My boyfriend has some feelings for his ex. Which is a serious problem. I also feel like he wants to do more smoking than be with me. Please give reasonable answers. :]
2007-11-26 04:50:11 · 4 answers · asked by brittbeez666 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well about the feelings for his ex...you should definitely let him know that you don't like that at all. It depends on how long you 2 have been together. If it's been a year or longer, then he definitely shouldn't be having those feelings for his ex. I would break up with him. But if you 2 haven't been dating but a couple weeks or months, then let him know how you feel and give it some time. But if he has feelings for another girl while he's with you, that's just not right or fair to you. Now about smoking...that's going have to be something that he stops. You can't make someone stop smoking, they have to want to do it and do it on their own. Just let him know how this all makes you feel. If he cares for you he will try his best to forget about his ex and try to quit smoking. I wish you the best no matter what!!!
2007-11-26 04:58:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is obvious he is NOT your "boyfriend" but you are providing a convenient sexual outlet when he is not involved in more important things; like smoking and being with the person he really wants to be with. A reasonable answer is that you should dump him. He will never quit smoking unless he wants to, there is nothing you can do about it.
Find someone who is interested in you, all you can get out of this is a future abusive relationship.
2007-11-26 13:00:05 · answer #2 · answered by Wiz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, here are two problems: 1) He's thinking about someone else, 2) He rather smoke cigs than be with you.
You need to ask yourself if this is the type of guy you want to be with. Being in a relationship means you need to make sacrifices and it sounds like this guy isn't willing to do that. You need to sit down with him and address the problems he has; if he doesn't give adequate effort to change his ways, then maybe he isn't a good fit for you.
2007-11-26 12:55:30 · answer #3 · answered by flyboop_2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simply tell him "It is either me or your ex and you can not have both"
2007-11-26 12:53:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋