We have been ring shopping and she looks at advertisements and she consistantly points out ones that are $1500-2500. She has even made comments like it wouldn't bother her one bit if I bought it at a pawn shop! What should I do?
2007-11-26 06:27:34 · 44 answers · asked by Questionking 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
listen to her and take the other cash and get her something else or take a trip and make a memory of a lifetime...
OR
F it and spend the 5K and put a nice rock on her hand..remember, someone always has a bigger rock so who cares..it's the love behind it that's more important.
2007-11-26 06:32:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she's a very practical woman. You can get a lovely ring for $1500 - $2000 and save the rest of your money. Most importantly, don't buy something more expensive than you can easily afford. You should respect her wishes and listen to her financial advice.
For the record, the 3 months salary rule is insane. My brand new *car* cost just over 3 months of my salary. I would be afraid to take a ring that price out of the box - let alone wear it on a daily basis.
2007-11-26 08:54:08 · answer #2 · answered by SE 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So many men spend thousands on an engagement thinking that's what will please their girlfriends. If she is telling you she doesn't want that, don't do it. Simple as that.
Not every girl needs to have a $5,000 ring! My ring was about $2,300 and I picked it out myself. I couldn't be happier. Of course there were larger rings at the store, and I could have gotten anything I wanted but I was thinking rationally.
You still have a wedding to pay for! Which trust me is going to be expensive. If you haven't bought a home yet, you still have a lot of expenses in your life that will come along. You don't want to already be in debt before you get married just for a ring! That's not a way to start your marriage.
Just think - you can always buy her more diamonds later on in life for anniversaries.
2007-11-26 06:52:34 · answer #3 · answered by Paula Christine 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Smart Lady!
you can get her the style that she wants, but get a higher quality stone. That way, she gets a modest style ring, with a better quality.
The higher quality stones will have more value in the long term.
If you were planning on paying in cash, take the difference and put it in some kind of guaranteed growth investment. Im sure somewhere down the line, you might appreciate an extra 2K,
If you were planning on financing it, you get a break and don't have to go into debt, lucky you!
2007-11-28 04:27:46 · answer #4 · answered by lovesapples 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I wouldn't want a ring that expensive. I wanted a ring that I could wear ALL the time and not have to worry about it!
My husband chose my ring - I think it's much more special that way - and it was about 800, it's a solitaire with shoulder stones.
One of my sisters got an extremely expensive set of rings, and though they're gorgeous, she ended up just buying herself a plain gold band to wear because she was always worried about the other rings.
There are TONS of lovely rings available around the one grand mark and less! Remember, you still have to get the wedding band, you two have to pay for the wedding, and have some sort of money when you start your marriage!!!
A ring like this is just lovely -
http://www.kay.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/product1|10101|10001|-1|150356006|15051|15051.15057.15106
Sounds like you have a good woman there - she's not after you for your money! She understand the symbolism of the ring!
2007-11-27 05:27:39 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she's concerned about your finances. What an awesome girlfriend! I think you should set a budget that won't break the bank (if that's $4 - 5K, great!) and then buy her a high quality ring. Because she will be wearing the ring for the rest of her life, splurge on something nice, not something cheap.
2007-11-26 11:29:09 · answer #6 · answered by curious gal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you kidding me? The cost of the ring shouldn't be an issue. You get a ring the catches your eye because of the beauty (kinda like your girlfriend) not because of the price tag. Go ring shopping and ask the employee that helps you to not show you the price tag and when you find one that you love then that is the one you are to get. If it is 300.00 or if it is 6000.00 it does not matter what matters is the love that you share. O and remember you don't want to break the bank yet kids usually come sooner or later and they will break that bank for you.
2007-11-26 07:47:28 · answer #7 · answered by monkey 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I just got engaged over the weekend myself. My bf knew I wanted a 3 stone ring with round diamonds, and yes, I too have seen the adds for rings that were 1 to 2 grand and told my bf that would be fine with me. However, it was important to him to get a good quality diamond for my ring, so he knew he would spend more than that. This was a compromise for us - he had originally said he wanted to spend the traditional 3 months' salary on my ring, but I told him he'd better not (that would be about $12,000!), so he ended up spending around a little under $5,000 for a good quality ring, and I love it!
The moral of my little story is that you two need to decide what is important in a ring for the two of you, as my bf and I did, and compromise.
2007-11-26 07:43:01 · answer #8 · answered by Galaxie Girl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just purchased my engagement ring this weekend with fiance. :) The ring I picked out was $1000. I dont like a lot of ring because I think its pretenious and it makes me uncomfortable. The ring he picked out was $1600.
I ended up going home with the $1600 ring because it made him so happy when I put it on. I love him to pieces.
Respect your gurls wishes. I would be SO uncomfortable with a ring of that magnitude. So I understand where she is coming from. There are a lot of very nice rings available for $1000-2000. Anything over $2000 to me is just unnecessary foolishness.
Congrats and good luck!
2007-11-26 07:28:50 · answer #9 · answered by Mrs. Bethy O. 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The old rule of thumb is "3-months salary" should be an appropriate amount to spend on an engagment ring, but rather it is what you can afford. Remember it is the meaning BEHIND the ring that counts!
For $1500 to $5000, you will be able to find a beautiful ring!
2007-11-26 06:49:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would buy her the $1500-2500 dollar ring that she wants. If you can find one that's simular for less you could get that one too. Then I would put the rest of the $5K aside for a rainy day. You never know when an emergency might come up and you'll need that money.
2007-11-26 06:34:44 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋