HELP! Im confused plz dnt insult me?

Question

I know its weird and gross but Im REALLY in love with my cousin.We liked each other since half our lives.btw (his father and my mother are related only by mother).We did have sex before but I did not get pregnant. Everyone keeps telling me how if i get pregnant my baby is going to be retarted or have 5 arms and just keep saying a whole bunch of dumb s*** i dont wanna hear. I dont understand if it is true love should it really matter. Ive tried other people but they just come out to be everything I dont want its like my true soulmate was right there all along and I needed time to realize that.But anyway I need advice true facts and encouragement because this is really effecting my life and Im so hurt over it.PLZ HELP!!!! Also if you know the percentage of having a disabled child because your cousins plz tell thnx a bunch!

Also unfortunatly i might be pregnant even though i started my period i REALLY think im pregnant im having all the symptoms im a wait a little and go take a test HOPE IM NOT :( !!!!!!!! thnx to everyone who helped!

Answer 1

Ok, Now it's real possible that if u had kid's wi him you kid's could come our retarded. and i'm talking from experence, my cuz's are that way becuz there parents some where don't the line are kin. So i wouldn't agree wit having kid's. And if you had said that he was a closer cuz then that i would have said you were crazy. But since if you really take the time to think about it you your not really family. but you might have some of the same blood. So it's kool if that's wat you want. Lol. breath gurl. And do your thing.

Answer 2

I guess it depends where you live whether it is actually legal or not to marry your first cousin. I'm of the opinion that it is better not to have children as you do increase the odds of having a child with defects. The reason for this is that we all carry genes, some are for recessive disorders (meaning they need 2 genes for that disorder, one from each parent to appear). When you are fairly closely related (first cousin or closer), there is a good chance you would both carry these genes that when combined, produce a defect. It also may not show up for a few generations so even if you don't see it you may be passing on increased risks for your children. If your mother & his father only have their mother in common, and not the same father that would decrease the odds for defects from regular first cousins. But everyone wants a healthy baby so any increased risk may not be worth it. From a site I found:

Fact: 26 states allow first cousin marriages; Most people can marry their cousin in the US.

Fact: No European country prohibits marriage between first cousins. It is also legal throughout Canada and Mexico to marry your cousin. The USA is the only western country with cousin marriage restrictions.

Fact: Children of non-related couples have a 2-3% risk of birth defects, as opposed to first cousins having a 4-6% risk. Genetic counseling is available for those couples that may be at a special risk for birth defects (e.g. You have a defect that runs in your family) In plain terms first cousins have at a 94 percent + chance of having healthy children. Check the links section for more information on genetic counselors. The National Society of Genetic Counselors estimated the increased risk for first cousins is between 1.7 to 2.8 percent, or about the same a any woman over 40 years of age.

Answer 3

Darlin, if yall love each other, then be together. Just be ready for the battle ahead. Your family may not accept it, society will be judgemental, and depending on closeness of relativity, you may not be able to be married in yalls state. but that can be fixed by going somewhere else to be married.
As for the kids thing, its typically not a good idea. I'm sorry to say this, bkuz i know you don't want to hear it, but its true. The closer you are in relativity, the higher the chances of having a mentally/physically challenged child. But if yall want to be together, get married and have a family, just remember that there's always the idea of adoption. Or if you want a baby with your genes, you can always go to a sperm bank and get another man's sperm and it will be YOUR baby... but the TRUE biological father will always be unknown.... Or I mean, you can find a serrogate mother, who will take your cousins sperm and have the child...
I mean, there are sooo many options out there, that if yall want a family together, I'm all for it. Don't let the world take you down. If yall make each other happy, its whats meant to be. But just remember that it will be a hard battle to work through with your family.....

Answer 4

It depends on how close in family you are. If you are blood related within 1-2 family members, it's NOT a good idea. You shouldn't b having sex if it's that close. You could really mess with genetics!

We get along great with family because we are similar people who grew up together, but we aren't in ancient times when there were only cousins to be with. However, I know of some people who are cousins who have gotten together. They live in the very rural country in mid-west of course!

If you "love" them and want to make it work, be prepared to have your whole life the talk of the town & everyone will be in your business. That's why some celerities don't work out because the press/public get all in their life.

Answer 5

His father and your mother were half brother and sister. So you're first cousins, but with a bit less shared DNA than if they'd been full brother and sister. As far as I know there is no legal reason for you not to be able to get together, you can legally marry. Its true that the risk of some genetic problems happening can be increased when you share so much DNA in common, inherited diseases or conditions are more likely to be present in your children. Talk to your doctor about it seriously. You can have blood tests to make sure there is nothing like that in your genes or his. The other thing you will have to face is your family. They should come round though if they love you both and can see you're happy. Good luck!

Answer 6

If your family has a genetic disorder then you are more likely to have a child with that disorder with your cousin than with someone in the general population.

Marriage laws are made by the state. If this is a first cousin, some states will not allow you to marry a first cousin or will require that you be past child bearing years before you can marry that cousin. If this is a second, third, fourth, fifth or greater cousin then it won't matter to the state if you marry them.

Answer 7

Babe, you may not want to hear it but they are right.

The closer you are related the HIGHER the risk of having a mentally retarded baby (like down syndrome), or physically disabled or physically deformed or altered. It wont have 5 arms, but might have 6 toes (like Marilyn Monroe had) or odd facial features, etc.

In America, the law ONLY permits people of 3rd cousins and farther apart to get married (depending on your state of residence). So if you are closer than that, you may not be able to get married.

Answer 8

The are pretty good chances that your child will have some kind of abnormality because genetically you do share a lot of genes. Sorry, but it's not a good idea to have kids with your cousin. You can marry them though. It's legal, but not largely accepted by society.

Answer 9

i think of had an identical problem back whilst i became into in intense college, i'm sorry to declare there is not any answer, no quantity of folk in the process the internet can enable you to, females are only loopy and prefer 2 confuse us, the only guy or woman that could come across a lifelike answer to this question is you, no quantity of element in asking will help. sorry

Answer 10

Well love i seriously doubt your child will have five arms and say alot of dumb **** but I do know that although it is not said to fall in love with your cousin I have seen it done. My sister used to pretend to be married to my cousin and the two of them never left each others side, and think in the old days it was actually cool to marry your cousin. Because they wanted to keep the wealth in the family.