Need help with invitation wording - parents hosting?!?!?

Question

Hi, so my parents were initially the ones going to pay for our wedding, so I was going to have the wording for the invite be something like this:
Mr and Mrs. _____ _______
request the honour of your presence at the marriage of their daughter
_________ __________
to
_________ __________
Son of Mr and Mrs _________ ________

But now, his parents have decided to chip in the wedding also, not a lot, not even half, but like 1/4th the price. So do I still word it that way or would i have to put now that both parents are inviting? I feel like if I dont put his parents name, it will seem like they didnt pay a thing, but I also dont want it to seem like our parents are both inviting and splitting the cost!

Answer 1

I think the wording you have is perfect. Thats the way i worded mine and neither of our parents are paying for our wedding.

Answer 2

Mr and Mrs Jones
together with
Mr and Mrs Smith
request the honour of your presence at the marriage of their children
Jane Marie
and
John David

There's really no way to express who paid more without being tacky. The best thing to do is to make sure your parents are first. Tradition won't really make a difference here, because if you list both sets of parents as inviting, the bride's parents traditionally come first.

Good luck! :)

Answer 3

Invitation wording has NOTHING to do with who's paying for the wedding (these days, usually a couple pays for their own). You include both sets of parents' names simply because of respect, and to show who each of you are the children are.
I think a more traditional wording should be used -
The honour of your presence is requested
at the marriage of
Jane Ellen,
daughter of Fred and Linda Smith,
and
Joseph Max,
son of Michael and Susan Jones,
......
It keeps things neutral, but shows the parents.

Answer 4

Hi and congratulations!

I would keep the wording you have just as you have it. I don't think it's so much of who is paying more or less...it's just that you are recognizing both sets of parents.

As a matter of fact, my son and daughter-in-law worded their invites exactly as you have, but we (the parents of the groom) actually paid for 3/4 of the whole wedding. But I was not miffed nor did I think our names should be first. It's simply tradition that everything "wedding" the bride's name is first, and, thus, the parents of the bride should be listed first.

That is my opinion!

Answer 5

How set are your parents on having the wording reflect that they are paying? If they don't care all that much, then just have the wording be something like,

Jane Doe
and
John Smith
together with their parents
Mr and Mrs. Doe
and
Mr and Mrs. Smith
request the honor of your presence,.....etc

As long as your parents are okay with it, you can just say to his parents, "We wanted the wording to be more egalitarian and not sound like my parents were just passing me along to a man without me having any say..." Since his parents are paying less than yours, they can't expect the wording to give them any greater stature than your parents.

Answer 6

Contrary to what some of the other people have said it REALLY IS about who paid... not who paid the most, but who paid. Because the people paying for the party are the host... and the invitation comes from the host.

So when we got married, we all pitched in, so we did ours like

".... together with their families.... (bride and groom) invite you"

If the bride and groom are not paying at all and both sets of parents are paying, then it would be

(bride's parents) and (groom's parents) invite you to the wedding of their children (bride and groom)

Here are some suggestions for when both parents are hosting.

http://www.verseit.com/VerseIt_Verses.cfm?SR=1

Answer 7

This is the best way to word it that tells everyone that both your parents are hosting:

Mr. and Mrs Hamilton-Smith
and
Mr. and Mrs Clark
request the honour of your presence at the marriage of their children
Stacey Hamilton-Smith
and
Johnny Clark
at ______________
etc..

Answer 8

who's procuring the marriage has no touching on how the invitation is worded. that's no longer the symphony orchestra application, the place in case you gave a million greenbacks you get in with the 1st group and in case you gave fifty your call is final, in tiny variety. LOL Mr. John Smith and Ms. Jane Jones request the respect of your presence on the marriage of their daughter Mary Elizabeth to Charles William Roberts Please do no longer positioned "son of so and so" after Charles's call. the bride's kin themes the invites. If the groom's kin is giving the marriage, then the two mothers and dads' names ought to seem on the suitable (on the marriage of their little ones, and so on.)

Answer 9

I would do


Mr. and Mrs. Your parents
and
Mr. and Mrs. His Parents
request the honour of your presence
at the marriage of their children,
BRIDE
and
GROOM
place
date
time
rsvp

Answer 10

Reading that, to me, makes the groom and his family seem insignifigant. May I suggest

Mr and Mrs (bride's parents)
and Mr. and Mrs. (groom's parents)

request the honor of your presence at the marriage of their children _____ and _________

OR

Bride and Groom, along with their Parents Mr.& mrs and Mr. & Mrs invite you .....

OR

Bride and Groom, with the blessing of their parents ...


Whatever wording you choose to go with will be fine, I am sure!
Congrats & best wishes.