I am 24 with a 2 year old daughter. I know I'm pretty not to be conceited but I am. Everytime I meet a guy everything is fine until I tell them I have a child. Be completely honest. Would you want to date a woman with a child? If not tell me why not.
2007-11-26 03:58:15 · 39 answers · asked by luxemomny 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm not looking for finanical support. I just want a companion. My daughter has a father, a deadbeat father.
2007-11-26 04:13:49 · update #1
what are you worried about ? Your child son/daughter is basically screening the idiots out for you. The guy who is willing to get involved with both of you is clearly demonstrating maturity, committment and a capacity to love you both.
Just wait, the right one will come along. :)
2007-11-26 04:02:23 · answer #1 · answered by acresswell2003 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's really not that simple. My answer is yes I would date a single mom. But I'm a single dad. Most guys view it as instant family and don't want the responsibility. And honestly count your blessings. You definitely don't want a guy to become a reluctant participant where a kid's involved. I've not experienced the same thing though. Women are far more willing to date a guy with kids. But if the kids live with the dad, much different story. They back off really quick. And honestly, I am glad of that. If the other person doesn't embrace the things that are a part of us, then really I don't want to be with them anyway. Everyone has baggage of some sort. There are plenty of guys out there that aren't as shallow and would totally embrace the kid. It's hard to wait and dissappointing but I promise you don't have to settle for a creepy old balding guy with really bad habits. Hold your standards and a guy will come along that embraces you and your child with both arms. He's worth the wait.
2007-11-26 04:07:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
For single guys, having a child is going to be a strike against you. Most guys want to have a relationship with you and you alone, and if you have a child it complicates things. I know a lot of women get p!$$ed off at guys who refer to single moms as having "baggage," but look at it from our perspective: If a woman dates or marries a jerk, gets pregnant, has the child, and kicks the jerk to the curb (not necessarily in that order), why is it unfair of a guy to steer clear of such women? What's wrong with a guy wanting to date a girl as opposed to being an instant Daddy or having to schedule dates around the woman's child?
You'll find a different attitude with single guys who have children though. They understand how it is to have your first responsibility to your kids.
2007-11-26 04:08:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most guys prefer to start their own family rather than having to deal with someone else's child. And they don't know if the child's father is in the picture still as that may create problems in the new relationship. Your average guy would much rather create his own personal offspring. I personally don't have a problem with dating a woman with a child. But, then again, I'm not your average kind of guy.
2007-11-26 04:08:18 · answer #4 · answered by Tripod T 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YES, I would, You should have that be one of your 1st topics of Conversation.... rather than let that be a deal breaker- ..
You do have a Child So you need to find a guy Who can handle You With a child, being a mother is a great thing..
kids are awesome too,
be up front, Even try to Only meet the guys where you are with your child, and above all be a good example to that child
and good luck, :)
2007-11-26 04:07:39 · answer #5 · answered by t m 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Speaking from personal experience, yes. I have and I would again. Some people consider a child "Excess Baggage" I'm not wired that way. As long as you are up front with the fact you are a mom of a young child, you will certainly find someone who can deal with that. Lots of luck to you!
2016-05-26 00:24:32 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am younger that you but if i am in love with a woman i don't care if she has children once she is single. Cause to be in love with a woman who has kids and is married that is not right no matter how hot or beautiful she is. Don't worry u will find someone who will love u and your daughter and hopefully u will spend the rest of your life with him. P.S There are guys who will tell u this same thing and they just want to have sex with u. So be careful k. This happened to my fren
2007-11-26 04:07:19 · answer #7 · answered by Denz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most guys don't genuinely like kids until they have their own. They might say the opposite, but not on a lie detector.
Me? I've never had kids but I like them anyway. When I was in my 20s, the whole family thing might have been a bit more intense than I wanted to get into. Now (50+) it wouldn't bother me at all, as long as the kid was reasonably well behaved. (But kids learn behavior from their parents, and any lady I'd like would teach good behavior.)
2007-11-26 04:25:05 · answer #8 · answered by Tom V 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some guys just aren't ready to be dads, or even to have a child of any age in their lives. That's okay for them, but if that's how they feel then they are not the kind of man you need in your life right now. You might like them, and they might like you, but it would not be good for your child.
If I were younger and single I would have no problem dating a woman with a child, but that's me. You have your whole life ahead of you (I know that's a cliche). You can take your time. Enjoy your freedom. Date lots of guys. Sooner or later you'll find one who, like me, loves children and who will love your daughter as well as loving you.
Best of luck to you!!
2007-11-26 04:09:05 · answer #9 · answered by Don P 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Looks isn't everything. Most guys out there are just there to get some from a pretty face.
I would date you, but I gotta know the type of person you are. Try not to rush guys into being a father figure for your child because the is kind of scary.
2007-11-26 04:04:49 · answer #10 · answered by cheng 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋