I met a guy when visiting friends at another college, we had a connection, hung out. Exchanged numbers, the whole deal. I didn't think anything would come of it. But he's actually kept in contact for over a month.
He texts me sometimes randomly during the day and we've talked online. But usually, I'll get a bunch of texts from him late at night when he's out at the bar. Or he'll call me on his way back after he says he's been drinking.
We've talked a few times sober-- I called him and we had a good conversation. Afterwards, he sent a text saying that he loved the random call and to do it anytime. But he seems to only call ME when it's late or after he's had a few to drink..
He's mentioned coming back to visit so we can hang out. My friends know him and say he's a really sweet guy but he's kind of shy...so maybe that's it? But part of me wonders why only when he's drinking or after 1 am...?
2007-11-26 08:36:30 · 10 answers · asked by autumn 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he probably really is just shy and needs a few beers before he's ready to hear your voice.....if your friends know him, tell them to scope him for you and see what he's up to during daylight....make sure he's not with other ladies or osmething....
2007-11-26 08:40:34 · answer #1 · answered by alcmena 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either he is very shy and is using the alcohol as a crutch to get passed his social awkwardness or he is just interested in sex. Both are probably true, but in different percentages. He's a guy, so he wants sex, but that is every guy, so I would not be put off by that. If you do like him, ask him out for Sunday brunch or over for a movie during the day/afternoon. During that time, compliment him on his conversation skills and how you like him for who he is. Say that you would really like to hang out again, and that he should call you for the next date. You'll have to be very clear about this, no beating around the bush. Then, wait for him to call. Wait and wait and wait. If he calls at an appropriate hour, accept the call. But if he continues to call during the late night, give him the boot. You tried your best, and thats all you can do.
2007-11-26 08:46:22 · answer #2 · answered by tabasco_756 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I dont think its a "bad" thing that he calls you late or when hes coming home from the bar. In my opinion when people are buzzed/drunk they tend to really display their true feelings, and im sure hes not belligerent to the point where you cant talk to him so maybe it helps him get over his shyness dont be put off by it. If i were you I'd def go visit him again and see how you act when youre together again, if your friends are saying hes a good guy and they go to school with him im sure they wouldnt lead you in the wrong direction; in the meantime keep talking to him it sounds like its going well! good luck
2007-11-26 08:42:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If people who know him think its the shyness then maybe that's all there is to it. Call him a little more and hang out with him when he comes to visit. Let him know that you're interested and that you've wondered about the drunken dialing! Maybe if he knows for sure that he's not risking rejection, he'll have more confidence and call you during the day!
2007-11-26 08:43:41 · answer #4 · answered by bainaashanti 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about it. Do you really want to even get involved with someone who is out drinking at the bar all the time. There is a reason that he calls you late at night and its not because he is shy. I don't think he is showing you any kind of respect and believe me you're worth it. You with connect with someone else that will treat you the way you should be treated.
2007-11-26 08:46:22 · answer #5 · answered by kittykat 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
maybe the alcohol helps him get over being shy.. and thats y he calls...or he may just being an idiot at the same time to impress his friends....i think u should avoid the drunk calls as much as possible that way u know when u talk to him everything he says is him saying it...and not the alcohol
2007-11-26 08:44:38 · answer #6 · answered by itsme21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably because the alcohol makes him bold. Ask him to give you a call at a reasonable hour (when you assume he won't be drinking) because you'd like to talk. If he knows he does this while drunk and tells you "Sorry, I was wasted when we talked", ask him not to do it.
2007-11-26 08:40:14 · answer #7 · answered by xK 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes, we let our inhibitions down when we drink. Maybe he wants to talk to you more often but is too shy or too scared to look desperate. Somehow, make him feel it is ok to call you more often....
2007-11-26 08:41:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend in this very situation and I think shes crazy not to just talk to him more and ask him for coffee or go out in a group or something...
Have you tried asking him out? like asking if he would like to go for coffee to see where things could go?
2007-11-26 08:41:18 · answer #9 · answered by sweetnlow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like : a booty call.
This guy is only after one thing. He is really trying too hard by saying "I love You."
That is a red flag.
He doesn't even know you.
I'd kick him to the curb.
2007-11-26 08:42:22 · answer #10 · answered by †Evonne† 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋