Hi all, I got a good and lovely girl friend from Tamil nadu. Acording to their culture parents will select the groom for the girl. She is obese.
Her parents said to her that "No groom will like a over-weight girl. We won't look for groom until you reduce your weight!". They are also not ready to pay for medical therapies. But they keep on torturing her. Leave that, I don't want to discuss whether she should reduce weight or not (as i know being over-weight will cause health problems and she should definetly reduce weight).
Only thing I want to know is "Don't you guys (even one of u) like to marry a over-weight but beautiful by heart and physical girl???"
2007-11-25 22:30:24 · 28 answers · asked by saaral_s 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It's more difficult to change a mind than it is ones physical appearance. Looks mean allot but a beautiful heart mean more.
Heck, if a woman is overweight as long as she's willing to get healthier, it should not make much difference. At the same time, some men love big women so it really comes down to who you are with.
2007-11-25 22:35:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
If there were only more men like you in this world!! I'm Obese. I have a clinical problem with my weight. It is possible she might have the same, But that left there. There is no reason why you should not marry her. You could prove her parents wrong. I think you need to sit down with her parents and explain the them. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. My other half is helping me lose weight and that is more affective because now i have support. She might be the same!!
I'm so glad to know that there are still decent men around!!
Good luck. You can add me on yahoo if you like.
2007-11-25 22:37:20 · answer #2 · answered by Lize-May B 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
The reality is that people judge a person by their looks. That is a simple fact. Even when a family loves a person, they do not realize that they are also treating that person in ways that are based on looks.
I have a problem with obesity due to a medical problem. I grew up with a family that preached to me about eating habits (however they refused to change their habits in the same household). As I got older and even now (I'm 40) I hear from them that guys don't want a fat woman. And that is the words they use. I do have a problem finding guys who look beyond what is in front of their eyes.
However I have been blessed with a husband who loved me until his death and have recently found someone who is thrilled with me as I am!
So tell them that she is more important to you than her weight is and her happiness should mean more to them too.
2007-11-26 01:28:18 · answer #3 · answered by msbettyboop40 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has different tastes and levels of shallowness. Some guys prefer a girl who is larger to one they could use as a toothpick. I've never been thin and thought I'd always be single, but I found a wonderful man who loves me just the way I am, overweight and all, and we are getting married in April. We all should accept each other for who we are, not what some arbitrary standard tells us we should be.
2007-11-26 03:42:56 · answer #4 · answered by Natty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be blunt-if overweight people could not get married, then probably half of all marriages would not exist. Poor girl. I hope she'll have the guts to stand up to her parents. I don't know what culture she's from, but I always frown on any type of arranged marriage 9 times out of 10. This situations seems even more awful.
2007-11-25 22:43:31 · answer #5 · answered by HiThere 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
there is someone out there for everyone, no matter how many people say otherwise... and it depends what you mean by obese.... technically i was obese this time last year, thankfully not anymore-now just overweight. lol..
seriously though, looks are an initial factor thats true and for some narrow minded people that might be all they look for but i think its your personality that is so much more important...that is the thing you will need when things get rough in life, not the idiot standing in front of you whose gorgeous but is as fat as a twiglet...
i like people with meat on their bones but im afraid that if your friend is genuinely obese-like the people that cant leave their house then im afraid they probably wouldnt be able to find someone who could see past the end of their own nose.
its sad to say but it is becoming a fact of life.
2007-11-25 23:01:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am an over-weight, and I always thought that I would never find anyone who could love me for who I am. I did though, and he is the best thing that has ever happened to me. His mantra is that he loves me no matter what, as long as I am happy. He makes me so happy that I have begun to take better care of myself. I have lost 20 lbs since we became engaged and knowing that I have his unconditional love is part of the reason. Your friend's parents need to realize that weight is not the issue, it is the goodness and kindness a person has in their heart.
2007-11-26 04:57:59 · answer #7 · answered by Dodger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's be honest. With all of those desperate, hungry women in India that will do anything to get married, she has some tough competition. Hindu women are known for being beautiful and thin, and if she's a obese, men will reject her as they are PLENTY of women to choose from there. Given the option, men will chose the atractive, healthy woman.
Unless she comes from a wealthy family, she'll be doomed to be single forever. Sorry, but obesity is NOT cute.
Good luck
2007-11-26 01:27:38 · answer #8 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well Brother, I should ask You something. Can you sleep or eat or pass a day without remembering her face. If you can, then forget marrying. But yes if you can't then why are you asking us about fat or thin.Simple you cant live without her, so marry her.
And I wish you the very best for your life. In case you need help watch "Shallow Hal", its a movie about the problem you asked.Take care.
2007-11-27 10:39:13 · answer #9 · answered by friends4ever 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did not specify the weight and height, General mentallity among people is that any body will not like over weight girl because this will create problem in future like child birth, doing work in home, sugar problem etc.
2007-11-26 17:49:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋