Me and My Boyfriend have been talking a lot about us getting married, we love each other but were stuck on shoulg we get a courthouse marriage now and wedding later or should we be patient until we can afford a wedding. How do you know when and if its the right time to get married? How do you know whats the best way to get married?
2007-11-26 03:11:50 · 13 answers · asked by Simply D 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
If you want to be married then don't worry about the wedding and just get married.
Then you can plan a wedding later. It will be less stressful and you will afford just the right amount for the both of you.
My husband and I eloped and about a year later had a "renewal of vows" that looked and felt exactly like a wedding, except we didn't fill out paperwork again. We had about 70 guests and did an outdoor garden party wedding next to a creek. Afterward we had a reception with punch and cake and a dinner of smoked salmon and grilled lemon chicken with garden salad and German potato salad. It worked well for us. My parents friends helped with the smoking of the salmon (on location) and the grilling of the chicken. The cake was ordered from a specialty bakery as a splurge, but could have been gotten for less. It was very pretty and everyone had a great time. No regrets.
My cousin did virtually the same thing, eloped. Then she had a reception and a nice dinner but didn't have the renewal of vows.
2007-11-26 03:21:17 · answer #1 · answered by nonoelmo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my husband and I did not have alot of money to have a wedding. We have each been married once before and both had a courthouse wedding which the min. it was over I wished I hadn't gotten married that way. So this time around we went another way. My husband's dad lives near a beautiful beach so we went down there and invited our very closest family members and friends it was about 20 people and we just got married at the beach. I bought a white sun dress and my husband wore light colored suit pants and a white button down the kids wore tan skirts and white button down shirt with pink ribbon belts and we went to the grocery store and bought roses and i wrapped them with pink ribbon and made my own flowers and ones for the 3 girls. Then we all went back to his dad's house and had dinner and cake in all we spent about $400 that was the gas to get sown there, my dress, the outfits for the 3 kids, flowers, dinner, and cake. Oh and the man to marry us who was a friend of his dads.
My advice don't wait and don't have a courthouse wedding. do it in a park or somewhere that you wont have to pay for it. You don't know how much time you have in your life, just go for it, if you know in your heart you want to be his wife do it!
There are so many things we would rather spend out money on than a big wedding we bought a house and a new car instead of having a $$$$ wedding.
2007-11-26 11:26:52 · answer #2 · answered by Sarah D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's the hurry? Are you in trouble? Whenever I think of a courthouse wedding, I think of a girl who's pregnant and feels that she has to hurry up and get married or she'll melt. If you two Love each other as much as you claim you do, then you should plan the event well ahead of time and invite people. Plus, having a courthouse marriage, then planning a fake wedding later where you are rehearsing or pretending you are married when you actually already are is kind of deceptive, don't you think?
2007-11-26 23:12:49 · answer #3 · answered by Sondra 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Plan your wedding the way that YOU (you and your fiance) want to and not how anyone else wants it.
There are sereral ways to save money on the wedding itself. You can have a small backyard wedding with just your family & close friends. Make the food & just have a party afterwards if you want.
As far as the date itself goes, go with what you feel is right. I got married on Dec 7th. It was cold outside, but noone cared. We knew with the clothes we were wearing we would be plenty warm.
Good Luck!
2007-11-26 11:16:55 · answer #4 · answered by Jo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what you truly want.
But is sounds like you two should head to the courthouse...if you two truly love each other that much, that big party won't matter..all that matters is the two of you becoming one.
My husband and i debated. We put it off for three years so we could do the whole reception thing. Wow did 5 hours fly by fast, and i barely remember much.
10 grand later, what do i have to show for it?? A DVD of everyone else having a grand time, some cash but the best part of all, my husband.
Congratulations.
2007-11-26 11:20:06 · answer #5 · answered by Garland 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think and presume you are already aware of the responsibility that comes in handy when you are married!!! If you feel that you can handle any and every situation in your present stage in the relationship, it will not matter where you get married.. Just don't do it for self gratification, do it because you are completely ready!! All the best!
2007-11-26 11:16:32 · answer #6 · answered by Lila86 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want a marriage or a wedding? What's more important to you? Spending a ton of money and going into debt to entertain other people or building a life for yourselves?
2007-11-26 11:17:19 · answer #7 · answered by Candace 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I don't really know how old you are, but if your in your 20's... Just take it slow... Don't want to rush into marriage. But the best way is just kill two birds with one stone... Do the whole thing at once.
When is the best time... when he suprise you... Best wedding dates are usually the almost the beginning of summer or the end of summer.
2007-11-26 11:16:32 · answer #8 · answered by cheng 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If having a traditional wedding is important, wait a while until you can afford one... and look for bargains while you are at it.
A wedding do-over is just not the same at all.
2007-11-26 11:39:10 · answer #9 · answered by Proud Momma 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When you are financially stable enough to pay for a wedding without devastating your finances.
2007-11-26 11:24:05 · answer #10 · answered by mrsdeli 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋