, run away from her. Buy a house, run away from the contract.
Be a man and stand up to your agreement. Otherwise you'll be ridiculed for the rest of your life. Try to get a job..."Do you have a DD-214?" "No, I ran away from boot camp and they kicked me out of the MARINES"
By the way, Marines ALWAYS is capitalized.
wa wa wa wa wa
(USN, retired/in-country Viet Nam vet)

Answer 9

Wait so did u actualy go to bootcamp becuz if u didnt then u can just leave did u read wut was on the contract u siged im sorry if u did actualy sign one nd stuff theres really no way to get out but honestly u shud b happy my bf cant even get in nd its his dream so try to get discharged or just keep goin through ur years nd serve them

Answer 10

I am a Disabled Army Vet.

The Military is not for everyone. Though you have taken a tough road out, there maybe some people who can help you with your problems. http://www.girightshotline.org Give them a call and see what they say. I hope it works out for you.