I've only kissed one guy ever!Thats how pathetic I am!
I have a good personality and people tell me I'm pretty but I don't seem to get the guys!I do go out clubbing and have a great laugh.I have lots of brilliant guys friends at college but thats all they are just friends.They never seem interested in anything more.
I'm really feeling down about still being a virgin and I'm afraid that my inexperience will put guys off.I'm very afraid of the pain aswell and sometimes I think I'd be better off just doing it with some random guy then its done!I'm so frustrated and fed up!
2007-11-26 03:17:13 · 23 answers · asked by Mossy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Do NOT "just do it with some random guy"!!!!
Most INTELLIGENT guys would be TURNED ON by the fact that you are still a virgin.
Save your virginity for someone very special - the first time should be special, and with "some random guy" you are just acting like a... you know.
2007-11-26 03:21:58 · answer #1 · answered by Paul Hxyz 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Most guys are put off of the fact that a girl is a virgin. Guys in our age group are at their highest sexual peak right now and they really want to get it on. Don't worry about that too much. You are saving yourself for the RIGHT person and you wouldn't want to climb into bed with every guy that you meet because you can catch diseases that way. You will find someone that will accept you for who you are- even your virginity. You are not pathetic, sweetie. There aren't a lot of virgins out there- some of them are "born again" virgins. The best thing that you can do for yourself is to go out there and meet new people. When you meet that special someone, take your time getting to know that person and see what he is all about. Start off as friends and let it develop into something more. If he does not accept the fact that you are a virgin, he is not the right guy for you. You have self-respect and that is really important for a female. Good luck and you will find someone because good things come to those who wait.
2007-11-26 11:27:03 · answer #2 · answered by Lady S 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dont worry about it. Ur 20 and still a virgin u should give ur self a pat on the back. I lost mine when i was 13 and now i'm 21 and i regret it till this day. So what if ur still a virgin and guys only look at u as a friend. One day they will look at you more then just friends. focus on school right now and having a good time. Ask yourself this ? Would u rather be a virgin and have alot of guy friends or be a hoe and have no friends?
2007-11-26 11:22:50 · answer #3 · answered by bluedevilsgirl07 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am far older than you and still don't regret being a virgin.. I will soon be getting married and I feel very happy about it. Being a virgin is very auspicious.. it is also very healthy for you...It is very hard to stay a virgin and listen to some friends make fun of you or think you are not good enough. Just stay strong and everything will be fine. Let me know if you need further help on this matter.. I will be more than happy to help.. take care and all the best!
2007-11-26 11:25:34 · answer #4 · answered by Lila86 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sorry but to put this crudely guys don't give a hell if your a virgin. Seriously if i met you i would be giving you some lovin, plus for some guys being a girl who i s a virgin is a plus because then the guy can show you there thing first if you know what i mean... well anyway don't woryy am sure you will be popped sometime. no but seriously don't worry about it as long as your not whacking them off with a stick you'll get some promise : D
2007-11-26 11:25:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
NO, I would not be put off by the fact that you are 20 and still a virgin!! You are one who is taking her time to find the right person, the right place!
Do not let this get you down. You are not the only virgin at your age level.
Some do take their times and find what they are looking for and then are very happy they waited!!
2007-11-26 11:22:45 · answer #6 · answered by backyardbum 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, there is nothing wrong with being a virgin. I was about your age when I lost my virginity. If you meet up with a guy that is kind and gentle and you start dating, eventually you will end up in bed. Just tell him the truth, ask him to be gentle and ask him to guide you. Guys your age aren't as experienced as they may brag to be anyway. And just picking some random guy? why not just buy a vibrator and do it yourself? As far as the pain goes, with most women I have talked to, the pain is momentary as the sensation of penetration takes over and your passion takes over. Don't rush it. You'll know who and when it's the right time.
2007-11-26 11:26:28 · answer #7 · answered by Ben Dover 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
omg thats terrible... 20 is still young lol... i think u feel this way cause most of ur friends are not.. u seem like the type of girl who has in mind the type of guy there looking for and thats ok.. so ur just waiting for that guy to come along.. the right one.. there are many girls that are like that.. Wait till you find the RIGHT guy who likes you and you like him.. because sex is a very special and intimate thing to do ... and its always best to do it with someone you love.. if you dont u will regret it when you do in fact meet the right guy.. you will always say i cant believe my first expeirence having sex was with some random guy.. who never even really liked me...
just wait and be patient.. ur time will come..
and remember when u meet that guy to tell him how you feel. .. or show him by ur actions cause guys can be so clueless these days lol.. or shy... so just do it get it over with..
good luck!
2007-11-26 11:22:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do worry about it to much. Also understand that you are also now a challenge to a lot of guys. Some guys have this thing for virgins and they always want to be the first one.
Go for the guy you want and try to keep being a virgin until you find mister right
2007-11-26 11:21:12 · answer #9 · answered by Scott 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well it depends on the guy, there are two types of men
the first likes the accomplishment of taking this from a woman or just her giving it to him, this man has no emotional attachments and will not call you the next day.
The other guy will be hesitant about it because he does have feelings for you and he wants it to be right.
Don't just do it with some random guy you will regret it.
2007-11-26 11:23:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋