DO you think i left too big of an age gap in between my children. I have a 9 yr old boy, a set of 5 yr old twins and a baby on the way. I know i cant change it i just want your oppinions on it.
Thank you
Cassandra
2007-11-26 08:13:34 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
It sounds perfect to me. I have only one child right now but plan to have another when my son is 4 years old. It just works for us since I've recently gone back to college to get a degree in nursing.
I have friends whose children are 2 years apart and while they're close sometimes they also fight constantly. Then I have friends whose kids are spaced further apart and they get along quite well... with less sibling rivalry.
There are pros and cons to both. I look at my parents. They both have siblings spaced closely with them (1-3 years) and they barely talk to them now that they're adults. The one my mom talks to the most and visits the most is her older brother who is 9 years older. He's technically her half-brother and moved out of the house and joined the military when she was only 9. But now they're very close. So, go figure!
It really doesn't matter in the scheme of things. What will be will be.
2007-11-26 08:48:42 · answer #1 · answered by Libra lass 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's a problem. There were 4 1/2 years between me & my sister, and we got along fine. There were times where our interests were very different, but that's ok... there were times that we weren't really close, but we became closer as we got older. Besides, I thought it was really cool to have a sister to look up to (especially when I was in jr. high and she was in high school). When we did stuff together, I felt really special because I got to hang out with the older kids (even if I was the annoying kid sister sometimes).
My parents liked it that way as well, because there was less rivalry between us, and my sister was old enough when I was born to help out a bit.
I have a 5 year old and I'm pregnant (she'll be joining us in about 4 weeks). I've worried about the age gap as well but I think it will be fine.
2007-11-26 16:51:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it works for you, then its a good thing. theres a fair sized gap between my siblings and I (6&7 yrs) but only 13 months between the 2 of them. We are all close, the only thing is, we dont share many interests, as I'm an adult with 3 kids of my own and they are still in thier teens. They have many friends in common, share a car etc. and fight lots. My kids are spaced 21 months apart and while it was nice to be done diapers finally, they are all very much in constant competition for my attention, wich can cause alot of stressful situations and hurt feelings, but they are each others best friends/
2007-11-26 16:20:40 · answer #3 · answered by binglejells2003 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that is too big of an age gap.. This way the older ones can help out, and they have gotten more one on one attention when the where the baby. All siblings have there "tiffs" but it makes them bond and grow a relationship... Congrats.. how far along are you?
2007-11-26 16:27:41 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My youngest sister is 9.5 years younger than me. My middle sister is 3 years younger than me. My son is almost 6 and wants a brother or sister so bad right now. I need to find a man that will stick around and be there for myself and my son if that will ever happen. I haven't dated in a long time. I think it is fine. Thing is for me I didn't really know my youngest sister too well when I was younger because I was in foster homes all the time. As we got older when she became and adult we became closer. She is an auntie times 2, my middle sister's baby and my child. She gets along with my son very well.
I remember a lot helping my mom with both my younger sisters. I used to rock my youngest sister to sleep in the rocking chair singing lullaby's.
2007-11-26 16:23:58 · answer #5 · answered by Laura 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My kids are 11 and 6, so there's a bigger age gap here.
It's a difficult age difference. My oldest isn't really old enough to give in to her little sister when it's called for, she is still too little. In many ways, they are rivals. But they are also so far apart in age that they don't want to do the same things. So I have to do twice as much! Getting them to different types of classes, getting them different books to read, everything!
It's tough age spread, but every family is different. It will work for your family if you make it work for you!
2007-11-26 16:23:13 · answer #6 · answered by LJ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My bro and me were about 3 yrs apart and I thought that was a good age gap.
2007-11-26 16:40:10 · answer #7 · answered by Riley's Mommy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think 4-5 years between children is just right!
2007-11-26 16:23:52 · answer #8 · answered by daa 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's the smart way to do it. The older one can help with the baby.
2007-11-26 16:20:31 · answer #9 · answered by Lex 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no i think thats just about perfect cause they are old enough to understand whats going on and you dont have them in diapers at the same time :)
2007-11-26 16:18:21 · answer #10 · answered by alishatravis 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋