I am really suffering from break up blues ince my ex left me for somene else.Its really painfull and i dont know what to do.I wish this pain to just go away!
2007-11-26 00:15:01 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Music ➔ Blues
lisa, i know all too well how you feel. break-ups are an absolute *****. you need distraction and lots of it. do you have a girlfriend or girlfriends who you can turn to? if so, turn to them, try and organise something with them that totally takes your mind off your ex. shopping, relaxing in a spa together, watching movies while stuffing yourself with chocolates and ice cream. avoid the romantic comedies though. also avoid songs that remind you of him. classical conditioning's a *****. i'm sure your ex is hurting too and feeling guilty about leaving you for someone else, even if he doesn't admit it, but he's moved on, and you need to move on too. be strong, don't let him know you're hurting. even though i don't know you, i'm sure you're strong enough to get through this. i hope i don't sound too harsh, i don't mean to. and before you think about trying to find someone else, have some time to be single and be happy to be single. another guy will come for you when you least expect it. no i'm not gay, i'm just a very emotionally sensitive guy lol. give it a try. if you ever need any more advice, feel free to add me as a contact. best wishes
dan :)
2007-11-26 00:34:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lisa I know this is hard. Remember everything happens for a reason. This is the time to stand up and say this was a learning experience and these are the things that I am willing to deal with and not willing to deal with in my next relationship. No blues necessary. Still lots of fun to be had. Think of how the girl he is with will have to deal with the same thing someday soon. Why would you be sad that someone was not completely focused on you anyway. Today is a happy day.
2007-11-26 00:21:16 · answer #2 · answered by boucho 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way would be to keep your mind occupied with other things. If you play sports take a more active role or if you read books plunge yourself into them. Another thing it takes a while to move on so dont get into another relationship so soon. If anything take this as an opportunity to discover more about yourself and find new opportunities in life. You only live once so make the most of it and always be positive.
2007-11-26 00:21:56 · answer #3 · answered by kanenga 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say go out and meet other people, be single for a while and just have fun with a whole bunch of other people. Also think about the good and the bad in the relationship ya'll had. I had a problem like this.. me and my bf went out forever but he kept breakin up with me and i loed him SO much, i wanted him back so we kept going out and breakin up, going out and breaknig up. Soon enough i got over him when i went out and found a couple other people i liked but then narrowed it down to a guy i really liked, and we've been going out for 3 months now and still counting.
2007-11-26 00:20:46 · answer #4 · answered by Rebecca. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't dwell on it. Remove the things that remind you of your ex. Go out an reconnect with friends. Volunteer at a charity for the holidays. Don't mope around. Life's too short to think about your ex.
2007-11-26 00:18:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
IWASTHERE'S answer said everything I would recommend too.
Also, stay a year by yourself to calm down, get rid of desperation, to reflect on what went wrong. You will choose a better friend next time for the right reasons. Be patient. Take it day by day. Good luck!
2007-11-26 00:34:33 · answer #6 · answered by nancyvalentine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time heals all. It feels like someone reached into your heart and ripped a piece out, it hurts that much. 1) dont let it scar you. Love is a risk but one that is worth taking. 2) dont do anything crazy like get drunk and race around in your car. 3)just like any wound let time heal it. 4) Dont pass on your pain to someone else. I found people on the rebound often latch on to someone and that someone falls in love with them. Then the rebound person dumps them. By that act they pass on their pain to the other person. Its a bad Karma way of getting rid of the pain but it works!
Love and Life are not without risks yet the experiences are worth it. So occupy your time with exercise, and healthy endeavors and try to improve yourself.
2007-11-26 00:22:50 · answer #7 · answered by Iwasthere 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
coping is severely overrated.
I would suggest that instead you enjoy the hell out of them.
Drink large amounts of whiskey.
Aquire for yourself a good playable guitar or harp (harmonica)
Finally, get yourself an old hound dog that has a face that looks like he's been abandoned by 1,000
lovers,
And you should, in almost no time at all, be enjoying yourself, even pleasuring yourself with the sweet sounds of "audible agony".
If your really lucky, you might get "audible torment"
Don't Mention It !
2007-11-26 00:33:16 · answer #8 · answered by chuichupachichi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Going through the same thing...except my wife left me for peopoe that she has never met online.....she was addicted to cybersex and internet love affairs...although she never met any of these guys...she still left and talks to them on the phone all day....not really much you can do or say to make you feel better...you just need to get stronger each day....time will heal....But really right now....nothing you can do but just let time do its thing. If you need to talk about it...hit me up on email...
2007-11-26 00:18:46 · answer #9 · answered by Javi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is going to be differcult but you will get through it. Surround yourself with your closet friends and try your best to have fun. I would look at the good things which you have going for you right now, and use this opportunity explore other possibilities.
2007-11-26 00:21:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋