Is it Possible to Live With a Boyfriend that you are having a "Break" from or not dating.?

Question

I am looking at a problem at the moment. i had already posted a question about this. and from the answers i got, i was thinking.
Is is possible to still live with someone for the time being, until a lease is up or until things maybe work themselves out.
I have a three bedroom apartment, so i would be getting a roommate anyways, but he would have to go back and live with his parents. Which i know he doesn't want to do . I have no where to go , family not in town and no friends with room, so i would have to find a new apartment.
So another choice is... to continue living together, and having him move out of the bedroom... is this even possible... i hadn't considered it until a few people suggested it to me... I was wondering if anyone can speak from experiance.
I still really care about him, hes my best friend... i just don't feel the spark anymore. I don't see this as a forever thing.
I'm 24 and hes 26. SO we are mature working people.

Answer 1

Life isn't exactly the set of "Friends". It's possible, but very difficult to keep living in the same house as a friend of someone you were intimate or in a relationship with. Awkward would be a better explanation. Even though you wouldn't be a couple anymore, you would still be getting a close look at what the other person does everyday. If he brought home another girl, you might end up feeling hurt or jealous. Likewise if you bring home another guy. Because you knew each other on an intimate level, you will still occasionally see each other in a sexual nature and you WILL end up in the bed again whether or not you are in a relationship with him. It's just my opinion, but if a relationship is over, then you both need to move on, literally. Good luck!

Answer 2

If the relationship is really over, but only one of you has hopes of a rekindling, then continuing to live with him may be setting you or him up for further disappointment, hurt, and unhappiness.

If you are no longer a couple, then yes to the separate bedrooms.

If the lease is going to be up in a few weeks or a couple of months, you can probably manage until the lease is up. Whose name is on the lease? That would be the person who gets the apt. If it is both, then you may want to go your separate ways on living arrangements. It doesn't mean you can't be friends, but think about how you will feel when he starts bringing dates home or how will he react when you start bringing dates home.

Answer 3

My ex and I lived together for six months before I was able to move out, so it can definitely work. The only time it gets tricky is when one of you starts dating again. Just have an agreement that you will respect each other enough to not bring anyone into the home while you're still living together. Avoid each other, don't be each other's warden and everything can work. When it won't work is when one of you still harbors feelings for the other, so I hope the two of you are truly past that and can stomach seeing each other come and go whenever and wherever. But yes, it can work, and I wish you luck! :)

Answer 4

I know a gay couple who broke up years ago, continued living together, and are still best of friends.

That said, I think that would be the exception, not the rule. You may FIND that spark again when he brings home other girls, whether you want to or not.

It really depends on the maturity level, and if you both have truly 'broken up.'

I wish you both luck.

Answer 5

girl be for real with yourself!!!!!!!!!!!! been there done that...not happening! if you don't feel the sparks then why is he still there. he's 26 so he needs to be a man and leave. trust me he's not going back to momma house, especially if he doesn't want to. men always have a back up plan. they want you to feel sorry for them...no let go. be a woman and let him go if you have to struggle then do so. that situation will only cause confusion, if you guys are still on good terms you need to leave it like that. having him continue to stay there until the lease is up is not a good idea. anything can occur in that time frame. what if he starts dating, staying out late, not coming back to the house? that will bother you and you know it! trust me i was there. i thought i could handle it but it got harder day after day, until i couldn't do it anymore. he said the same thing he has nowhere to go but to his mom house, yeah right, when i put him out i found out that he was staying with another girl so he wasn't hurting at all. a man will be a man. stand up for yourself and get on with your life, he can be your best friend w/o living under the same roof.

Answer 6

If you all are mature, there's no reason that you can't work something out. I personally wouldn't recommend doing this. Because of the past relationship, there may be conflict if either of started dating again. Besides, you all still have feelings for one another so this might not be such a hot idea.

Answer 7

Well. It's hard to truly be friends with someone you've loved. If you can cross that bridge, good for you. Hard to do if you are still sleeping together. There are always options in life and if either of you really wants to end it and move you will find a way. Good luck to you both.

Answer 8

Hon, he shouldn't be close enough for you not to be able to evaluate why you are taking a break. I mean, it will cloud judgement. Just look at how Ross and Rachel ended up during their "break", and they were only in the same apartment building!

Answer 9

this cud be wierd and theres always the danger of one of you liking the other more. plus you dont wanna get drunk and end up back in bed.