2007-11-26 04:59:45 · 33 answers · asked by Greg G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
YES! Unless you have known this person your entire life, know their likes and dislikes, know what kind of temperament they have, and understand you can't change a thing about them, you should not propose. Three weeks is not long enough to learn enough about a person to make such a huge decision.
And personally, if a guy told me he loved me after three weeks--much less proposed--I would be running for the door.
2007-11-26 05:04:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
You know this question is hard to answer. I got engaged after 3 months of dating my now husband. We said i love you after 3 weeks.
And i was totally against love and blah blah blah. Every other relationship i've had where the guy said i love you after like a week or two, i bolted. But with my husband, it was different.
I just knew.
But honestly 3 weeks is too soon. We've been married for 3 months now and been together for a year and 8 months. And there's still things i learn about him.
I think you should take your time.... there is no reason to rush something so important as marraige.
2007-11-26 09:04:56 · answer #2 · answered by Denise 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think so. You should really date at least 6 months but preferably at least a year, but no longer than 2 before you get engaged. And keep the engagement as short as possible- that helps to keep you out of trouble.
Three weeks is really not enough time to really get to know them. It is important to really get to know them- that can take several months or a year or two. We can all put on heirs and make ourselves look good for a few weeks, but that is hard to keep up for an extended period of time. Love is essential to a happy marriage, but it is not enough for a good marriage.
Edit**
My grandparents were married 6 weeks after they met. Saturday will be their 66th anniversary. That was a different time though. Most people then had a sense of responsibility and were committed to making marriages work. Most people then had similar values.
I think that people are different now and attitudes and values are so much different than they were in the 40's. I would be really weary of getting married that fast in this day and age.
2007-11-26 05:43:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would hate to say flat out "YES", but really, it is hard to say that 3 weeks is enough time to establish a relationship. There is so much you do not know about the person in such a short amount of time...also, remember, initially, the feeling you have for the person are infatuation, not love, it takes time for love, real love, to develop. You will hear some people who got married quickly, if it worked out over the long haul, will say that they learned to love the other person but it was not overnight. Still, this requires a great deal of dedication and commitment. I firmly believe anything worth having is worth waiting for...why not take some time to get to really know each other if possible. I am sure, if this is mean to be, that your feelings for each other will just continue to grow and you will be at greater peace if/when you decide to enter a life of marriage together. God bless you!
2007-11-29 00:38:45 · answer #4 · answered by mdn31 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why rush it? If you're so in love that you'll be together forever, you have plenty of time!
For most people three weeks would be rushing it. Even if you've been friends forever, relationships are different. It takes time to develop a strong relationship. The feelings at the beginning of a relationship may be strong but they are often just puppy love.
Take your time and make sure you'll be happy! Waiting a few months is better than going through a lengthy divorce later!
Good luck!
2007-11-26 09:29:37 · answer #5 · answered by Laura B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people will agree that usually 3 weeks is not enough time to really know someone.
But sometime situations and circumstances are unusual enough where the time frame might not have anything to do with love or marriage.
We've all heard stories about those couples who only met for a couple of days and ended up married for 50 years. Although I must admit those are relatively rare.
2007-11-26 05:06:15 · answer #6 · answered by Benji's Mommy 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Every relationship is different is marriage something you have already discussed?
I had been dating my fiance for 5 days when he first, unofficially asked me to marry him, he didn't officially ask me (with a ring) until a month and a half into our relationship.
My parents had a long courtship, almost 2 years before my father proposed but my fiance's parents dated for 2 months before becoming engaged. Both sets of parents were married in '79 and are all still happily married to this day.
I think that just goes to show that when you feel that it's right you should act upon that. Who are we to tell you what to do, all we can do is give advice. I hope mine gave you something to think upon.
2007-11-26 06:11:50 · answer #7 · answered by Dodger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By most of society's standards...yes. But that is coming from the same society that encourages cheating, unhealthy marriages and no real preparation for marriage, either. That being said...YOU make the call. Its YOUR life. There is a lot to consider. But as a starting point...the fact you are asking if its too soon might be a hint.
Stick with this person for 6 months...see if your feelings have gotten stronger and then go from there. 6 months is nothing...it will fly by.
Good Luck!
2007-11-26 05:08:52 · answer #8 · answered by daisee1203 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Of course 3 weeks is too soon to marry you have to get to know the person. Sometimes someone may not show their bad ways before marriage i think you should realy get to know them before marrying
2007-11-26 05:51:15 · answer #9 · answered by Denise B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My grandparents got married one month after their 1st date...they just celebrated their 50th anniversery.
My best friend and her husband were 17 when they met almost 18. He proposed after a month. They married 6 mos later after they both turned 18 and have been married 16 1/2 years. So who knows maybe it will work. I would wait at least 6 mos to actually get married however.
2007-11-26 06:16:06 · answer #10 · answered by Ladybugs77 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my fiance proposed to me after 2 months. most people, including my family consider that to be too soon, but we spend every second possible together and have already been through a lot.
i'm getting married on Dec 27, 2007 to the most wonderful guy ever! i'm so excited. we decided to get married a couple of months after meeting, but he gave me the ring a couple of weeks ago.
my grandparents knew each other for 2 weeks before they got married, and no, she wasn't pregnant :)
best of luck!
2007-11-26 05:14:47 · answer #11 · answered by Loon-A-TiK 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋