And how can I change my attitude to become a whole new person? im only 17
2007-11-26 03:59:01 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Trust me...once a cheat always a cheat.
I would cuff him to the bed and leave him there!!!!! Get him all excited by wearing lovely gear and then get up and leave him stranded!
2007-11-26 04:12:18 · answer #1 · answered by laplandfan 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, I suggest you do some soul searching. Why do you feel the need to hang onto a guy who cheated on you? Sounds like serious issues with self esteem and self worth.
The attitude change I suggest is thinking more highly of yourself, start off by doing whats best for your own self esteem and dump the jerk. Second, I would suggest you re-evaluate your sexual needs and desires. Avoid using sex to get or keep a boyfriend. Changing how you act in the bedroom will not change him. It only changes you. He has a character defect that cannot ever be changed, he is and always will be a cheater. Your new attitude in becoming a new person should be: I am a wonderful person, deserving of love and faithfulness. I will accept nothing less than total commitment and loyalty in my relationships. I am worth it and I deserve to be treated with respect.
2007-11-26 14:48:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes I cannot believe the questions that come from teens. Your boyfriend cheated on you, a month ago and you still choose to stay with him.
On top of that you want to know "what are some sexy new things I can do in the bedroom?"
How can you become a whole new person"
My dear girl, that is easy. First of all you dump that jerk from your life, then you start afresh.
You write down all the dreams you have regarding what you would like to do for a living (don't even think of HOW you can obtain your dream) then go down the list, and one by one cross out the ones that are not that important.
When you have one particular dream picked out, you start aiming towards it.
You are 17, you have your whole life ahead of you to get a serious boyfriend, to get married and have children.
Why don't you make something of yourself first, and then you will have the opportunity to live a better life than you are now.
Do you want to be mother at age 18 or 19.? I know, that will never happen to you right? How many girls do you think has said that one.
You are trying to get a boy back into your life, that cheated on you, by being more sexy? That befuggles my mind.
Girl, you have 70 years of more ahead of you, you don't want to ruin it now, at age 17.
So you try something sexy and he is there for a few days or weeks. You have a good chance of getting pregnant during this "sexy" time and then he finds out you are pregnant, he turns and runs as fast as he can.
You end up with a baby, and no father to help you raise it.
This is a very common picture.
This jerk will be going from one girl to another for a long time and he will be getting what he wants, from gullible girls like you.
He is not worth you giving him one minute of your time.
Grow up, for your own sake, and start making mature choices, so that your life will be better in the future.
Where are your parents in this picture?
2007-11-26 12:15:53 · answer #3 · answered by Maureen S 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
About the boyfriend, get rid of him now. You are better without that. Trust me. It's not like you have years and years together and kids,house etc, you have nothing but your whole life ahead of you, do you want to settle for that?
About changing your attitude to become a whole new person, that's a great idea, get rid of your notion that you are the one who has to change for someone else. You should concentrate on figuring out who you are and what you want out of life. Then make a plan to go about doing that. Mistakes along the way will happen, that's true, but it's how you work through them and learn that defines you as a person. Good Luck honey! you'll be fine.
2007-11-26 12:24:14 · answer #4 · answered by Mrs. Moltisanti 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the fact that your only17 shows in your question. First of all you cannot be a new person, so forget it. Secondly, he probably cheated because he's not ready for one girl. Men hit their sexual peak at 18yrs old, women hit their sexual peak at 30yrs old, basic "fact". You cannot hold him with sex alone, because it's a variety of women that turn him on, men a visual creatures and can get turned on just seeing a woman that pleases them visually. It would do you some good to look into sexual studies. Cause your bangging your head of the wall for nothing. He's too young to be tied down. That's why you find very few guys married or in long term relationships at 17-24, these are usually experimental or learning yrs, even if they are, it rarely lasts past 3 or 4 yrs and that on the high end of the scale. He did, what he did, because he wanted to, end of story!!!!
2007-11-26 12:26:22 · answer #5 · answered by ferochira 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a guy cheats once he will do it again . I know I cheated slot on my Ex but now that I am with a new love and I won't . I have learned that if I do it once it is over . It is not about how sexy you are but what he is looking for . If you think you can make him not cheat again you are to young to be having sex and to be in a relationship. It is all about just getting something he done have now not having a relationship with someone else . To out it bluntly she was just a f..k and that's all . Just a piece that he wanted to get into . No matter what you do it is going to happen again because you think it was your fault he cheated and he will use it to do it again and blame you for it .
2007-11-26 12:10:46 · answer #6 · answered by knightrunner13 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your boyfriend cheated on you, why would you want to stay with him. Personally, once a cheater, always a cheater...he probably more than what you know. Don't change just to keep him....LEAVE HIM!!! He's not worth plus you 17....not too young to have sex...your almost 18, but too young to mess up something that can't be fixed...find someone else.
2007-11-26 12:04:00 · answer #7 · answered by Philly_Mami 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont you dare take the blame for his cheating! I dont need to know what he's said to you and blamed you for, I already know it is not your fault for what he did. No one can hide behind an excuse for cheating, ultimately THEY decided to do it. And they should have decided NOT to if they were a decent person.
The best thing you can do for yourself right now is get rid of him. Get some self esteem and some friends, and dont let anyone abuse you or tell you you need to change to please them!!!!
You're only 17 and naiive, you dont know how this works yet. He's told you you are too young/inexperienced to please him so you have to work harder. Really what he is doing is taking advantage of your inexperience (WHICH IS NOT A BAD THING AND NOT YOUR FAULT) to ABUSE you. Your lover should take every care of you, your body and your emotions and treat you like a princess. Save yourself for that man. That's the change you should make.
2007-11-26 12:25:17 · answer #8 · answered by Wonderwoman 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd like to know why you assume it's your fault that your b/f cheated on you!
You know what needs to change? The way you value yourself.
You don't need to improve anything, or dress in sexy lingerie to keep a guy.
Guys are a dime a dozen, and you'll meet your fair share of keepers and throw backs.
And in this case, this dude you're sleeping with is a throw back.
2007-11-26 12:22:22 · answer #9 · answered by Ella 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My first advice for you is to leave him.... you are only 17, you are way too young to be worrying about this, what makes you think just because you get kinkery in bed that all of sudden he will be faithful to you? Not hardly, just be blessed that it happened now than until you got married, I am sorry that I am being so harsh to you, but there is no kids involved, no marriage invovled, get out, if he truly did love you he wouldn't have done it in the first place, get some self condience and leave him, you need to love your self and then him, and also you need to think of all the stds and aids that he could be bringing to your door step, that ain't love your just for sex to him.
2007-11-26 12:40:18 · answer #10 · answered by kelly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me get this straight: he cheated on you and YOU'RE the one feeling like you need to change things about yourself?
geez - get some damn self esteem!!! honey, when a man cheats,it's not YOUR fault - there is something wrong with THEM. It takes a very dishonest person to cheat on someone they profess to love. Do you really want to be with someone who obviously doesn't know how to treat people and how to be honest in a r'ship? Have a damn spine! You need to break it off with him because no matter how sexy you make yourself, he'll just cheat on you again and you'll kick yourself for being so incredibly stupid.
2007-11-26 12:13:07 · answer #11 · answered by bestadvicechick 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋