To any one that can help telling my dad.?

Question

my dad dont know that I am dating this guy that really love me and want to be with me for the rest of his life, I tried to tell him but I just cant come out and say it and I want my dad to know cause I am a daddys girl. I love my dad but when it comes to me dating its like he will not be there for me like he is now he is my heart and my boyfriend is my heart too but I dont know what to say to my dad what should I do about my dad and the crazy thing is my boyfriend is white and I am black help anyone.

Im 20 years old, its kinda hard to tell my dad things after my mom past away I am scared to tell him I am all waqs thinking about the bad things like he will disown me tell me to get out & never come back or something, I never can thing about the good things.

Answer 1

Huny, My dady is the same way. I am his little girl and he will always see me as that (even though im almost 18). I was in a similar relationship, *i'm white, he was black* and i was terrified to tell my dad. I know he's not racist exactly, but he does have his very strong, rude opinions about other people sometimes... I didn't want him to get mad and not understand why we were together.
But you know what? It was a lot easier telling him than I thought it would be. I took it a step at a time, baby steps, steps that I knew i could handle without much problem. First I introduced my then boyfriend to my dad. I didn't tell him we were dating, just that he was a really good friend of mynes and that we were going to be hanging out a lot and that i loved him *my dad* so i wanted him to know what was going on in my life. I wanted him to see that not every friend i've ever had is going to hurt me. That Tavaris wasn't going to disrespect me or my family. He even shook my dad's hand! Which I don't know about yours, but with my dad, any man that is willing to shake his hand and be introduced is worth my friendship.
I brought Tavaris around bit by bit, more and more. We went out more and more, but i never told my dad that they were "dates". I would say we were going to meet up with some friends and hang out for a bit....Which never really was a true lie. but still.
And eventually, when i thought my dad was used to the idea of him being around a lot more, Tavaris and I sat him down and we talked. I told him that we were starting to really have strong feelings for each other, and that he has been soo respectful to me and my feelings. He has treated me how he *my dad* always wanted me to be treated-like a woman, a lady. My dad got upset for a few minutes, but we all just sat there in the living room, and talked for over 2 hours about the situation. He finally was "ok" with it... and after a while, he was very supportive of me and Tavaris.
I know its hard and very scary to tell your dad something like this, especially with the colour differences. But i'm sure that your dady will understand and get used to it. Just give him time, let him know that your boyfriend isn't going to overtake your father's position in your life. That you will always love your dady no matter what. It's just that now, you will also be loving another man. Another man that loves you, respects you, takes care of you. You will always be your dady's little girl, but you want always be a little girl. Carefully and softly remind him that you are growing up into a smart, intelligent woman, who, because of his guidance in your life, has found a man who knows what you deserve and need....
I hope this helps a bit. Good Luck darling. I wish you and your boyfriend the best! I hope it all works out in the end.

Answer 2

Do it gradually. Tell him you've met a guy you think is really nice. Let your Dad think about this for a few days. Then introduce the boyfriend angle, and tell your dad that this nice guy is a great boyfriend, and all the little things he does for you. Don't lie.

When your Dad has warmed up to the idea, then mention casually the fact that he's white. If this is at all an issue .... or else you can leave this, and just introduce the boyfriend to your Dad after he's decided he likes the sound of him.

Answer 3

honestly race shouldn't be a part in any relationship cuz love is all that matters but make sure its love before u get urself into a big mess. daddys arent good wen it comes to datin and dependin on how old u are their reaction, but the good news is u dont jus have to come out n say "daddy im datin a white boy" how about invitin him over as a "friend" u kno kick it and let him talk to ur dad, tell him to act as he would around u cuz everyone knows parents can smell fear. n amazing as it sounds parents like their child's friends or boy/girlfriends to be able to look them in the eye when they talk. neways it may take a month it may take a week but once u sense ur dad to like him then u tell him how u feel n see how he reacts

Answer 4

That would be tough... I am white and i remember when I was in highschool, on two seperate occassions I had an utterly gorgeous black girl friend. My dad did NOT get it, he would do stuff to make it tough on me, like he would not give me the car etc.... it was so frustrating, my mom didn't care so much, but anytime I would try to talk to my parents they would turn it around like I was only dating black girls to spite them. -but then he didn't care when my sister dated a black guy... it made no sense.

Sometimes old attitudes are impossible to change. if you really love your bf, then prepare for the battle, but go for it, maybe your dad will surprise you and be accepting.

Good luck...

Answer 5

May be ,let your boy call at home when u are not home, dad picks up the phone and he asks for you. If dad qs, just tell that we exchanged phones only and gradually build his trust that you are a good girl. If he is a good Christian tell him that we all are human beings and have the same color blood.

Answer 6

Have a little faith in your dad. Introduce you boyfriend to him, and you maybe surprised to what you may find. God bless.