I am 21 and still i act as a kid sometimes ...... now people realize me and really get sad ......
they say i got elder now should get mature... i can't get this term
"Mature "
can anyone tell me
2007-11-26 05:00:32 · 27 answers · asked by abdul aziz 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
To become mature means to:
1. Calm down. Restrict any improper actions or comments.
2. Control your body and facial reactions. Be aware of the expression on your face. Try to keep a calm expression.
3. Speak calmly with proper English...don't use slang.
4. Dress like an adult...
5. Be respectful and positive. Compliment people HONESTLY if you like something about them.
6. Stand/sit with good posture.
7. Listen when people speak to you. Answer yes and no, and look people in the eye without staring them down.
8. Be interested in helping people.
9. Be good in general. Don't get into crime.
10. Choose friends who have the same mature values.
Mature doesn't mean "OLD"....it means ADULT. You can definitely find ways to incorporate maturity into your own self image. You can still be yourself...it just means being more considerate to everyone around you.
My husband is 10 years younger than me. I met him when he was 24/ I was 34. He was so mature for his age, I didn't know he was so young. We are now 30/40, and he is still sometimes more mature than I am. Definitely more considerate.
2007-11-26 05:07:09 · answer #1 · answered by gg 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dear 21 year old. Maturity is something that takes time and lots of living-generally- to acquire. However, there are things you CAN do to help yourself. 1) Make a Decision to stop being a child. Children act stupid because they have no guidance. You get to be your own best guide and make a decision to self teach, on how to be a mature human. You will not get help from your family or so called friends, because they do not know how either. Real maturity happens when you decide to step out of the actions that the masses do, and make decisions not based on emotion. This is called "emotional sobriety" and takes lots of work 2) Decide to educate yourself on "who you want to be" which is not what your family wants for you. When you think about this in depth, you will see that you have abilities and understandings that you can use in all aspects of life. Just be careful how you do this. 3) Decide to change. If you get feedback from others that says "grow up and be mature" then make a decision to "grow up". Put away- as in STOP- the behaviors that make people tell you-"grow up".
Once you- YOU decide to be mature and grow up- all your so called 'friends' will drop away and the path to a new life will open up- your life is a choice, understand for the most part it will be a solitary one because most of humanity is asleep and they have no clue about much of anything. I know- 50+ years of living have educated me much in all this. Make new decisions and you can create a new life. Listen to your 'inner guidance' however you understand this and you'll always know everything you need in the moment.
2007-11-26 05:19:16 · answer #2 · answered by awareness21 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really depends on what you are calling mature and "act as a kid". It is nice to keep a young mind and spirit as you age. Mature means you accept the responsibility for your actions and support yourself with a good education and good paying job...or at least contribute something to the world. Being a kids means you still see the fun in life and enjoy, playing and watching the clouds. You can be both.
But when in doubt, KEEP YOUR MOUTH SHUT. That way those around you think you are wise,at least until you open your mouth and prove them wrong. Plus you can learn a lot more listening rather than talking.
And I've always said that ....I want to die young as late in life as possible.
2007-11-26 05:12:06 · answer #3 · answered by Lyn B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some People Never grow up.we all act like kids sometimes no matter if we are 21 or 41 .A mature person to me is one who pays there bills on time and has a job and if they have a spouse and kids take care of them,even if they have all this they can still act like a kid,who wants to be a shriveled up prune all there life? Not Me!!
2007-11-26 05:10:41 · answer #4 · answered by Dew 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To act like an outstanding citizen and approach situations with an adult mind is mature. More terms go along with being mature, but I can't put my finger on all of them right now. Just stop acting childish and think before you speak. That's basically in a nutshell a way to be mature.
2007-11-26 05:05:17 · answer #5 · answered by C-Puff! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maturity happens when you start to learn and realize the seriousness of your actions. You would also benefit from listening to your elders. People that have already been down that same road that you travel. If you want sound advice, listen to the old man.
2007-11-26 05:05:56 · answer #6 · answered by oldschoolelf 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If how you are behaving isn't working for you then asking for help, as you have, is a "mature" way to start. It demonstrates humility and vulnerability.
Take responsibility for your actions and their consequences. All of them, even unintended results. "Blame" and "fault" have no place in an adult's vocabulary.
Keep your affairs, your world, and your appearance clean and tidy.
Understand and practice "A time for everything". There are times when it is good (necessary, even) to play and be silly and have fun. There are times when it is appropriate to be loud and boisterous. There are also times to be reserved, respectful. There are times to be serious and thoughtful.
Learn how to identify when these times are so that you can respond appropriately.
I find it is often helpful to restrain my first impulse; give just another moment's thought to what I am about to say or do. This spares me much embarassment.
Watch others around you that you admire. Observe how they behave, how they speak.
2007-11-26 05:17:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well maturity is responsibility. Responsibility for your actions and the consequences they would have. Responsibility for your money and being wise in the spending of it. Responsibility for doing your studies or work even when you want to do something else. Being responsible with women. Not taking advantage of them and treating them like a lady rather than someone to be used. Maturity is not being so selfish and being more selfless. Realizing the world does not revolve around you and your immediate wants but revolves around others and their needs and desires.
2007-11-26 05:05:31 · answer #8 · answered by Christian R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does it get to you that you as you say "act as a kid" or is it others perception of you that gets to you.
Other people dont matter, you do. Being mature comes with age and learning.
In other words if it matters to you then thats very important if it matters to anyone else but not you dont let it worry you. People should take you for who you are :)
Smile my friend.
2007-11-26 05:04:27 · answer #9 · answered by Kingdiana Jones 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being mature is all about self-control. Whenever you have the urge to do or say something, think to yourself, "Is this approrpriate for a 21 year old?"
Also, are you living the lifestyle a 21 year old should be living...finishing up school, getting a job, living on your own, etc..
2007-11-26 05:06:39 · answer #10 · answered by Stacy A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋