My ex-boyfriend broke up with me about 8 mths ago saying that he felt unworthy & afraid because he did not achieve the things that he promised me. It hurt, but I am moving on. During the summer he left voicemails about how much he missed me but did not try to come back. I did not answer them. Then he later stated that he wanted to work things out but then pulled back saying that he had caused too much pain. He did not feel that his new acting career and trying to fix the relationship would work together. Again, I moved on.
Well he just got laid off and wrote me email to say he believes this is his payback for ruining what we had. I did not respond. On Thanksgiving day he sends another email and states he wants to be "clear". He doesn't know why he "digressed" (?) and sent the lay off email and he is glad I stuck to my guns by not responding. I, again, have not responded to the latest email.
I am tired of the games. Can someone tell me what is happening?
2007-11-26 01:54:50 · 15 answers · asked by Exotica 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't be surprised, but this answer is coming from a males point of view. I feel thatt you have done the right thing by not responding back to any of his attempts to contact you. This is why he broke up with you and why he continues to contact you. He left you because he found another girl tha seemed like she was better for him at first, but maybe didn't work out. And yes he did feel bad for leaving you because he saw that you were everything that he looked for and more in a female. He continued to call you because he was selfish and that he didn't want to see anyone else with you. And if you take him back, he'll continue to do this to you because he See's that you'll take him back after anything. So continue to avoid him and move on.
2007-11-26 02:05:53 · answer #1 · answered by priceking19 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-07 17:04:21 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One can only guess as to which are, from amongst the many possible motives, those which he is driven by.
One can also make a list of as many possibilities as one can think of.
1) He may have been sincere in regards to reasons for breaking off, then may have been hoping you would respond by revealing to him that "all other things are of no concern to you, save him.
You know, kind of like Brooke Shields not giving a rats *** that her bumfriend burned down her parents house,
She still loved him anyway, and needed to go see Dr. Gottlieb. Her love had glaucoma, cataracs,
macular degeneration, you name it. Or maybe the big eyebrows just simply got in the way.
2) it's also possible, and more likely, if you ask me. that he thought it so clever to contend that your just simply too good for him, whereby doing so, he has manufactured a load of victimization and dumped it on himself, effectively turning the tables, being that the fact of the matter was that you were in fact the load and (argueably) the victim, getting dumped
(argueably the victim, if in fact he had no reasonable cause for 86'n you, other than, he was on his way to hook up with a little naked man made of gold named Oscar.) not to mention the big deluxe penthouse (suite) in the sky, at the Hilton in Paris........or is that, with Paris ?
So, now that I have effectively layed waste to any hopes that he may have been harboring in his dark and deceptive little heart, of getting back together with you again. Furthermore, since I have done it in such a "brilliantly", clever way, in that I have simultaneously delivered the longest and most painstaking pick-up line that i have ever ever employed.
And being that my powerful associate is; the fact that your on the rebound !!!
I thought I would capitalize on, excuse me I meant to say, I would extend to you, the opportunity, that if you should be in need of a shoulder to cry on well....................my digits are 714-317-8126 Babe
Oh, and hey, really, I'm here for you,.........being that I'm not making any plans to go buy any gerbles at the Hollywood petsmart.
2007-11-26 03:14:51 · answer #3 · answered by chuichupachichi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's an actor? Sounds like he's really getting off on this little drama! On the other hand, he could be serious about valuing you as a companion, but will never commit to anything permanent. Some men are incapable of committing. Just keep ignoring him and and get on with it...maybe he'll go away.
2007-11-26 02:21:36 · answer #4 · answered by TatersPop 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The operative word in your question is ...(Actor).
He apparently is playing the part well and as he thinks he can work his way back into your life, he will continue to try.
When he broke up with you, he obviously had other plans which did not involve you. Now that they haven't worked out, your attention seems kinda nice.
Tell him Firmly to stop contacting you and don't discuss your reasons. If you do discuss it, you will be keeping the door open for him to keep trying to convince you.
Good Luck
2007-11-26 02:03:23 · answer #5 · answered by we_are_legion99 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's playing hella games. He seems borderline CRAZY to be real with you. And being that you're not responding to his emails and calls (good job by the way) he's basically having conversations with himself like a nut case! Just sit back and laugh at his dumba**! He lost a good thing and now he's feeling it...he'll be alright. Just keep doing you!
2007-11-26 02:10:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's hurting because hes let something good go. i was in this relationship with a guy that was okay. once it was over i felt bad because i felt deep down inside that he could have potentially have been the one. then i realized that if he was the one that i would have realized that while i was in the relationship not afterwards when i was sitting around eating ice cream on the couch watching TV. so you have to tell him that your not interested and that your sorry that the relationship has ended and that he needs to me on and cut ties with you.
2007-11-26 01:59:39 · answer #7 · answered by *~*Jon-Jon's Mommy!!*~* 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is bored. He is enjoying this, seeing how far he can go without becoming involved. I would tell him to stop calling or tell him you are dating, leave you alone. You can block his emails. Go to your email settings and block him! Also I would consider changing telephone numbers. But first just tell him firmly to not call- it's over, move on!
2007-11-26 02:01:00 · answer #8 · answered by Princess N 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is confused, why not just write back with a friendly email and meet him for the occasional drink. All the while moving on yourself.
2007-11-26 01:59:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I sujest a restraining order and keep an eye on your pets if you have any as he may use them as substitute for you.
2007-11-26 01:59:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋