Okay, I know that i just asked in my other question about my guy friend. but today, my other friend who i have a crush on (does that make me a whore?), asked me to be his girlfriend. he's really sweet and i like him a lot, plus it says something about his courage to get up the guts to ask me out. but the thing is, he is a pothead. im not kidding, you may think oh theyre just kids they probably dont even know what pot is. i do, and he gets high every day. i told him i would think ab out it, becuase(and i told him this) i dont know if i want to get the feeling of being hurt and let down every time we have to cancel going somewhere because he is to drugged up to be taken out in public. he looked hurt and said that he wants to stop but all his friends do it and he feels like a pansy if he says no. i told him that it would have to be his decision. cus who wants to deal with that? did i do the right thing? was i too nasty too him? should i call him? what should i do?
2007-11-26 08:48:01 · 5 answers · asked by Mrs. Unlucky 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i told him that its his choice, but i feel bad for making him give up his friends. he has one group of friends and theyre all really close. i feel like a monster
2007-11-26 08:52:56 · update #1
im not going to say i love the kid, i do but not like tru love, but he is so sweet and funny and nice, but im afrais that thats just the pot and if he does quit, he'll turn out to be a jerk and then i will want to break up and then hel say i did this for you and your just going to walk out on me? and then il stay and be miserable and eventually i will leave and he will go back to being a pothead and then hell overdose and...im letting my imagination get the best of me.
2007-11-26 09:01:29 · update #2
ok i just checked my phone. i have 43 missed calls all from guess who. not to mention 26 unread text messages. i didnt read any of them. does that make me a horrible person?
2007-11-26 09:05:15 · update #3
if you have a problem with the pot, tell him to quit if he wants to be with you. same should go for drinking, and any other type of addiction problem if this is one of your "deal breakers"
you gotta learn to say no. people do like to hear no and why believe it or not. cause no without why sucks, and fake yes's suck. and maybes that never turn into yes;s or no's suck.
lol...crazy logic there....maybe i'm high...lol
2007-11-26 09:02:42 · answer #1 · answered by ELEcTrIc_HeD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be "cute" or very very "hot" but he is a "cute" pothead.Unless you are planning to make babies with him, and then support him ,his pot addiction and the babies by working 2 or 3 jobs,I'd suggest you dump him because he wont give up weed for you or any other girl.
Sure it may have taken courage for him to ask you out, it will take the same courage for any guy to ask you out,pothead or not.If he gets nervous a lot, thats all the more he will smoke weed.Especially if you get on his nerves nagging him to quit.Find a guy without an addiction problem hon.
2007-11-26 16:54:22 · answer #2 · answered by Joe F 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
dont even go out with him...i have a friend who had the same problem..she ended up going out with him..she couldnt do anything that upset him b/c he would probably overdose and leave the house..and we had to look for him....ur better off just being friends..and believe me..its going to be hard for him to stop even though he really wants to..
2007-11-26 16:54:40 · answer #3 · answered by daijrdz07 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
call him tell him if he loves you, he will give up if he doesnt say ull be dissapointed in him and dont give him what he wants
2007-11-26 16:51:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him it's you or the pot.
2007-11-26 16:51:29 · answer #5 · answered by antidestablishmentarianismdude 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋