Just had a nice chat with the police?

Question

I am divorced, on incapacity benefit and suffer from post traumatic stress, consequently I have been dependent on family handouts.

Having fallen out with certain elements within my family concerns regarding my fathers conduct have grown and, although he has hassled my friends, he has reported me to the police for harassment.

Having gained entrance to my abode with my landlady prior to finding me elsewhere the police have warned me not to contact my father again, he is dead to me now anyway but, given the dilapidated state of my rented accommodation, I now expect to be made homeless and, with Xmas on the way, has anyone got a more understanding family?

Kellie my family is large and wealthy, I didn't ask for my life to fall apart and I didn't create the 'events' that happened to me.

To put this in context I was offered and accepted 33 pence per day and now I suffer for being stuck in poverty.

Answer 1

I am so sorry that at a time like this you do not have a supportive family. I presume if you are suffering from PTSD you are receiving some help from your local mental health team? If not get your GP to refer you, they are not always brilliant but you may get lucky, they will be able to support you. Go to them and ask for help with rehousing yourself, also contact Shelter, they are excellent, you can get letters supporting your case and need for housing. Your local council are not obliged to house you as you are single but they may have projects, flats etc., that they can put you in touch with or even put your name forward for.
It is very important that you get the support you need, this condition can last for quite some time and is extremely debilitating, I do know, my husband has suffered from it and it is very difficult.
Unfortunately families can be extremely difficult, my family disowned me because I supported my husband through his illness, they haven't spoken to me in six years and although I find it heartbreaking the only way to deal with it, is to say that they are dead to me too, so no, you are not alone in this, but you do need support. I wish you all the best, it maybe a long road but it is worth the effort.

Answer 2

Lol. You could have mine, but that would be like leaving Afghanastan for the Isreali/Pakistan area. Not much of a change.

Here's my question. Why haven't you contacted a lawyer (you could get one through assistance) and gotten a restraining order against him? Also, why didn't you contact the police and had him arrested for trespassing? What he did was illegal.

Also, you can talk to your landlady about your accomodation and see what's going on. Explain to her about your PTSD. Ask her if there is a way you can work out cleaning up the apartment so that it is acceptable to her. So long as it isn't in health violations and no fire codes are being broken, she can't toss you out. You might want to talk to the landlord and tenant board in your area.

If you see a therapist, ask for help. He or she should be able to assist you in helping you out of your present situation. Also, do you want to get out of the cycle of depending on family handouts? You may be able to help yourself there as well. I know this sounds impossible, but you don't know unless you try.

PTSD is nothing to laugh about. It is nearly impossible to live with, but there is hope. Are you a veteran? There are benefits and services available there as well. You can do it. One step at a time. Remember, depend on you first. Others second.

Answer 3

sad to hear about you and your problems with your family, I always thought family should stick by each other no matter what, I have had times when I needed my family most and some did but some unexpectedly went the other way, families can be a pain at times, the same people have since wanted help from me since but I was different from them I gave them help, cos I believe strongly in the family bond, even if you don't always get on, I hope you will find some where to live soon and that your life will improve.

Answer 4

I have had simular issues with my family. Mine call child protective services with false complaints just cause they think they can be better parents than me because I am Bi-polar. I also have PTSD due to childhood abuse by step father and mother (one of the complaints was from her). I understand your situation. Try going to the police and filling a report on your dad for harrasment. if that doesn't help, try finding out the requirement for a restraining order. If you want to chat more email me @ [e-mail]. also, where do you live?

Answer 5

your not homeless yet. just do what the police say. as for the hand out there are people other than family that can help you. if you get homeless there are shelters for you. don't be ashamed of them. there are really a lot of nice people in them. i was told by my father that he disowned me. here i was with three kids and no place to lay there heads down except my car. i have done the homeless shelter thing and found out that there are people who care.

Answer 6

You need to stop looking for handouts and start taking control of your life......contact the agency handling your disability benefits and see if some one can steer you in the direction you need to be going in...including therapy for it sounds like you need it..As long as you are active in helping your self I'm sure there are others, including family, who will support you in this. Stop playing the Sympathy Card and start relying more on yourself. Good Luck.

Answer 7

I am divorced, no children or parents. And, yes, I have some health issues. I work, but sometimes it is still not enough to make my bills with the rising cost of taxes, gasoline and groceries.I sell some on Ebay to help make ends meet. You have to be willing to help yourself and not rely on others. Pretend you are in my situations with nobody to turn to.

Answer 8

I believe all families become weird around the winter holidays. May be a chemical imbalance, you know the days get shorter and the nights get colder. Seeing a professional therapist could help with some of that holiday stress.

Answer 9

How about you. I'm sorry but when do you take responsibilty for yourself and start solving your own problems instead of leaning on someone else. Maybe that is mostly to do with the problems in your family in the first place.
Its hard to hear but grow up and take care of yourself. I realize you have problems, but who doesn't. As adults we have to find ways to over come things and take care of ourselves, or else we suffer for it.
Go ahead and be mad that you can't get a hand out, or free room and board, or do something about it, and find some sort of work you can do to fix your problem.
Come on! Quit blaming others.

By the way, I have Post traumatic stress disorder, ADHD, and bi-polar. Not to mention that I have physical limitations due to a bad back and knees. Guess what, I still work 35 hours a week, pay for my apartment, and my bills. My mommy doesn't take care of that for me.

Answer 10

Sorry. My family is pretty understanding, except when I bring home people whose own family has disowned them.

Not sure if you are yanking our chain or not. But I'll give you this: Seek professional help. Should be lots of local groups that will help you sort out your life.