basically been hanging out with this girl for a couple weeks now, we've slept together and spent the night a good amount of times together, and first two weeks we didnt know what we were and we basically acted like we were together, and now she is saying that she is scared of being in a relationship because she has been in 2 serious ones and been hurt and ive been in one serious one and was hurt and i feel the same but i really like her and am not sure how to go about this ordeal im in. like should i say lets either date or not be friends? or just be friends and see where it goes? like im so lost and confused right now....
2007-11-26 07:23:26 · 4 answers · asked by SMillionST 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you should reassure her that you will be there for her.
most the time serious relationships will end up in heartbreak (well duuh you have to break up to move on)
so pretty much i believe she is basing her thoughts on what has happened in the past with her.
just reassure her. tell her you love her.
2007-11-26 07:30:20 · answer #1 · answered by [Bao]zeR 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was like that too. I think time is the best healer.
Suggest going on a few dates, take it slowly. Don't pressure her, be understanding. Tell her that you've been hurt too, but you really like her and feel that you want to get to know her a bit more and are willing to get over the fear from your last relationship to be with her. Don't say 'lets not be friends'... surely she's worth more than that?
Give her some time, it's only been a couple of weeks. Good luck.
2007-11-26 15:31:35 · answer #2 · answered by sweetsunday 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is bound to be scared of being hurt. I understand how you are feeling right now. All i can suggest is talk to her and tell her how you feel and tell her that you want to be with her and that the last thing you want to do is hurt her. Then see what she says, if it was me then i would be willing to give it a go but she isn't me and i don't know but just go for it. the worst that can happen is she says she just wants to be your friend. Either way you would then have an answer and wouldn't feel so lost or confused.
2007-11-26 15:29:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go on casual dates and stuff at first...she'll see she wants to be your gf in not too long.
2007-11-26 15:28:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋