my b/f is here and our baby he will go but his family is here should i really take them from his family???
2007-11-26 03:23:16 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You only get one mother, I would go. You will regret it if, God forbid, you loose her and you were not there. I will pray for you.
2007-11-26 03:27:00 · answer #1 · answered by K Girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello Rosa,
Without know a few things about your Mom's Illness, it is hard to advise on this question.
Mom moved for her convience, or to fill a need. You have a child by your B/F who lives close to his family. How does your B/F feel about relocating with you?
What did Mom say when you asked her if you should move to be closer to her? Are you working, and have a steady job that is easily replaceable when you get to the community where your mom lives?
These are all questions that only you can provide the answers to.
If your B/F is willing to support you in your need to be close to your Mom, then by all means pack your bags, if not then Don't take the Grandbaby from his Fathers parents, let alone his father.
What is the distance from your home to Mom's house? Maybe you could go for a long weekend on a regular basis, and help take care of Mom that way.
Hope this helps!
Robert
2007-11-26 03:40:10 · answer #2 · answered by rcrines 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel that it is vital that you be near your mother, than it is vital and you need to address that with your husband. But moving to where your Mother is something that does not need to be permanent. Also, maybe extended visits might help.
However, why did your mother move away? If that is her choice then that should factor into your plans. Also, if you force the issue on your husband and family it may have consequences if you do not plan the move and execute the move in a loving way.
It is a tough question. Get counseling so you understand what is going on inside of you emotionally and psychologically speaking. How can cope may be a good question to start with.
2007-11-26 03:31:21 · answer #3 · answered by zclifton2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I Think That You Shouldn't Move. But Maybe You Should Take A Trip To See Your Mother As A Surprise. And Stay For A Week Or Two. That Way Everyone's Happy!!!!!!!!!!
2007-11-26 03:28:21 · answer #4 · answered by Nikki 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, I am going to give you my honest answer...my mom just passed away in August due to cancer. Fortunately, she lived close by (just a few miles away actually). It goes without saying that we were very close in all ways. Now, had I been in another city and missed out on her last days, well, I just can't bear the thought. My sister moved back to Texas after living 20 years in TN. She is so glad that she did. She considers her time with my mom precious.
Now, I don't know the circumstances of your mom's illness, but, I wanted to give you my personal experience. If it is not feasible to move, then, please try very hard to visit her frequently. Especially if she has a terminal illness.
My heart goes out to you and the decisions that you have to make in the coming months. Take care and e-mail me if you want to talk.
God Bless :~)
2007-11-26 03:31:18 · answer #5 · answered by Slipped Halo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother knew what she was doing. It's hard to understand why she would move away while very sick, but she did and I don't think you should feel obligated to move along with her. I vote for you to stay with your boy friend and your baby.
2007-11-26 03:31:15 · answer #6 · answered by Charles WE 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bless your sweet heart, that is a very hard choice to make.
If it were me, I would stay put. But I would make sure my mother was being taken care of. I would try to visit as often as I could.
Think about this too. Your mom might have moved far away on purpose.
2007-11-26 03:28:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tough call. Is there anyone from your family there with her? If so you can call her every chance you get. If not, his family will understand, go to your mother! Take your b/f and baby with you. You will need their support as your mother will need yours as well.
2007-11-26 03:31:55 · answer #8 · answered by reallycoolstuff123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your #1 priority is your baby and your b/f. You need to get married, though. Your mother moved away - that says everything.
2007-11-26 03:33:37 · answer #9 · answered by serene e 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand the need to be by your sick mother, but she moved away. She knew she was not going to be close.
I would visit as often as you can, but don't move. You have jobs here, a residence here, friends here. Don't uproot your life when she was the one who decided to move away.
2007-11-26 03:27:38 · answer #10 · answered by Meghan 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
if your mother is sick,and it was her that moved away,I would ask yourself,is she that sick that she wanted to be left alone?
If I were you,keep in touch with her as often as you can.Spend time with her as often as possible.
Last thing you want is to feel regretful & guility after she passes on that you were not there for her in every possible way you could of been.
Wish you all the luck.
2007-11-26 03:29:21 · answer #11 · answered by sunflower2052002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋