2007-11-25 22:51:35 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Seek some professional help, you do not want to be a bad mother.
2007-11-25 22:55:36 · answer #1 · answered by Angela C 6 · 0⤊ 4⤋
Well, shouting never works. It just strikes fear into your child, which is NOT a good form of discipline. It can scar your child, as well make it so that you can never have a good relationship with her.
Fact of the matter is, you're an adult. You should be a lot more intelligent and witty than a child. You have to figure out a way to discipline her that isn't shouting, right away.
Read up on websites, I'm sure they're out there. If you don't want to seek help on the internet, read some books on child-care. Your problem is nowhere near a new one, but very fixable.
Good luck to you!
2007-11-26 07:01:30 · answer #2 · answered by Erin M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tricky - a few ideas you could try ( if you haven't already!):
Make sure you have a regular (preferably daily) break from each other - nursery school, playgroup, a friend, your mum etc.
Try to identify just what is causing the rows, and concentrate on stopping that - e.g. if she fusses about getting dressed in the morning, make that the target for the week - make her a 'star chart', and give her a star if she dresses nicely - then when she gets, say, seven stars, she can have a treat.
Make sure she isn't just bored - have plenty of interesting activities ready - friends to play, a box of games such as Lego, painting, dressing up clothes etc
If all else fails, go for a long walk in the fresh air - somewhere nice for her - the playground, pony field, duck pond etc. Don't worry too much - it may be just a phase, and she'll soon be at school!
2007-11-26 07:02:00 · answer #3 · answered by mad 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is normal to fight with your children sometimes, but if it is happening constantly, there is a problem.
You should firstly make time for the two of you to do things she likes together...If she wants to bake a cake in that hour you put aside as special time, don't complain about the mess she's making, it's "her" hour and she can mess the place up hoiwever much she likes.Afterwards, take her and let her help you clean the kitchen.
Make time for yourself as well.
Take a relaxing bath or do your nails and let her know she is not allowed to bother you in that 30 minutes or whatever...
Try to compliment her and tell her how much you appreciate the things she does right, and not to scold her for any and everything she does wrong...
If you feel there is mopre to it, seek proffesional help.
2007-11-26 07:28:10 · answer #4 · answered by jancoetzee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is she a stubborn child? You should stop talking/shouting and go into action. Watch the supernanny programmes, they are very good. You need a lot of perseverance for this, but it seems to work very well. You need a naugthy mat/chair for the child and let her sit on it for 4 mins (1 for every year she's old) after that she has to apologise for her behaviour. Are you impatient, frustrated? It could all contribute.
2007-11-26 06:57:04 · answer #5 · answered by CelesteMoone 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're the parent; so find ways to stop shouting at your daughter! You need to stop this now or it will only get worse. Read up on child development to try to understand why she is doing things that you find frustrating and see if you can't find ways around those situations.
2007-11-26 06:56:43 · answer #6 · answered by Skidoo 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This may sound daft, but try not shouting at her, try talking to her in a lower tone, my health visitor told me to do this with my 3 yr old, shouting isnt any good as they just dont listen
Good Luck and be strong
2007-11-26 07:05:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What you can do is consciously check yourself. Keep telling yourself "Be Patient, shes my child!". Evaluate the situation before you say something or give an outburst.
Try and do things with her or do things she likes. Go kite flying together, play with dolls together, dress up together and maybe try to include lessons in it too.
Like " my dear when you grow up, you have to dream big and high, like this kite" , or "Bath often, so you can be as clean as barbie!".
Dont shout too often, instead, become sterner but not angrier. Check yourself often and see if what you are doing is right.
2007-11-26 06:57:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
rather than shout at her take her out for a walk to the local shop or draw together or paint or do something fun!
your daughter probably wants some positive attention.. at the moment she is getting attention but its not the correct kind.
your giving her attention by shouting at her so she acts up more to get more attention.
try giving her attention for being good and make a fuss of her when shes not shouting...
2007-11-26 06:55:43 · answer #9 · answered by i_am_jenny24 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
My daughter is 4 as well and we have a great relationship, weather it is due to the way I disciplined her responsibly I dont know. But my girl looks up to me and listens when I rep remand. She has had a few smacks to the bum and understands her role as a child. Remember that you are the adult and parent, she must know this and react to your decisions. Hope this can help you.
2007-11-26 08:20:28 · answer #10 · answered by Douglas R 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm thirteen and have not got on with my mother recently, I do love her, its just that she's pampers me way too much, I'm the baby of the family with four very overprotective brothers. Maybe you shouldn't shout at her, just asks whats wrong or how she is feeling, my mum did with me and were really close again.
2007-11-26 07:00:26 · answer #11 · answered by jadealiesha 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋