What to do??

Question

Don't think I'm emo or anything but I was crying last night. My mom was thowing a HUGE fit. She was messing up the house and throwing stuff at my dad and she looked like she was gonna kill him. She was crying a little and tellign my dad about soem stuff from the past. I wasn't born yet. She was telling him how he alwasy left me at home at night wen my mom was at work the whole day. He goes to foxwoods. And how he promised not to drink beer ever again but he's drinking more now. But my dad has some really really good points too. Like more good ones than bad. but...he promised ALOT of things to my mom and has been lying to her for years. My mom is like tearing apart. She doenst do drugs or alchohal so it drives her nuts bout my dad. He doesnt smoke tho. My mom was hitting my dad like crazy. I was scared and felt so lost. my mom asks my every year about moving way from him. i always say no and she always accepts my answer.but i feel like im killin her cuz of my choice. she begs me. help??

Answer 1

you shouldn't ever be put in that situation. i mean, if they're going to argue, they should wait until you're gone outof the house. i don't think she should ask you that stuff. talk to a teacher you know you can trust or another family member like older than your parents. i know its horrible to listen to your parents argue and know about broken promises, i lay in bed countless times thinking my dad was going to murder my mum. but, you shouldn't have to stand for it; nobody should. i don't know if there;s an american equivalent to childline, or if this could be relevent, but there is always help.

Answer 2

Stay with your dad unless his drinking starts to cause your problems.Tell your mom you love her but she needs to go to anger management.She lost control of her temper and hit your dad because she cannot control him.
Now let me ask you, if the roles were reversed and your dad hit your mom for what she hit him for, what do you think would have happened?
He would be in jail for abuse or assault on a female right now.
People tolerate this kind of behavior from women much more than they do men, but mothers who behave like this have kids who behave like this and worse.They do a lot of emotional damage to their kids.She needs help, he could probably use a little counseling to, but she needs to get it together before any kids live with her.Going and living with her wont change her.

Answer 3

You and your mom would be better off on your own. Just because your mom leaves your dad doesn't mean you won't ever see him again. Tell you mom that you will move out with her on the condition you can spend weekends or something with your dad.

Answer 4

i don't know what to say ,but my parents are divorced too...