2007-11-26 06:22:26 · 60 answers · asked by Corey G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
my girl of one year has been less than forthwright with me in the past. I don't think she has ever strayed. I don't trust her with my heart because she doesn't support me like I feel a partner should.
2007-11-26 07:15:05 · update #1
That doesn't make any sense. If they aren't trustworthy why would you want to trust them.
2007-11-26 06:24:20 · answer #1 · answered by ?? yaddajean ?? 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Dear Loving Soul,
There is no simple answer for any of this. They are either trustworthy or they are not. The best and worst thing about love is it's true unconditional nature. Since your question is vague.. the answers you get can only be general. So it's not easy to understand what you are feeling. You love someone so much you are almost unwilling to look at the tell tale signs of their trustworthiness and willing to over look the obvious. You have to sit and deeply reflect on why you are asking this! The answer is move on at all costs.. your love can never be fully realized or returned by someone you cannot trust. You deserve better and you need to believe that!
Sincerely,
A.S.
After adding to your own question, i can say you already have the answer your heart has given you and no matter what anyone says... if you your heart doesn't trust... then move on... your heart will find it's kindred soul....
2007-11-26 06:37:49 · answer #2 · answered by Angelisa Smiles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is an interesting question.
Trust is purely a decision made by you. It's a choice. A wise person would say that it's an informed choice, but it's still just a choice.
So you can choose to believe in the good intentions and good will of another person (trust them) at any time. Even if that person has not historically behaved in a way that supports such a decision.
Most people somehow think that their level of trust is intrinsically tied to how 'the other person' behaves. It isn't.
That said: me personally, I look very hard at decisions about someone who has historically lied, cheated, or stolen.
2007-11-26 06:29:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may take time but let them try to rebuild that trust with you. Their actions will speak louder than words. Let them feel that they can be honest with you and not feel as if they may get the 20 questions about where they have been.
It's obvious if their answers are for ex: I had errands, or they say they have done things and haven't done them. You will know. Do they answer their phone? Does their tone of voice change from normal conversations. Good luck
2007-11-26 06:35:17 · answer #4 · answered by Jill R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't. You can love them, but trust them is a different ball game. If you get screwed by that person, it is your fault. You knew not to trust them and left yourself open to getting hurt.
Dump them. The pain of love will not last forever, but the distrust will never, ever, ever stop.
Ulp! My bad. You are looking for somebody to tell you that your making this mistake is okay. Yes, you should stay with that person until it burns you to the ground. Love will conquer all!!! Your distrust will someday fade. Life will be grand.
2007-11-26 06:27:13 · answer #5 · answered by callawak2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust is an important part of relationships. If it doesn't exist in your relationship, you technically don't have a relationship (or at least not a healthy one).
Once trust is lost, it's nearly impossible to regain it again. Sorry, but you're better off cutting your losses and moving on.
2007-11-26 06:26:14 · answer #6 · answered by Sturm und Drang 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they are untrustworthy why are you with them. If you don't have trust in a relationship you don't have a relationship. You need to be able to trust the one one you love. Do you want to live your life always asking were they are, what are they doing. That's no way to have a relationship. You need to let them go and find some one who you will be able to trust.
2007-11-26 06:28:18 · answer #7 · answered by ♥LS♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well love equally divides out 50 love 50 trust. if you only got half of that , it won't work out so well. But I wouldnt say love if you know she's not trustworthy, maybe this is just a fling of a relationship for you.
2007-11-26 06:26:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly thats a tough ? becuz if you can love someone who is not trustworthy just takes a toll on to your relationship to the next level of hell.... when i first met my boyfriend a year ago.. i thought everything was going really well.. until i found out some things that turned into lies.. and honestly its really hard for me to trust him.. and im not talking about cheating.. just in general crap that guys do to make girls mad.. so its kinda hard to trust someone that can not be trusted
2007-11-26 06:29:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on what you mean by not trustworthy...
if you mean a relationship...and you suspect your mate of cheating on you...and still want to be with that person...i suggest controling everithing he or she does...everything behind his or her back.this way you won't be in doubt...you will always know the truth.i really hope you do this and discover u were wrong...feel miserable for a few days and have a really great relationship.
even if a person is not trustworthy in a way...for example...with a secret...it doesn't mean you can't relay on that person for everything else.
2007-11-26 06:35:26 · answer #10 · answered by Fluffy19 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is impossible. We all have episodes in our life where we have been dishonest. Trust is something that comes from behavior. The past behavior is a strong indicator of future behavior. If you enjoy sex with this person, that's OK, but don't get involved. Get it?
2007-11-26 06:27:30 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋