Okay, i am basically in love with this girl who is one of my best friend. She is way out of my league AND already has a boy friend, who is a) alot better looking than me, b)alot more experienced than me and c)alot older than me. If i wanted to i could split them up easily but i don't want to do that because it would probably distress her. Which is the last thing i want. I don't particulay want to tell her beacause that would ut her in a difficult position, something else i don't want to do. Any idea's on what to do?
2007-11-26 08:09:49 · 20 answers · asked by Mike 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
as on of the answers said, i am sorry for using the word "win" in the headline, i didn't mean it like i think of her as a trophy etc etc, i was just typing, sorry to all who r offended.
2007-11-26 08:16:45 · update #1
sounds like u already decided u don't want her. but u still like her. i knwo it sucks but if u want the frinedship to work u've got to put the feelings aside. atleats for now. young relationships don't work and i'll asume its young., just wait till it ends be there for her and then make ur move. don't worry about experence she could problye teach u a few things.
2007-11-26 08:15:01 · answer #1 · answered by punk girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait, patiently. Don't push more than what you have, friendship. If you do, she will likely push you away. Be yourself, prove to be a great guy by how you act towards others and her. Be there for her and support her in her decisions. I know it may take a while and you don't want to wait, but it will be worth it if she is yours forever at the end. If you push her boyfriend away or try to prove yourself as a more superior guy, it will probably not end up as you want it. Best of luck in love!
2007-11-26 16:14:37 · answer #2 · answered by a686gurl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, first of all, you need to somehow get her into your league. This may take time. You said that she has a BF already who is lot better looking than you are. Well, get him out of her sight . . . You might want to ask your buddies to help you on that one. If you don’t want to split them up as you stated then just let nature take its course. You said so yourself that he is a lot older than you. It sounds as though he might go first . . . Attrition. Be patient. Good luck.
2007-11-26 16:19:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes...wait till she has split up with her current boyfriend then tell her, if you tell her now he will most likely lamp you one and if he is bigger, older and more experienced...he will not think twice.Concentrate on another girl until she is free, at some point she most likely will be.....I think at the moment you are wasting your time which could be spent on more important and beneficial things....and on a girl who will really like you.
2007-11-26 16:14:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same situation and finnaly i couldn´get her in love with me :( but you have to understand that she sees you just like a friend and that she loves an other one. I know that it is very difficult to do this.
2007-11-26 16:17:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry but i am a girl and i would not want you to make me brake up with my boyfriend. you just got 2 wait till they split up. but you will have to wait till atleast 2 or 3 days after the brake up to ask her out!
hope i helped! =]
2007-11-26 16:14:16 · answer #6 · answered by wink;wink ;) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be her friend. if she's happy, let her be. if her boyfriend is unfaithful or whatever and you know, ("If i wanted to i could split them up easily") than let her know, dont let her go blind. if things work out, it was meant to be. if not....there are other girls, eventually you'll find a new number 1 you're basically in love with, but then you'll be really in love...
2007-11-26 16:16:01 · answer #7 · answered by anyone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait for them to break up...than be the shoulder to cry on.
Oh and don't make things up about him, but keep watching that guy. If he does something (ie. Cheat on her, lie to her, etc.) tell her...thats not breaking them up, thats making sure she knows exactly who she is dating...
2007-11-26 16:13:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea, give it up.
No matter what course of action you do towards her it ends badly.
Just be thankful that you have a good friendship with her, and you look forward to her thoughts and opinions on your future girlfriends.
2007-11-26 16:13:28 · answer #9 · answered by David G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
did you try to change your hair?use some good kind of shirts and pants,you can try to show off a little(not too much cuz that can get kinda annoying!!!)try to tell her fake stuff about the boy she likes like some gross and stupid stuff that he does!!i think that will help you a lot
2007-11-26 16:15:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋