the worst thing is she has told her friends and family and now im in a pickle we have only been together 1 mnth shes not even pregnant
2007-11-26 08:37:28 · 53 answers · asked by mark p 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
just tell her u was drunk and that u didnt mean it and u just want 2 slow things down
2007-11-26 09:47:46 · answer #1 · answered by in love and its great 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boy did you dig yourself a hole. You need to talk to her NOW before the entire city thinks your really engaged. Explain to her that while you love her.......or really like her and hope that one day the two of you will get married, you were not in the right frame of mind to be asking such a question and you are extremely sorry for her heartache. But it has only been a month and it would be the smarter decision to get to know each other better anyway. She may stay with you, or she may not but its better then walking down the aisle and wondering what the H@LL you just did.
2007-11-26 08:45:13 · answer #2 · answered by misbotta 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, yeah, you're an idiot and all that.
If you actually like her, see a possible future with her, and want to keep dating her:
Sit her down and ask her if she really feels ready to get married. Explain that you think you were hasty and that you want to see where things go before making that commitment. Apologize for getting caught up in the moment and tell her that you would really like to just take a breather and step back for awhile.
If you don't see a possible future with her:
Just tell her it doesn't feel right and that you think you were asking for "the wrong reasons." Explain that you think the reason you asked had a lot to do with other issues you have with the relationship and that you think it's a bad sign, blah, blah, blah break up with her.
2007-11-26 08:46:52 · answer #3 · answered by weirdiscomplimentary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just gotta tell her you were drunk and dont rmeember asking her that, and that one month isnt enough time to know whether you wanna marry someone or not.
May i also suggest possibly dumping her psycho behind? Is si so desperate to accept a drunken retard proposal after dating for one month... and immediately runs out and tells her family and friends before you even have time to recover from a hang over?! That doenst sound like a right minded women to me!!
2007-11-26 11:49:56 · answer #4 · answered by loki_only1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you realized how much you cared for her & got caught up in the moment. Its not that you dont like her but its too soon & yall need to be together for atleast a year before you make such a serious commitment so nothing bad happens & yall do something stupid. But hey next time lay off the drink or dont drink as much! Good Luck :)
2007-11-26 09:37:13 · answer #5 · answered by She is Beautiful! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are drunk you tend not to be able to lie but you do lose your inhibitions and the weirdest stuff pours out of your head, like stuff you wish would happen.
Why would it be in there if you hadn't thought about it huh?
Chances are her friends and family now think you are a bunny boiler for being so full on so soon. They will all be relieved if you be straight with your GF and them and admit your 'mistake'.
2007-11-26 08:47:55 · answer #6 · answered by tomthewirish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Har Har! I did the same thing.. I proposed and woke up the next day "holy cr*p"! Luckily I love my fiance and we'd been together a lot longer than you two. Getting married in 3 months.
Just tell her you want a long engagement... like 3 years or 5.
2007-11-26 14:05:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a little concerned that she took you up on your offer after such a brief relationship ...but you are not committed to anything yet...so relax...
the longer you wait the worse its going to get ...you need to let her know you were not thinking clearly...
maybe if you really like the gal and see marriage as a possibility you can make it an extended engagement and during this engagement you might wanna refrain from alcohol or you could one morning wake up and found yourself jokingly MARRIED...best of luck to you and her
2007-11-26 08:58:04 · answer #8 · answered by d j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too late mate. Did the same myself, by the time i woke up in the morning she had already phoned the whole family. Been married 10 years now and still love her dearly, but i never would have proposed otherwise.
2007-11-26 08:47:33 · answer #9 · answered by razman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about a little honesty? Tell her, (in case she didn't realize) you were drunk when you asked her, but realistically, you've only been dating for a month. Apologize, but make sure you stand up to the plate like a man and be honest.
2007-11-26 15:02:12 · answer #10 · answered by Sondra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'r so dead!!!! She won't forgive you ever if you tell her that you didn't mean it. First of all do you value your relationship, if you don't then it is easy. Just tell her that you didn't mean a word of what you said cuz you were drunk. She will get over with you and you could live your life after that. Otherwise drive her insane by acting stupid. She'll get sick of you and dump you. trust me you have no other option unless she is a mature person who can accept hard facts!!!!!
Sorry, i couldn't say anything better.
2007-11-26 08:45:02 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋