I am trying to plan my wedding and the EX girlfriend of my husband to be keeps calling, sending text messages, emails, you name it she is doing it. I am trying not to let it bother me, but it's getting old. We have both asked her to stop with the communication. But she keeps on talking trash. SHort of changing our phone numbers and emails, what can we do? I want to get through this planning without the added stress.
Thanks
2007-11-26 04:17:39 · 23 answers · asked by MRS SOLOMON 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Stop responding to all forms of communication. As long as she knows she's getting to you both, she will keep doing it. If you have done this, and it doesn't work, go to the police and see if you can get a restraining order on her!
Also, make sure the day of the wedding you have someone there to deal with her in case she decides to crash the wedding.
2007-11-26 05:27:38 · answer #1 · answered by kimandryan2008 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Unless the Hubby to be is firm and tells her to stop - and means it, it will continue. You can block her cell number, and the calls and texts will stop, and you can block her email and the emails will stop. She can talk all the trash she wants, but it's only effective if you are listening. You need to quit listening. The only other thing you could possibly do is seek a no-contact order from the court, citing harassment and emotional stress. That will cost you generally about $100 in most places, and it's just a piece of paper that she can choose to ignore. It's been my experience that most of the time, unless there is a history of abuse or an actual endangerment, law enforcement only occasionally arrests a person for violation of a no-contact order, usually because there is no room in the jail, and the prosecutors won't take the case. Best of luck on your wedding.
2007-11-26 12:27:00 · answer #2 · answered by Mangy Coyote 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have both already warned her. I think if your fiance does not react to her communication (do not reply to emails, hang up immediately if she calls without saying a word to her, close the door without speaking if she comes to work or home) she will eventually give up. As long as he yells at her or asks her to stop, or otherwise engage in conversation with her, she is getting what she wants. In the meanwhile, keep a log of things she does and your reaction.
If that still doesnt work, warn her once you will call the police the next time-- then make good on it.
2007-11-26 12:41:38 · answer #3 · answered by fizzy stuff 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Speak to your local police department and contact your phone company about having her # blocked.
The police will be able to determine if this is stalking or is still in a 'harmless' stage.
Most importantly, be sure to stick to your guns that you do not want this woman contacting you or your husband-to-be. You must agree to carry through any charges the police feel are appropriate.
You cannot stop the trash talk, but you can send a clear message that you will not stand for being stalked and harrassed.
2007-11-26 12:37:37 · answer #4 · answered by nova_queen_28 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I had to change my number a while back due to some "friends" I was trying to distance myself from. You can literally feel the weight being pulled from your shoulders! Change your phone numbers, get new e-mail addresses (or block her from your current ones), and if she somehow continues to persist get a restraining order.
Also, does she know the day of your wedding? If so, you may want to warn your ushers about her and, if your fiance has a picture of her, give them the picture so that they can act as bouncers. You may want to consider an invitation-only service due to this very poor-taste and classless person. I'm sorry you're being put through this. Good luck!
2007-11-26 12:36:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have tried talking to her and it didn't change anything. It's totally worth it to change your phone numbers and emails. However if you just refuse to do that, then file a police report for harassment. Do NOT respond back to her, it will make her look better if you do. Just file a police report for harassment and keep all the correspondence she sends you.
Also, you may want to consider not publishing the details of where your wedding will be in the paper or on a public venue like myspace. Don't want her to wreck your wedding!
2007-11-26 12:21:30 · answer #6 · answered by aaaaaaaaaaaaaaa 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Stop responding. As soon as you see her ID or whatever, delete it. Don't even read it or open it. Treat it like any other junk or spam mail/call.
She gets what she wants the minute either of you take the call, texts back or emails her with any kind of opinion.
And if you believe that wouldn't work, try 'Sugar Sweet'. Glad she called because you need her help with some kind of decision about the wedding. That should at least shock her.
2007-11-26 12:33:53 · answer #7 · answered by Sandie B 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If he really didn't wanna talk to her, then he could block her email address from sending him emails and on your cell phone, he can block her number from calling him. As far as your house phone, i would just change that .
2007-11-26 16:45:55 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs.Calhoun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you want her to stop your gonna have to change your number and emails... and a restraning order... thats what you need! and if she keeps on even though you put a restraining order on her... you call the police and she goes to jail!!! thats the only way to do it.... i hope she doesnt know where you live... or that you guys share the same friends... theres crazy people out there... well CONGRATS ON YOUR WEDDING! i wish you the best and dont let this girl ruin your life and "your big day"
2007-11-26 12:24:15 · answer #9 · answered by Guess Who 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell her to leave you alone or you will get a restraining order. Or have a friend that she doesn't know call and pretend to be a lawyer asking for her address so she can be served papers for a restraining order. If that doesn't work, get the order.
2007-11-26 13:33:52 · answer #10 · answered by Allison L 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋