she is 4 and everytime we put her in the bed she throws a fit and gets right back up, i keep laying her back down but she does the same things over and over again. she just wont go to sleep i want her to get out of the habit of me laying down with her and want her to sleep in her own bed we got her a few months ago.
2007-11-26 06:44:54 · 11 answers · asked by princess 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
bribing her doesnt help if i tell her she can have a cookie in the morning she will pitch a fit and want it now. and by the way im 17 and her sister my mom works all the time i take care of her 90 % of the time
2007-11-26 06:53:49 · update #1
The best thing to do is to read her a story and tell her that after the story is finished you are going to turn the light off and if she stays in bed she can have the door open. Tell her that if she gets up you will put her back in bed and close the door. If she gets out of bed again when you have put her back you have to hold the door closed. She will probably do a lot of shouting and screaming and she will be very upset at first if you have never done this before. When she calms down you tell her that if she gets back into bed she can have the door open. Do the same thing again if she gets back out of bed. Try to keep as calm as possible and don't get upset because I can assure you this will work within a few days if you keep being consistent. She has to learn that when its bedtime she stays in bed and you will leave the door open. It will probably take a while for the first few nights but it will work and I promise you that if you stick with it and be firm with her she will learn very quickly that you don't give in. My son is 3 and he is fantastic with going to bed. I had no problems with him after using this method. GOOD LUCK
2007-11-26 06:55:18 · answer #1 · answered by Alison S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to wear her down. It's a war of wills. It will be very difficult for the first few times, then it gets easier & easier & she'll go to bed more easily.
When she gets up, put her back down. Don't engage in any discussion. No emotion. She'll get right back up. Do it again.
Plan to continue until 10 or midnight - it can take that long. But once you win, you win, and your child will know you mean business. This is comforting to the child, because she WANTS you to be the boss.
2007-11-26 14:49:04 · answer #2 · answered by suzanne g 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
at bed time tell her a story then after the story say it is bed time now and you have to sleep in here like a big girl and walk out. when she gets up take her by the hand and say no it is bed time. then the next time she gets up just take her by the hand and put her back in bed. Do this each time she gets up. she may get up 10 more times but keep putting her back. this is what we did with all my nephews and they dont have a problem with sleeping in their beds anymore.
2007-11-26 14:52:06 · answer #3 · answered by favorite_aunt24 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Put her to bed and if she gets out put her back. Tell her if she gets up one more time you are shutting the door and she can sit there and cry. That you dont care. I know if sounds bad but it does work. Trust me i have to do it every day with my 4 yr old son.
2007-11-26 18:48:45 · answer #4 · answered by Miss M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friend is experiencing the same difficulty. She has determined that it is not necessarily a "good" thing to begin with something that you have no intention of proceeding with. Of course one can't foresee that the child intends this "laying down" to be long term. Thus, sleeping with your child or laying down with them can be a problem and difficult to break. This may help:
http://www.sleepfoundation.org/site/c.huIXKjM0IxF/b.2419295/k.5AAB/Childrens_Sleep_Habits.htm
Mostly it's routine and perseverance.
2007-11-26 14:57:17 · answer #5 · answered by Darke Angel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok if she wont go to bed then you should try bribing her like she could get a cookie in the morning if she whent right to bed or even stickers its worked with my three year old and she all ways just go's to bed when she lays down
2007-11-26 14:50:59 · answer #6 · answered by hco101 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Hold her door shut when she tries to open it and tell her to get to bed, that she is a big girl now and doesn't need Mommy in there with her and that you'll be in the next room.
2007-11-26 14:48:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
spank her butt and tell her if she doesnt go to bed right now then you'll start taking away toys
2007-11-26 15:02:05 · answer #8 · answered by squeaker 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
94% of life's problems, including this one, can be solved with a roll of duct tape.
2007-11-26 14:53:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well try letting watch TV for a little bit before bed maybe she douse not like being all bye herself so lay by her or let her sleep in your bed.
2007-11-26 14:49:02 · answer #10 · answered by sammy 2 · 0⤊ 6⤋