I am a SAHM and we are bored out of our minds!!! How do you keep busy?

Question

I have 2 young children and we sit in our house all day! I have been a SAHM for 3 years and not sure how much longer I can do this. I am really starting to get depressed. What kinds of things do you do in the day to keep busy? I am thinking about a part itme job in the afternoon and put the kids in daycare for a few hours (son is already in preschool). I think it would all do us some good. Would this be a big mistake? Anyone work a few hours a day because you want to? Did it help you to get out and have some adult interaction? I feel so lonely!!

Answer 1

Sounds like a great idea to me. Another alternative would be to go out and take a few classes, go to the library reading hours, start a playgroup or join one. Once you meet other moms this way, you can drop your kids there once a week and she can drop hers with you so you each get some free babysitting and it's someone you trust, plus your kids are having a blast.

Answer 2

I have been a stay at home mom for 41/2 years and it has had it's highs and lows but I wouldn't give it up for anything. I worked part time in the evenings after the birth of my first child and up until the birth of my 2nd (18months later). I had planned to go back after 12weeks maternity leave but never did. The kids kept me pretty busy during the day. I joined a MOMs Club when I was 8 months pregnant with my 2nd and that got me out of the house a lot. Now that I have 3 kids with 2 in preschool I feel like I am going non stop and wish for the days of quiet around the house :)!

You have to do what works best for you. If you need to find a job outside of the house then by all means do it. If it isn't right for you then you can quit and go back to SAHM full time again. It's important that you are happy staying at home with your kids otherwise no one will be happy.

It can be hard meeting people when you stay at home so you may want to try some kind of MOMS Club so you can have regular playdates and outings to keep you and your little ones busy. It is nice to socialize with other big people now and again. I live for Moms Night Out when I can just get away with the girls.

Good Luck!

Answer 3

I stayed home (exclusively) for 1 1/2 years and I was going crazy! I didn't live in a neighborhood where there were other stay-at-home moms, and I didn't even have anyone to call during the day. It was very lonely and I felt isolated. So, I got a part time job at the mall for a few evenings and weekends when my husband is home from work. It helps alot! Even though it's work, and not at all what I would pick for fun, I get out of the house and have fun with my co-workers and the customers and feel like a social human being again. And, I actually miss my daughter (before I would do anything to get away from her), and I'm making a nice bit of extra money for the family. As far as things to do during the day....I always have cleaning or laundry that needs done. Yeah, I get bored and I wish I had someone to talk to, but as my daughter gets older she and I talk and laugh and work together (sort of). I try to set up little "pre-school" sessions of coloring, drawing, singing ABS's, counting....things that I imagine the pre-schools do during the day. And it's easier to deal with the long, boring weekdays when I know I only have 4 days "off" before I go back to work on Friday night. Hope this helps! Go for a part-time job! If you don't like it, you can always quit. :)

Answer 4

I have been a SAHM for the past 3 1/2 years & it does get boring, but I believe it is the best thing for my son, which I guess it what keeps me going. I spend a lot of time cleaning my house, playing with my son, watching movies, getting on the internet, scrapbooking etc. I did go back to work part time for a few months until my schedule collided w/ my husband's, so I had to quit. Try joining a play group where your kids can play with other kids & you can have some adult conversation.

Answer 5

I work-at-home and did full time until last year. I now work part-time in a billing office (20 hours a week/3 days a week). The adult interaction is okay but adults are petty and I want to be at home full time again and am looking for more work to do at home. I miss my daughter and I have one on the way. You should be happy that you have the opportunity to be at home. Go to the park, do crafts, ask your kids what they want to do, get out of the house, enjoy the time you have with them, bake cookies, etc. It's the little things your kids love most. My daughter mixed the pancakes yesterday and she's told everyone about it. Also, about your loneliness, plan nights out with your friends, and at the park, chat with another mom and find a playgroup where you can talk with other moms while your children play.

Answer 6

I think it sounds like a great idea, a job is good for you, because it gives you time to be around other adults and make your own money, and having the kids in daycare for a few hours would be wonderful for them because they will be able to interact with other children... A part time job sounds perfect because it will still allow you to have quality time with your kids, ... on days that you guys are home, go out to the park for a little bit, also at this time, christmas is coming up, go out to a few stores and have them show you what they want from santa this year... you guys will still be spending time together but won't be copped up in the house all day.

Answer 7

I am also a stay at home mom. After a year of doing it I also felt the same way you are, but I couldn't bring myself to leaving my babies with anyone else. I started keeping kids during the day and that keeps me way busy. I am never bored and am thankful when they go home and I get to spend time with only my kids. I also get interaction with adults when there parents come to get them in the afternoon. I have become really close woth all my moms and we talk and do stuff together without the kids on weekends and in the afternoons. It is also a good way to make dome extra cash. You do need time to yourself without kids. I do have those times when I feel like I'm going crazy. The weekends rejuvenate me though. I enjoy what I do and am glad that I can provide parents with the childcare and treat there kids as how I would want my kids treated.

Answer 8

I would definitely suggest that you put the kids in daycare so that they can have some interaction with kids and have someone to play with. Getting a part time job might be a good place for you to have some interaction with other adults and if you're feeling lonely then its good for you to get out there and make some friends

Answer 9

I have two little one's and I'm a SAHM. Of a 1 1/2 yr. old and a 3 1/2 yr. old.. I recently started working part-time at Kohl's dept. store.. They have a really flexable scedule and I like being around other adults.. The work is very easy and I meet new people everyday.. I work in the evenings and my husband takes care of the children so it's very good for all of us ! Good luck

Answer 10

I was just thinking the same thing...wierd. I am a military wife and we just got restationed. I am at home with my two year old all day. My six year old goes to school. We live right across the street from the park, but that got old really quick. And the town we are in is HUGE and even if I knew where everything is, we don't have a ton of extra spending money with the holidays coming and going back to Texas for xmas. So, I feel ya. I almost feel guilty for being bored when I have my two year old with me all day.