I grew up with an alcoholic father that was physcially & Emotionally abusive beyond belief. At 16 I was thrown out of our "home" and lived in the back seat of a '68 Nove for 2 years. I know what you are feeling, I know the feeling of that empty place and that missing piece...how you feel when you see a great parent and wonder why didn't I get that!!! I know your fear that you'll pass this down.
I want you to know that is a lie..if you choose not to do that. I am happily married and have rasied 3 beauitful children who knew nothing but love & acceptance everyday of their lives.
Here's the key: Give them what we didn't get...give them love, give them lavish love, extravagant love, EXACTLY what we longed for and never recieved. I promise you it will be returned 1000X over. Give when your heart say's to hold back...never withold love, oceans of love!!!
It's making a choice ...you know what they need, you feel this deep inside, don't allow this to rob you anymore
blessings......
2007-11-26 06:43:10 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
God bless you for not letting your past give you an excuse to become your father. Your children will have wonderful memories.
2007-11-26 06:50:29 · answer #1 · answered by Faye 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was abandoned by my biological parents, I never met my mother until I was 7 years old. I was raised by my grandmother, who shipped me off to Cairo to live with my abusive uncle for a few years, and then finally accepted me back into her home only to kick me out when I got pregnant at the age of 17. My boyfriend's parents kicked him out as well, we lived in an alley for a month while going to school and working several jobs to save up enough to get an apartment.
That was over 5 years ago, and now I live in a nice house -- my boyfriend and I are still together, and we're expecting another a baby in February and planning a wedding for May! -- and I *KNOW* I won't repeat the same mistakes as my parents and everyone else who raised me. I *KNOW* that I will never abandon my children, and they will never feel a lack of love. In a way, I'm thankful, because they taught me exactly what not to do as a parent!
2007-11-26 14:53:41 · answer #2 · answered by Marissa: Worker of Iniquity 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I grew up with an extremely abusive alcoholic father. He killed himself when I was a teenager. My grandparents, great-grandparents, and so on, back to many generations, were also profoundly violent and abusive. I will never have children. The cycle stops here. To me, personally, it would be unethical to even take a remote chance of harming anyone (and that not only means abuse, but also potential health risks, such as the diabetes that runs rampant in my family). Why would I purposely bring a life into this world, only to realize that they could possibly suffer because of my decision to do so?
2007-11-26 14:51:02 · answer #3 · answered by solarius 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Bless your heart, when you find yourself getting too angry, have your wife take over. It sounds like you have don't well for yourself.
2007-11-26 15:14:10 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are so right, and this is so well put, thank you!
2007-11-26 14:50:18 · answer #5 · answered by happygirl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋