My mom is elderly. I still do suffer greatly from all the family abuses--they threw me away, they don't care if I'm dead or alive for decades now. My family is in abject denial--they transmit all their "good news", never acknowledging horrible abuses--I wished for a family but I was the throw-away. I cannot bear to weather the final blow which will be to omit me from any inheritance justified by fake-self-righteousness; in short my mom is crazy to perpetrate and condone such abuses, she just "didn't like (me)"--as if that's OK, she took away my foundation of self-respect. I can either do something or nothing, if only to shatter their comfort that I am defeated--for what they did some should be in jail. Do I just have to cope with their final gloat?
2007-11-26 08:42:23 · 3 answers · asked by SQD 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well, you shouldn't expect anything, that is for sure.
I can somewhat empathize in your situation, but it is up to you to build that respect of SELF.
It is a hard process. It is hard to love yourself when no one else has (or no one has loved you the WAY you needed to be loved), but it can be done. You have many things to be proud of for yourself, I am sure! Start there.
BEST OF EVERYTHING TO YOU!
2007-11-26 08:52:42 · answer #1 · answered by septicalfrogs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You often read about kids being cooped up in closets and fed breadcrusts for years at a time until someone finds the kids and they are way underweight.
Sounds like they just arbritrarily picked you to take all their abuse. Family is the first set of obstacles for a lot of people to overcome.
You might be able to challenge the will in court, with the assertion that your mother was indeed insane. You would have to hire an attorney to do so. Probably more trouble than it is worth.
You are to be a self-made person. Get out of there and stay away from there as soon as you can. Use this experience to galvanize you to make the most out of yourself, to become successful in life, and to be the most genuine nice person you can be.
2007-11-26 09:40:53 · answer #2 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ignore them and start your own family they will love you and care for you.......just pray about it.
2007-11-26 08:49:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋