my daughter is driving me crazy!!?

Question

She is only two but she never shuts up and i cannot sit down for one minute. i play games with her, i sing to her, i read to her, i never ignore her. But she constantly demands attention and i cannot cope with it any longer. All day she will just sit there moaning at me and i make suggestions to do something together she replies : i dont want to, if i ask her to stop anything its "Why"? arrggghhh i dont know what to do to, nothing makes this child happy. She gets bored too easy!

She plays with other kids in the afternoon and even then she stands by me and complains about everything, Its too cold to go to the park, all the things are wet

to Sailortinkitty: She has learnt quite a lot for her age like she knows all her colours/counts to 20, she recognises letters and what they are, she can draw full people already and knows all her animals and the sounds they make. She is inquisitive always. She is just bored but there is nothing i can do for her. She doesnt bother with any toys that she has already.

for the person who stated i was critisizing people who gave answers i was truly not, i appreciate all the answers i have got, and my addtional details were because people asked...

Answer 1

Sounds like she needs to make some friends. Then you need to try to make friends with their parents. Then you guys can get breaks from sleep overs and group activities.

Say half the mothers stay home while half go to a fun place with the kids one day during the weekend. Then the next weekends the ones that got rest are the ones that go with the kids.

Eventurally there can be times one mother MIGHT be able to handle 4 mother's children and have a party at her house or some place set for a private event so the kids are isolated and in view. This will give the other four mothers rest.

I do not recommend these Odds for the Movies though,.. it's very horrible when you have 4-10 children being surpervised by one mother. 3 seems to be the limit,.. even if it's her own kids. When the kids are over 10, depending on the indiviuals, there is some slight chance the ratios can be adjusted. Just remember the Teenagers will not watch or take care of the younger children unless they are cute and give the teenager positive attention from other people.

Added: Is she hyper observent, inquisitive beyond your limits of answers/understanding, and/or HyperSenstive to things that effect/Inflict her? Say if she got hit by a cold chill or a drop od water,.. what would her reaction be or would there be no reaction?

Added2: I agree with her it's getting too cold to play outside. I don't know how far along into 2 she is and these can be normal behaviors to a 2 year old to an extent. But I asked you questions to find out better details about her. There is the posiblity she is a "Special" child,.. this means she may be highly intelligent and in need of a higher intelect then her "Peers" can offer. You may try haveing her tested for her intelligence. If she is Intelligent and/or has other things that make her "Special" then there may be places you can have her attend that can meet the demands of her developeing mind better then playing with toys they give to 6 month olds all day with kids that cannot carry on a conversation with her.

If you are told to give her Medication, leave the facility immediately. Medications they give to children destroy the bodies ablity to produce certain chemicals.. permenantly,.. these stop developement at certain points includeing the bones and emotions. Later on they lack the ablity to prevent themslves from killing themself and at the same time cannot get most pleasure reactions they see others are able to,.. as a result they commit suicide.

She does not sound like my range when I was her age but she is limited to what she is exposed to and may have parts of her ablities at various levels of intelligence,.. this is common with some Learning Disablities like Dislexia and ADD,.. you may be Genius in 2 areas but a couple grades behind your peers in 2 other areas.

She may have her Intelligence average in all but one area and be slightly hyperactive. This just means she needs to burn more steam during the day and is open to learning more then her peers.

Added3: If she containues to be hyper and highly intelligent to Pre-School/ First year of school... consider getting her into a Montasori (not sure I spelled that correctly). They do not have all the students doing the exact same thing on a scedual together, instead they let students bounce around. If you can't concentrate because you are a ball of energy, they will have you do something physical until you are tired, then make you do something mental while you are resting. They also can have you progress past what your grade/age say you are supposed to be in while useing stradegies for helping you work extra on things you have trouble with, so you can get your weaknesses up past where the other kids your age/grade are supposed to be and can work better with them. I have heard they can be pricey though,.. but people who sent their kids to it... their kids were worn out and satisfied by the time they got home and it was easier for them to sleep.

Answer 2

I worry about giving my 7 year old the $2 I give her to do a chore around the house! I would never trust her with $70 dollars. Children that age don't understand the concept of buying things. Maybe she doesn't realize how much money she spent. I wouldn't spank her because you let her have the money in her possession. Children are extremely impulsive and honestly I don't think it was that big of a deal. If anything, I would just explain to her that she used 20 dollars of her money and that she can't use anymore until you say it is okay to do so.

Answer 3

Your daughter has to learn that Mommy needs time to do her things, too.

Household responsibilities, reading quietly, working on things that need your time...she needs to hear from you that Mommy cannot play right now because these things need doing right now.

Assure her that you WILL play together when you are done washing the dishes and that she CAN go play without you.

Of course, she may be the Clingmonster for a while, but you must ignore her pleas. She will tire of the pleading and crying when she sees it has NO effect upon Mommy.

(This isn't showing her you don't love her. It's showing her that what you do is important and she will sometimes have to wait in life to get her way!)

Your daughter is certainly old enough to play for short stretches by herself and it's your duty to encourage that independence. Good luck!

Answer 4

my son is 3 and is literally climbing th walls all day. And screaming when i ask him to stop. I dont get it either. I can not play with him all day either. I think there are just some children that are high energy and want alot of parent time. He is very smart and I love him. I hope this is jsut a phase and they settle down some.

Answer 5

make her play alone. she doesnt need your attention every minute shes awake, let her moan and cry. she needs to learn to self entertain or you will be in for a world of trouble when she starts school. i am learning this the hard way and my son was a self entertainer. he still is but i made the mistake of playing with him too much and now he demands alot of attention at school

Answer 6

wow I can't believe she can communicate all that already. wow I wish my son was that advanced....errr maybe not :)

Sounds normal. She's advanced and bored with things the other kids are doing her age.

Make sure your getting out of the house a lot, park, playdates, mom's club etc.

Answer 7

shes in the terrible twos but what she really needs to learn is how to amuse herself and cope.if need be let her make desicions and if she still complains tell her every time thats theres a consequence for it.she has to learn copin now or things will get real bad esspecially when she enters school

Answer 8

Suedette,

I don't think you are having enough fun In your own life?. I hope you don't mind me saying so?.

You seem to me to be concentrating to much on the baby?, and guess what "She knows It Big time". You sound a "Very tie rd mum"/. Is there know body else can give you "A Wee break"?. Your two year old is "Too much In your face".Is she your only child?.
Do you think, you spoil her Too much. Get a life, she will "LOVE" you even more (If thats possible), If you are a happy mum?.

Answer 9

She must be driving your crazy, because you're snapping at all the constructive help here.

Take deep breaths. Get other people around her who can distract her so you get you the break you obviously need. And stop editing your question to critique us; otherwise, we'll just ignore you. For example, the park is a fantastic idea. Who cares if its wet? Dress her in warm, waterproof clothing. Be creative.

Answer 10

I think she needs time with other little ones take her to the park where she can play with other kids