im 15. i know its not that old but i think there is something wrong with me cause everytime a guy throws himself at me, i reject him because im to scared to have sex. (Because of the pain). My friends say it hurts and stuff and thats what got me a little scared. then i heard it really hurts. Which got me even more nervous of losing it. So basically im wondering if there is a way make me less nervous wen it finally comes down to losing my virginity?
2007-11-26 06:02:00 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sweetie. You are only fifteen years old. Sex shouldn't be on your list of things to do. Do you really want to become a teenage mother? Trust me, my friends made that mistake and now they're struggling to raise a child on their own. And if you are nervous about losing it, that should indicate that you are definitly not ready for sex.
2007-11-26 06:06:08 · answer #1 · answered by Crystal♥of♥Iris 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
The best way to make you less nervous is to wait until a guy you truly love and have been in a relationship with for some time comes along and is willing to take it slow and make sure you're okay and feeling comfortable. It can hurt for some women so the best solution to that is a sensitive, loving partner (and you're not likely to find one of those at a drunken party). So you know, take your time and lose it with the right person.
Also it doesn't hurt everyone. I didn't really feel much pain when I lost my virginity.
2007-11-26 06:08:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
First off, it doesn't always hurt. I lost my virginity (I'm 19) just a week ago, and it didn't hurt me at all.
Also, just so you know I was always kind of worried about that too. I even told the guy that I'm with that. Nothing he said was able to assuage that worry, but I kind of just went with it.
I'm not going to make decisions for you, but I would suggest waiting anyways. You don't sound like your ready mentally yet, and it isn't something that you should do just to get done with. When you do go for it, make sure that it's with somebody who has your best interests in mind.
2007-11-29 14:39:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alcohol? Lol. Seriously, it's not that bad. You just have yourself all worked up over it. I was younger than you when I lost my virginity, as a matter of fact I'm just your age now. The first time is always a little scary. It's kind of awkward and for me there was some pain but it's really not that bad. Just relax and don't get so worked up about it. Just think about the next time because that'll be a whole lot better. It wasn't the first time that got me hooked. It was all the times after that.
2007-11-26 06:34:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you are just using that as an excuse because you aren't ready to lose it for non-physical reasons. There's nothing wrong with that. But there is no way to make it hurt less unless you are drunk which you shouldn't be at 15 or when you are losing you losing your virginity or when you are having sex at all. Best of luck to you.
2007-11-26 06:05:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am not your mother, but you should probably wait. However, I know how far that advice will go, SO make sure you are with someone who does care about you. This will make any physcial pain much more bearable. It sounds like you are not ready. Dont do it just because everyone is! It sounds like your rejection has happened more than once, so maybe slow down and it will happen when the time is right.
2007-11-26 06:33:32 · answer #6 · answered by pupgirl 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you are obviously not ready. thats pretty clear. i dont think its a fear of what your friends say about the "pain." personally i didnt have sex until i was 18. i was still scared but i was with the guy for 3 years and i knew i loved him. it didnt hurt.-you have to be comfortable with the person you are with-otherwise yeah it could hurt im sure. honestly i would wait, not worry about it, and when the right guy comes around who you grow close enough with, you wont be nervous. i dont mean to preach but i suggest you wait. you should be in no hurry to have sex. then all you will worry about it if you are pregnant. lol. sex isnt everything. enjoy your life as it is now and dont worry about sex. especially your first time-its suposed to be special & meaningful-dont ruin that. ;) im sure you dont look up to girls that have had sex-im sure people call them sluts and whores and every other name in the book. nobody especially at your age wants to be thought of as a slut or a whore. have self respect-wait.
2007-11-26 06:14:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2007-11-26 06:13:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
if your scared, your not ready. take my word for it. and once you do lose it, be sure its with the guy all your friends and fmaily adore, including yourself. you don't want to lose it to a jerk, or you'll regret it!
ps. it does hurt, but not like cramps, there will be a little bleeding. when you are ready, relax. nothing will make you less nervous, everyone is for ther first time.
2007-11-26 06:06:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
When you are with some one you really care about, I think it is more of a regret issue I hope you wait until you are older and are in a steady relationship and then when that time comes just relax if you are uptight it will hurt.
2007-11-26 06:09:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋