my bf of 5 years broke up with me about a month ago.... he has a new gf and they are moving really fast. i never did anything bad to him, so i know thats not why he can do this so fast. anyways, its controling my mind. i think about it when i go to sleep, wake up, eat, talk, shower... whatever im doing i think about it. wondering what i did, didnt do, need to do. its making me sick. i keep having movies in my head of them together and im constantly searching online for pictures of them together. im not a freak, or a stalker but this is making me sick.
2007-11-25 23:31:23 · 12 answers · asked by brittknee08 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
only time can heal your emotional wounds, and once that comes, you'll be ok.
closure wont come if you look for these things.
if you did nothing wrong and u were a good, honest, faithful girlfriend for 5 whole years, then i can honestly tell you that there are guys out there longing for a girl like you.
Its his loss!
his new girlfriend might cheat, or after things moving on SO quickly - they might actually be driven apart!
the grass isnt always greener!
think about getting your hair done, and going out for a new man.
aim higher, get someone better than him - make him regret splitting with you!
2007-11-25 23:43:39 · answer #1 · answered by WhyTuesday 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing you can do is block him online, dont text him, email him or call him. Give him his space while only thinking about you. Dont think about why or what you did that will only drive you crazy and chances are you did nothing. Ask yourself why you would want to be with someone who treated you this way and moved on after a 5 yr relationship and jumped into another one. Give yourself time without him in your life. This time is for you to figure out about You. If he comes back during this time, you can make a decision that suits you. If not, since you are only focusing on yourself it will help you heal and move on. Good luck!
2007-11-26 07:38:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's really hard when you break up with someone who was next to you for so much time.the first thing you should do is realise...that if he decided he wants to be with someone else...you can't do anything about it.if you really love him...let him know you want him to be happy...that maybe u should remain friends.../it sounds horrible...it is! this is life...you have to chill and I the first place love yourself...become independable.i've been there...I wanted to kill myself...got over it by saying i just need to holdon a few months until I calm down...then everything will be alright.../i couldn't sleep ether...he was everywhere.but...don't do anything stupid...because...u won't find your peace like that.
you're looking for pictures of them....to see if he really has moved on...u can't yet accept that he can.you think he's beeing blinded for the moment.
talk to thim...only once...but ask him all you need.try not to burst into tears in front of him.he won't tell you the truth...the real reason if you apear like a sensible person in his eyes.
if you don;t find you peace then..or you still have hopes...then let him be for a while...go out with friends...guys...not in a romantic way...but let him see you with someone else.if he really loved you in the past...and still does...then the moment he sees the image of you ....a cool you...not a sad one...a funny you...you having fun ...with someone else....that's when the other girls spell will break.this is true only if he's an unconscious type...an if there's love between you.
if he's really an ***...go your way.../it's said that good things come to those who wait and believe.wish you the best!
2007-11-26 07:53:13 · answer #3 · answered by Fluffy19 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey...seriously, I'm in the same boat as you. Girlfriend of a year and a half broke up and is moving real quick with another guy. All I can say is keep yourself occupied at all costs. Seriously. Get a good group of friends, and find ways to hang out with them as much as possible. Don't be afraid to talk to them about it either. Just gotta keep chugging, that's the only answer I have for you (I hope it works, for my sake too). Sorry about all that. I know how much it sucks.
2007-11-26 07:36:20 · answer #4 · answered by Patrick S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just ignore him and try to move on. I know it's difficult but it's no use to hang on to a person who fell out of love with you after 5 years and is moving very fast with the other gf. Don't even try to hit back by getting someone else but take your time and enjoy your singlehood for now and stay cool and calm.
2007-11-26 07:43:39 · answer #5 · answered by stellaz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That happens quite often. Sometimes the relationship lasts because of the comfortability, and the fact that no one else interests him. Fact is that he really did not truly love you, or he would never have moved on. He was looking for something that you did not have to give.
Just don't give your heart so easily next time.
2007-11-26 07:37:05 · answer #6 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's just a normal thing after the break up. But then stop searching for their picture together because you know it will just hurt your feelings. Things do happen for a reason i know it's hard to accept the break up but soon time will help you to forget just try to help yourself too.
2007-11-26 07:38:55 · answer #7 · answered by _______definitely rude__________ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your going to be OK..this is normal when you love some one then you give that person the power to hurt you ,, its just life..Just remember that its his loss not yours and believe me he will come knocking sooner or later but don't wait for him hes not worth it..Find a new friend ,, the sooner the better..Good Luck
2007-11-26 07:41:46 · answer #8 · answered by boscowood 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi sweetie...cry your eyes out, spend time with your friends. talk about it, get angry, throw something!...avoid being alone, because it magnifies the pain/hurt...try to stop wondering about what you did wrong, because what's done is done. no one can change it. and try to stop imagining them together. what would be the point right?...all the overwhelming pain/hurt will diminish with time. broken hearts need time. i wish you well.
2007-11-26 07:42:20 · answer #9 · answered by screech888 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1.did he really love you
2.you don’t dersive him
3.you can do better then him
4.how long is he and the girl together?
I now it is hard but get over him go out with your girlfriends get your mind of him I realy hope you do
Good luck
2007-11-26 07:40:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋