4 the past 6 months I been messing around with this guy we do everything couples do, but we never say we in a relationship I like really like him, and he like me I see him all the time. Should I just take my time with him casue he did tell the reason in don't want 2 be in a relationship cause his ex's cheated.
2007-11-26 05:13:34 · 29 answers · asked by citythang20 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell him how you feel and tell him don't judge all girls the same cuz we r not all the same.let him know that you really care and that you wouldn't cheat.(would you)I know the feeling my boyfriend was like that (his ex cheated)and we been 2gether for 3 years in Feb.and just last Dec he proposed to me .
2007-11-26 05:22:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the problem isn't that you haven't said you are together it's that you feel you are just the past time until someone else comes along to take his fancy you feel if he doesn't commit to saying your in a relationship than he doesn't have to commit to seeing just one person. He has a right to be nervous about getting hurt the only way to get around this is to see if he can get along without you for a few days if he rings you before you ring him than he depends on you to answer all his questions and be right there when he needs you you need to let him know that your not trying to pressure him into a relationship but you want more than a casual thing and that there really isn't much difference in what your doing and what would happen if you were in a relationship. you should tell him that if he trusts you enough to have a casual thing than he should trust you within a relationship and reassure him your scared of getting hurt to.
2007-11-26 13:24:18 · answer #2 · answered by emcc19 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is not a good reason. If you want more and he is unwilling to support you, then you should have a serious talk. Communication is the key to any relationship and if you can't communicate to yourselves and your friends that you are a couple, than you are not a couple. Find out what he wants. If he does care enough, he will trust you. I am sure if you hooked up with someone else he would be hurt, so why not call it what it is?
He must learn to trust again. It is not your fault, or his, that his ex cheated. Time for him to move on and for you to help him.
2007-11-26 13:19:37 · answer #3 · answered by Drew Carl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They can only use that excuse for so long. And they will try to keep on with that sad puppy dog crap, the "oh i got hurt in the last relationship so we better just f*** and not really go out". Ask him what his intentions are if you want more, if not, then just keep it like it is. Good luck!
2007-11-26 13:26:29 · answer #4 · answered by enochsangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the reason he doesn't want to be in a relationship is because you give him everything he wants without him having to commit to you or actually date you at all.....remember, you didn't cheat on him, someone else did....to hold that over you is a lame excuse!! He isn't dating you b/c he doesn't want to date you...and b/c you haven't given him any good reason to date you since you will 'do what couples do' without any sort of commitment.
2007-11-26 13:18:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is phony reason, but convenient. Why should he want to commit to anything when he already has everything he wants??? Take your time if this is all you ever want from a guy cause it is all you are going to get here. If you don't want a NSA sexual relationship, you should not start one.
2007-11-26 13:19:02 · answer #6 · answered by Wiz 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont know him but i know for facts that some guys say that as an excuse for refusing a relationship. not to say that he doesnt like you, maybe he does, but some ppl prefer to be single so that they can mess around w/ more than one person...just be careful n maybe take time to see who he really is before you make a decision. go w/ ur instinct.
2007-11-26 13:17:40 · answer #7 · answered by tsf_michelle 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're being messed over. If you're giving it up and doing everything else, why should he even try to get serious about you? And you're okay with it, so either keep things the way they are or grow up and move on.
2007-11-26 13:21:44 · answer #8 · answered by [♥]ÿºú-kñºw-whº[♥] 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Taking your time is not a bad idea... You are considering his feelings and situation which is a good thing... Just make sure both of you are on the same page and you both want the same things.
2007-11-26 13:17:49 · answer #9 · answered by Johnny Pumps 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this feeling. I think that you should leave everything the same. You might mess it up, If he wants to be with you, You will know. I hate the game playing .
2007-11-26 13:17:59 · answer #10 · answered by Jamonican 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋