My hubby got mad for me not paying attention to him since Thanksgiving(that's what he said). We had full home from relatives that where home to spend Thanksgiving & a weeding. But still we were fine or that's what I thougth we even went to the movies alone on Friday. BUt on Sat. we were just arriving at the weeding and he got mad & offended me. We left the party and had a big discusison. Igot really mad because he knew I wanted to be at the weeding cuz most of the family was going to be there & most of them I didn't see them since 2 or 3 yrs ago. I couln't go back alone to the party because he hid the keys so we stay howm. And the rest of the weekend was ruined. I am still ready mad cuz I really wanted to be there.But t because of him we couldn't be..NOW he is sorry & wants to make it up.. the problem is ,time can't go back and I don't know for how long I will be mad. I can forgive but can't forget.. What to do? I feel sad and mad too! Should I just let it go like that & forget it?
2007-11-26 07:42:54 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
That's a pretty mean thing to do. He should never have hidden the keys on you. You should have just ignored him, let him pout and then talked to him after you enjoyed the wedding.
The question is whether or not he's ruined something like this for you before. If he has then I doubt it would be the last time. Try talking to him and working through it - you can still be upset and tell him that you are working on not being mad but explain what really bothered you (the insult, not seeing family - or whatever it was).
I wouldn't just "let it go" because it was really important to you and should have been important to you because of it. Next time let him go pout in the car or leave or do whatever he has to - he's the one who will look like the jerk in the end.
2007-11-26 07:50:07 · answer #1 · answered by Kim B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends if this is the first time this happen make sure you stay really really mad for at least a week dont let him turn it back at you it does not matter what he felt he needed to approach you in a different way regarding this matter and it would have been resolve but now he got himself into a whole other mess. I know is hard but believe me this will help you in the long run. Sometimes they don't learn. We are a little bit weak when it comes to teaching them a lesson but if this is not the first time he has insulted you in front of your family you should really consider counseling because it will never work and yes you will never forget so make it super clear always.
2007-11-26 07:56:47 · answer #2 · answered by wonpetty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something that occurred over 25 years in the past close to ruined my lifestyles. Every time I concept approximately it, the hatred again. Even regardless that the individual in charge on no account requested for my forgiveness, I ultimately did. Someone else concerned did ask and by way of that point I had permit cross of the animosity. There are a few matters which take place in lifestyles which will on no account be forgiven or forgotten. I am comfortable I selected not to permit it spoil what years I have left.
2016-09-05 14:48:47 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is a controlling jerk. He knew exactly what he was doing which was keeping you from spending time with your relatives. Why would someone do this? Look up a list of the symptoms of abuse and see. He did this to isolate you and keep you all to himself. It's time you get a copy of the keys made and keep them in a safe place that he doesn't know about.
2007-11-26 07:48:55 · answer #4 · answered by NC317 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I was once told, if you aren't going to divorce him over it, there is no use in dragging the fight on. I would defiantly get out my feelings about it and tell him he acted like a five year old and that there won't be a next time because you'll go let him have his temper tantrum while you have a good time at whatever party.
2007-11-26 09:17:07 · answer #5 · answered by luv2help 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He seems to have control issues and jealousy issues. Hiding the car keys away from you so that you can't go and spend time with your family? Expecting you to be able to pay attention to him with all of your family visiting? You guys need to talk about his issues. Don't just forget about it.
2007-11-26 07:49:42 · answer #6 · answered by _I_love_warm_bananas_ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is you marriage worth not more than a simply apology from your hubby? He came back to apologize to you and you saying you don't know if you can do that. Hm, it will tell him where your feelings are at. Also, I hope that you are talking about a wedding and not a weeding?
2007-11-26 07:48:37 · answer #7 · answered by Kaya M 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He was wrong and fells sorry. A few weeks from now it will not matter anyway. Why not just forgive him. Everyone acts grouchy sometimes. You are showing yourself as a loving wife.
2007-11-26 07:56:11 · answer #8 · answered by Neil 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, my man acts childish like that too, hid my keys so my son and i couldn't go to thanksgiving breakfast at church. we must forgive and move on- no they ruined that moment ,but how long are we gonna hold on to being mad? it doesn't do us any good. actually having pent up anger can make you physically sick.
2007-11-26 07:52:34 · answer #9 · answered by karen w 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes. Forgive and forget. Live and learn.
Don't let one bad day ruin another one! Give him a kiss and tell him you love him. You'll both feel better.
2007-11-26 07:47:56 · answer #10 · answered by Itsa Secret 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋