As alot of you know, my husband and I are throwing a big party for our 10th anniversary next year. We had originally planned to just kind of re-do the reception part in the way we would have liked to do it on our wedding day, but now we are wondering if maybe we should go ahead and do a quick renewal of our vows before the cocktail hour. So my question is, honestly, what does everyone think of vow renewals at such a short interval of time between our original vows. Keep in mind that we did have the white wedding 10 years ago. We are stuck going back and forth between thinking it would be a fun idea and a pointless one because we have had a happy marriage and dont exactly need to reaffirm our vows to eachother, but we also just hated everything about our wedding day (except the actual getting married part) that in that respect we think it would be fun to do it over our way. So what does everyone honestly think, we arent stuck one way or another so I would really appreciate any opinions.
2007-11-26 02:59:47 · 19 answers · asked by kateqd30 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Two things, Please dont answer "What ever you want" that doesnt help in this instance.
Also, I wont be wearing the white gown again, as I have already done that once. This is my dress http://www.justthebeginnings.com/ReDo/P%2003%2030%2007/5374.htm
2007-11-26 03:00:54 · update #1
Renewing the wedding vows at the 25th and 50th is best..You all have "JUST" begun.....
Have a lovely Anniversary party...
PS I have been married to my husband for 38 years....He's my high school sweetheart.....
2007-11-26 03:05:11 · answer #1 · answered by Dog Rescuer 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I love the idea of vow renewals, especially after 10 years. For one, the statistics show that most marriages that are going to end in divorce will do so by 6 years, so you have passed an important milestone. Also after 10 years your promises to each other include so much more. At the start you have this romantic idea of what marriage is and then 10 years later you know what hard work and dedication it takes. Not just love. So renewing your vows is making your old promises stick and adding a few new ones. My husband and I had a few issues a little while back and we are going to renew our vows for a different reason than you want to, but it all comes down to reminding yourself and others how happy you are and the life you have made and making promises to keep on being happy together. Also if you hated your first wedding I think that is the best reason right there, to do it the way YOU two want to this time.
2007-11-26 03:12:02 · answer #2 · answered by Barbara C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look - just renew your vows to each other regardless if it comes before or after the cocktail. Who cares anyway? As long as you both get a wedding you both like, enjoy and agree on - just go ahead and plan it the way you wanted it. Affirming your love is the thing that matters most and sharing that day with good friends.
2007-11-26 03:04:21 · answer #3 · answered by Equinox 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If it makes you feel better to renew your vows and it gives you peace of mind, then do so. The secret to the good marriage is the respect you show to one another every day, the appreciation of loving and careing for the life together, the ability to talk to one another with no dominance of one over the other. Also do not be afraid to compliment one another for the good things each brings to a marriage.
2007-11-26 03:19:37 · answer #4 · answered by googie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the vow renewal would be nice. I think it will be nice for you and your husband, you will feel more connected and remember the reasons why you are together. Have you ever gone to someone else's wedding and listened to the vows, it just is a nice feeling. I think this will make your day more meaningful for the two of you, not just the celebration.....Good Luck
2007-11-26 03:08:34 · answer #5 · answered by julie A 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think having a wedding "do-over" is a great idea! If you didn't like the way the first one turned out, this is your chance to do it the way you want. Just because you don't need to reaffirm your vows, doesn't mean its bad if you do! It wouldn't be pointless, having 10 years of happy marriage is definately something to celebrate!! I thinky uo and you husband should just go all out, and make it the wedding of your dreams! :D
By the way, your dress is very pretty!!
2007-11-26 03:13:45 · answer #6 · answered by goddessathena2005 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, you mentioned that you wanted the reception to be how youwould have liked it. If there are parts of your wedding you wish you could change (make it more private) by all means renew your vows. And your guests won't even have to know, it could just be a secret between you and your husband. (That is what we did for the real marraige) We eloped b/c I wanted our wedding to be private, but my Mom and my husbands Mom wanted to invite the world. We BOTH got our way. Everyone was happy. Good luck to ya.
2007-11-26 03:07:27 · answer #7 · answered by Pat J 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Your choice of dress is superb!! i love it! ...some ppl might say that you really havent been together long enough to renew your vows...and at first i almost told you it might be better to wait till your 20th anniversary...but do it while your still quite young....youve already picked out your dress and you said you guys really didnt like everything about your wedding day...so make some new memories...renew your vows...get them fresh in your minds...and make that marriage last for another buncha 10 years!!
2007-11-26 03:21:41 · answer #8 · answered by Amber R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go for the vow renewal, i've seen alot of people say "Why do it if your not having problems/decided to give it another chance/start over
Whatever! I think that if it's special to the two of you (as it will be for Jason and I ) then do it....
In maybe 5 or 10 years, Jason and I will want to renew our vows in a private rose garden setting...so alone, so romantic.
2007-11-26 03:08:31 · answer #9 · answered by ? 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-30 04:46:20 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think renewing your vow after 10 yrs is perfectly acceptable considering there are many couples to day who don't make it that far. I would just be sure to keep it very simple. Your gown is beautiful btw.
2007-11-26 03:06:59 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋