my husand is an alchoholic ,dosnt want help,i need the mony what do i do???should i leave??

Answer 1

Join Alanon you will get some help to handle your reaction to his drinking.

Answer 2

If he not willing to change or give it a chance in changing I would try to get out and be on your own becuase life will continue to be the same way for as long as you stay with him, if you have kids they will not have a good role model to follow and this will hurt their future. Try to make it on your onw and if he really wants and misses his family he will make a change and he will be back with you and kids if you guys have any. Otherwise he will continue to be the same way and he will be destroying his life not yours, is sad but you can not really help those that don't want to be help or help themselves. Before you do this tell him how you feel and what you would like to build with him but with him being the way he is things will not chance, ask him where he sees himself and you guys in five years from now and what actions are being taken to be there because if there are no goals in life, life is empty and hard to live because you have nothing you to loook forward too. Good luck and God Bless

Answer 3

if you are being abused, run. go to a shelter in any reasonable size city and then file a police report about the most recent injuries you received.

after you are safer, you need a job and a divorce.

your emotional strength may improve if you go to some co-dependents meeting. They are an arm of AA -- meetings can be found in the same places as AA meetings; churches, community centers, some government buildings, etc.

as you'll find out from co-dependents; alcoholics do not change unless and until they want to change. That usually means after they hit rock bottom.

"rock bottom" differs from alcoholic to alcoholic -- for some, it is after they run out of money because they've sold everything, hocked everything, been divorced, and can't work any more (fired for cause). for others, it is after they're arrested for violence or drunk driving. for harder cases, nothing short of prison (and enforced sobriety) will do the job.

You aren't in charge of creating rock bottom for any alcoholic -- he'll do it on his own for himself. in fact, your attempts almost can't be powerful enough [aside from the divorce] -- that degree of pain can't legally be inflicted on anyone by a private person.

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Unfortunately, the estimated chance of sobering up is only about 30%. The particular program trying to sober up the drunk doesn't seem to matter -- all programs studied have about the same success rate.

it follows that alcoholics bounce from program to program until they find one that works for them. Or until prison forces them to temporarily stop drinking. [prison has the same 30% success rate -- which means that 70% of alcoholic offenders go back to being drunks after they get out.]

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your freedom begins after you take action -- you're on the edge of doing so now. Get going.

Answer 4

Do you love your husband?
If you love him then stay and try and persuade him to seek help from his GP and the AA.
Also I am sure you are really tired and stressed with it all. You may need some counselling and support yourself.
IF you no longer love him then yes leave.

Answer 5

Money isnt everything
But it sure does help
TRy to get him some help if he is willing to
does he love you or you him
think of all these situations
Do you have children ?

Answer 6

You are asking us to make a decision that will ultimately be only yours to make. There are groups that support people who stay (ALANON). You have to decide if what you are going through is worth what you are trading for it. Goodluck

Answer 7

If the situation is hopeless, it is better to leave now, and try to get back on your feet, rather than holding on just because you need the money.

Especially if there is abuse.

Answer 8

i have a question for u. in a marriage when is enough, enough. if his alcholism is just too much for u separate first and see how he handles it. it might be what he needs to get his stuff together to know that u are serious.

Answer 9

try to assess the situation, your feelings for him, do you still love him? do you think the situation can be changed or not?If not, leave him, and try to have a new life, you deserve to be happy..even the children too..

Answer 10

Simple answer? Yes.
While you are still funding his drinking he has no reason to stop. Tough love is what he needs.