Is it only me or is it you too ?? See.. from my childhood I have been falling in love in a strange way..
When I was around 6 I fell in love and desired physically a man over his twenties...
This feels odd sharing this info.. but in fact I have been even masturbating without knowing it when I was around that age, which is six and over.. I had a physical exercise, which i explained and thought was an exercise for stomach muscles, but later I realized this is called 'ORGASM' !!
The entire childhood was full of love stories.. In the first grade I jumped on one boy classmate and started kissing him on his cheek and hugging him and everything.. I must say, he was frightened !!
Then I kept 'falling in love' with people I desperately SHOULD NOT BE FALLING IN LOVE WITH !!! And they are my mother's and aunts boyfriends !!! And the most embarrassing thing is that i cannot hide these feelings, I could sense they knew it !!! And I just wished I or they disappeared !!
And now.. As soon as I get acquainted with a male parson, I automatically start including the ‘crush’ thing !!! And I REALLY REALLY REALLY wish I didn’t !!! It just distracts me from the relationship, the discussions everything to do with that person.. And I hate it !!!
What’s with me for God’s sake ?!?! You don’t have to answer that, it would do good for me if I found you are like that too. I would be satisfied then.
This is a sort of topic that will attract abusive answers, I warn you, I don’t wish to see them !!!
2007-11-26 03:37:45 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
18 right now...soon 19
2007-11-26 03:43:27 · update #1
I agree.... some cases are not love.. It is as If my soul exists separately and ody separately... sould might LOVE the person, but the body doesn't care how it is.. it just has a crush.. and of ocurse especially on the one where there is real love invloved !!!
2007-11-26 03:46:54 · update #2
Without further details, I could be way off base here, but it sounds as if you have desperately sought a father figure in your life. I don't know your history, but from the sounds of what you've said, that would be my guess.
Perhaps a little one on one counseling is in order. I think you can then choose a contemporary love partner for all the right reasons, instead of the wrong ones.
Good Luck! Keep hanging in there and seeking answers though, it shows you want something better for yourself and I think that's a very positive sign.
2007-11-26 03:43:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he's falling out of love - i could say whether this became into long-distance or no longer, it regrettably wasn't meant to be. you want somebody who desires to be with you no-remember-what. specifically circumstances the lines get fuzzy once you have a protracted-distance courting because of the fact the expectancies are so intense, however the intimacy (no longer actual, yet sharing with the daily of seeing one yet another) wanes. If he's choosing somebody else - then he did you an incredible want. You deserve greater desirable than that lady pal!! only be attentive to that no person compares to you. you're particular! there is somebody obtainable who needs only you. God Bless!:)
2016-09-30 04:47:43 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, perhaps you have low self-esteem. Or perhaps you are just a physical person who has had needs for a long time.
Either way, I don't believe these attractions you have are love. They are crushes, infactuations, even lust ...but not love. Love is a mature emotiion, and both parties should be involved.
Of course you don't need to be lusting after your mother or sisters boyfriends, that's a power thing there.
Learn some boundries. How ever young you are, masturbating is ok. Just do it in private and in moderation. That's your business.
But don't involve other people unless you and they are both consenting adults.
2007-11-26 03:44:05 · answer #3 · answered by Pamela V 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think you have always wanted to be accepted by males. it kinda rings true with what you said about always wanting the older ones. were you abused as a child? i mean in a sexual way. no this is not a joke answer. something about what you said made that pop in my head. i ask cause a friend of mine was always doing the same thing. come to find out she was the victim of sexual abuse. NOT SAYING THAT YOU WERE THOUGH!! how old are you? i did not see that in your question. hope this helps and everything works out for you.
2007-11-26 03:45:15 · answer #4 · answered by joe e 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to get therapy. (I am not saying it in a horrible way). These things you have described seem very unhealthy and you have to figure out where they are coming from in order to overcome them and get into a healthy frame of mind.
2007-11-26 03:50:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are seeking physical attention and this could become dangerous in some circumstances. I would advise going to counseling to talk about this to see what has caused this.
2007-11-26 03:42:59 · answer #6 · answered by glamour04111 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please do not take this the wrong way but I think you need to seek professional help. A good counsellor or psychiatrist will be able to help you out, ask your Dr to refer you.
Good luck
2007-11-26 03:44:08 · answer #7 · answered by Witch 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? I don't think those things can really be considered falling in love. Maybe it was infatuation. Or maybe even lust.
2007-11-26 03:41:54 · answer #8 · answered by nez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A therapist could help you get to the root of what is causing all of this.
2007-11-26 03:41:31 · answer #9 · answered by Marina 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think this is lust not love
2007-11-26 03:41:27 · answer #10 · answered by goodgirlabout2gobad 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋